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writes:A friend of mine, not the closest of my friends, but a friend nonetheless, is bothered when these girls I know flirt with me and when I flirt back. I don't do it in front of her or anything, and I don't go looking to do it either. This girl is constantly going on dates with lots of guys, talking about how many guys she has sex with regularly, feels the need to share the details, even though I don't care for them. That's her though, and i don't care what she does. I just don't need to hear about it. Then I flirt with these girls and she has a problem. She isn't always direct about it, but she is bothered by it. What a hypocrite. What is her problem?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 October 2016):
 You need to just be honest with her when she makes you feel uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI confronted her about it lately. Her need to turn everything into some dirty joke, her need to keep sharing sexual details with me. I told her I don't judge her for it, but I don't care for it either. For a person that doesn't care what anyone thinks, I haven't heard a peep from her since then about sex. Before all this, she invited me to be a 3rd wheel on her date, as if I would want that. She also "accidentally" called me daddy and asked me to go home with her. I don't care if she's from South East Asia and her English isn't perfect, I find it hard to believe either of those things come out of your mouth by "accident"
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reader, oliviaclairex  +, writes (23 October 2016):
 Maybe she likes you??
She could be telling you she goes on dates and how sexually active she is as it will maybe make you think of her in that way? Like she's boasting about guys liking her... maybe she wants to make you jealous?
I can't think of any other reason she would be annoyed at you flirting with other girls!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (22 October 2016):
I agree, it could be she is wanting to hook up with you. It really is a mystery. It would make me avoid a person sexually if they have loads of partners
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've know some people that are open about their sex life as well. She may be that way as well, but she knows I don't want to hear it so I feel like she's doing it for a reason whether it's a reassurance thing or trying to make me jealous, or whatever it may be.
The jealousy thing though. Like I would be pulled towards a girl that has lots of guys insider her, regularly. Every one has a past, but if I liked a girl, I'm not going to go up and tell her I have sex with lots of girls on the regular, whether it's true or not. It's stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2016): Who says you have to date her? If you talk to her and find out she's interested, there is nothing wrong with the two of you having and occasional fling or booty call.
Neither of you are seeing anyone else, so there is no moral issues with it. Just stay safe and use protection.
If she is half the crazy freak in bed thatbshe says she is, it could be a hell of an experience for you both.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 October 2016):
Yes you are right a huge red flag. Maybe she has low confidence in herself, and she is looking for reassurance from you. Either way off course you don't want to hear about her sex life so just kindly ask her not to tell you intimate details. As for not wanting to be with her romantically that is okay. Just keep reassuring her you see her as a good friend. It could be she is just very open about her sex life, I know people who are also like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't ever assume what is on a woman's mind. I've done that before and I've been wrong and if I'm not wrong, they just deny it anyway
She isn't making me jealous though. I mean, I don't particularly like hearing about her sexual affairs, but there is no reason why I should like hearing about it. I don't even ask her about them. I don't judge her for it, I just don't need to hear about it. Always feeling the need to talk about that or about how much of a freak she can be.
She's been there for me, so it's not that I don't like her, but I would never be with someone with her mentality. Plus, she basically said she cheats because ALL women cheat on their men, so if I was to be with her, she would cheat and she has in the past, so, that's a red flag anyway.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 October 2016):
It sounds like she might have a crush on you, I mean surely that has crossed your mind before now?
She is trying to make you jealous by telling you other guys are interested in her sexually. Then she is jealous when you flirt with other girls and not her.
Is this someone you might have feelings for? If not then try letting her down gently.
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