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The 40 Year Old (Almost) Virgin

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

30 September 2014 (M) - Hey Aunties! I turned 41 years old this year and while I am not a virgin I am close! Back in college (1992-1993) I did have a gf that I had sex with for about 6 months but that has been the extent of my lifetime sexual activity. Women just aren'...

Attended his farewell party. Should I tell this guy that I don't want to hook up with him again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I hooked up with a dude acquaintance/friend at his goodbye party. My question is, he let me know he's coming back to town for a visit this coming weekend and I don't really want things to go down that path again. Is that something I shou...

Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet ...

Are there major differences to how I touch a guy who is uncut versus cut? have never been with an uncut guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I've been on a few dates with this guy, who I am pretty interested in, and as we've went along, we've started to get a little hotter and heavier with every interaction. Well, I've wanted to maybe progress the makeout sessions to a handjob, but I fo...

Feeling resentment because of sex in otherwise great relationship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half, and since we go to the same university, we spend most of our time together and are very close (she was my best friend before we went out). However, when it comes to sex, I am starti...

Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone whil...

Sex with Guy at work. Do I try to dodge her questions or tell her the truth, and lose her as a friend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - So a few weeks ago I had sex with a guy that I work with, it was just a one time thing as we are just friends and I was leaving the job and we both wanted to have sex with each other. However now I feel really guilty as one of my close friends real...

Has my GF moved on, or can I restart and save our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - Hey friends..my gf has been annoying me for the last few weeks. she has also been spending time with a new male friend, because i refused to have sex with her last time as i was not feeling well. Is she teasing me or something else?please do sugge...

We've lost our mojo. He's no longer affectionate. How can we revitalise our 13 year marriage? .

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi Cupid. I have a relationship question. My husband isn't very affectionate and is embarrassed my romantic gestures even when I make them. We have been married for 13 years and I feel like we've lost our mojo so to speak. Couples counsel...

Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been officially BF/GF for 4 months but have been dating for 6 months. He is 28 and I am 23. My boyfriend says he isn't like every other guy. He respects the idea of making love and prefers to have sex spontaneously. H...

I have a higher libido than my husband does, and it's starting to frustrate me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - I have been married for about five years. I seem to have a higher libido than my husband does. I am really beginning to feel the frustration of him not being in the mood as much as I am. Of course I can please myself and often do, but it is so ...

My LDR has admitted to ongoing cheating. Do I fight for us or sit back while he leaves me for the other girl?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years just told me he cheated on me...by text message. He met this girl, got her number, has been hanging out with her, going out in groups, hanging at her house, and having sex with her. He told me and seemed to think that since ...

Why are people trying to match make? I enjoy flirting and dating but no exclusively. But don't want to be available for sex. Is that so difficult?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Please help me! I am so sick of people trying to play match maker but every group of friends I've had and even random co workers and relatives and people I go to church with are always trying HARD to set me up with someone. I have had a lot ...

I think our sex life is great! How can I show him that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Hi guys ive been with my partner for 6 years and we have a great sex life. We have sex about 9 times a week depending on how often we meet. He has a problem with premature ejaculation. However this doesnt mean he cannot satisfy me and he does almost ...

Why is my husband so insecure about his size?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - My husband and I have great sex but he still thinks he is too small. It is a tight fit and I have to be really turned on in order for it to be comfortable. Even more so now that I am pregnant, my third baby his first. He cums really fast most of the ...

My straight friends sleeps in the same bed with me and masturbates. Why does he do this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3698 days ago

25 September 2014 (M) - Hi, I'm confused. I'm gay, my best friend is aware of this. It's not really an issue. He's straight. When we were younger, before I came out, we used to watch straight porn together. Which I don't think is uncommon for teenage boys. And, ...

My fiance has lied to me and I've lost trust in her. Can this be fixed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3714 days ago

25 September 2014 (M) - My Fiancée and I have been together for over a decade and have had two kids together. Like most relationships, we've had our ups and downs. A lot brought on by me working away from home and perhaps not doing as much around the house when I get ...

I feel like I can't compete with my boyfriend's threesome! Should I tell him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, I have gotten myself into a really, really stupid situation here. My boyfriend and I have been in a very passionate and loving relationship for about two months and I'll just skip the part where I tell you all how perfect everythi...

After 2 months of dating should I ask him where he thinks things are headed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

24 September 2014 (F) - I went on a first date with a guy I'm currently seeing 2 months ago. We hit it off straight away and have been out together about 15 times since then over the last 2 months. We get on really well and there is a lot I like about him. I have spen...

My FWB guy said I love you..was it just post sex emotion?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - 4 years ago I had a brief fling with a guy. It didn't work out but it was good while it lasted. About 6 months ago we bumped into each other after a night out and exchanged numbers. Since then we've had a fwb situation going on. We spoke about it ...

My girlfriend is never horny anymore!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - so ive been dating this girl for 2 years things are going okay besides the fact that we argue so much and she is very immature at times .. But anyways i really been stressing because we've always had sex every single day almost multiple times aday ...

Why doesn't my boyfriend want sex more often?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - When I first met my boyfriend it was in a "business only" relationship. At that time he was in a "bad relationship", that was pretty much sexless, that took him three years to finally get out of. When I first met him I liked him very much as a ...

I don't like my boyfriend's belly!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and I have a problem with him physically. He is 6 feet tall and has nice big arms, which I like, but he has a huge belly from years of living a sedentary life style. He's 22. He used to be ...

My boyfriend doesn't like me having a sex toy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3718 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - Hi, so I recently brought some sex toys for myself because my boyfriend and I were too busy to have sex. It was one of the artificial butt toys and I like it a lot. I made the mistake of telling him and now he's very upset about. There are some thi...

LDR since Dec 2013. Plan to see each other in 2015. So why did she get upset about talk on intimacy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3718 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - Hello, My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since Dec 2013. We met online and in one month, we will finally meet in person. She will introduce me to her family and relatives, and well even be going to an island resort fo...

My boyfriend lies and tells me he doesn't watch porn. My self esteem is at an all time low

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3698 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - Me and my partner have regular and amazing sex, we experiment and I have sexy outfits aswell n rolplay......I found out afew months ago he watches porn, I hate the stuff and I've had a lot of bad relationships becuz of it.....he knows how I feeling ...

I had sex for the first time last night but didn't feel any pleasure and went really quickly!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

22 September 2014 (M) - Hello all please help me please, i am a male and i started masturbating on the 24th of september 2013 sometimes i do it 3times a day sometimes its only 2times and sometimes once a day , sometimes i can go for 2weeks without masturbating and i don't ...

Do many people have one night stands?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - I am single 29 years old now. 3 years ago, i joined filipinocupid site because of curiosity. I uploaded my photo and i got many interest from different men so it excites me and started exchanging messages to those guys i got interest with. After 3 ...

How can he love me when he's not interested in sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3719 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - Hi, I have been friends with a guy for 5 years, he says he loves me but I find it hard to believe him coz he seems to be interested in sex. What should I do ...

The ex: should I be concerned that I have been told that I am not "good in bed" ?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Dear Aunts, My worst fear has come true. I was told I was bad in bed he said I'm not freaky enough. I like romantic slow passionte sex he likes rough play. I feel like I cant do the things he wants so the connection is fading away in other dept ...

If I resume with my original BF (who cut contact for months) will he be able to tell that I had sex with a bigger guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3720 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I have a boyfriend but he went abroad in jan 2014 and he hasn't contacted me anymore. After 4 months, I called him and asked if we're still together, he said yes. So i still hope that we will still continue to communicate but he never chatted ...

Ever since the abortion I haven't been interested in sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. After the first year I accidentally got pregnant and had an abortion, at the aame time suffering depression. Since then, I haven't been able to have sex with my boyfriend/the amount we ...

What is the difference (for you guys) if she swallows?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - Guys, can you explain this to me? Is it important to you that when a woman goes down on you, she lets you cum in her mouth and swallows it? What is the difference if she doesn't swallow? Is that a mind thing or something physical? A male friend once ...

Should end our relationship now, or try one more time to save it? She doesn't want children.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - My partner and I have been together almost 4 years. However our sex life has been non existent for about a year now. I've tried talking to her about it but nothing ever really comes of this. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it is a...

He slept with 2 other women while we weren't official and I can't get past it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - I met this guy in the states this winter whom i started dating. He is from Australia and we hit it off and had a thing for about 3 months then he left back to Australia. We discussed that it would be dumb for us to be together because were in two ...

Tips for first time oral sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

19 September 2014 (M) - hey ladieas i wanna favour from you..me and my gf are planning to go for oral for the first time..please tell me what caution should i take and how i could make this more pleasurable for my gf.....

How do I make myself stop watching porn to get off?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

18 September 2014 (?) - I'm straight but I watch lesbian porn to get off, I have don't it like 5 times now and feel that I might be addicted and when I have sex with my boyfriends, who doesn't know about it, one who knows me does. I feel like I have to think about it to ...

My husband wants sex every day and I'm afraid it will destroy our marriage!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3724 days ago

17 September 2014 (F) - I feel that sex is going to destroy my marriage. We've been married 3 years, together 6. In the beginning we would have sex every day, sometimes twice or more a day, quite healthy, occasionally somewhat adventurous sex. 6 years on, a big mortgage, ...

Involved with flat mate and not sure what to do about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3724 days ago

17 September 2014 (F) - I wrote in yesterday about having an affair with my flat mate he's 28 I'm 44 he came to see me yesterday to use my toilet he came out the bathroom belting up his trousers I couldt help but look he then said why was I looking at him we then was play ...

Is is possible for a married woman to turn into a lesbian?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3724 days ago

17 September 2014 (M) - I am married for 7 years. Lately I shared some lesbian porn with my wife and my wife found out that it really turns me on. My wife after a day or two asks me if I would want her to become a lesbian, but with a condition that once she gets into girls ...

How do I delicately put it to him and encourage him to want to please me in bed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. I have started dating a guy, been a few weeks now. We get on so well, chatting, going out, staying in, chemistry is great. But there is one problem who potential problem. He hasn't been able to make me orgasm yet. I do not ...

Is the older guy I've been seeing really even into me? (a little explicit)

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3725 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - Hi everyone! So I have been seeing a new guy for about two months that I met online. He is pretty awesome, has a great personality, and is very handsome. He is about 15 years my senior (I am of legal age, 21), never married and has no kids. He ...

Should I stay and try to work things out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3727 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - I am engaged, but my fiancée is asking me to do things I don't want to do. I still love him and I want to be with him, but he keeps asking me to do things I cannot do. He likes for me to go to bars and dance with strange men while dressing very ...

I feel she was leading me on and then she pulled the carpet out from under my feet!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3726 days ago

14 September 2014 (M) - A long time female friend, (know her 50 years) and I both divorced. We date as friends. During one of our dates she talked about sex. She told me she hasn't had sex in 7 years. It kind of sounded like an invitation, so I asked her if she'd have sex ...

Did I push this man too much or did he just get what he wanted?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3728 days ago

13 September 2014 (F) - About four months ago a guy I knew from years ago became friends on facebook. We have mutual friends and I live abroad and he lives in my hometown. Immedtiately in becoming friends he told him he was separated from his wife and that he had a daught...

When will sex start becoming fun and romantic and not sore and awkward? How many more times must I endure the pain until it 'fades away'?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

12 September 2014 (F) - I've recently started having sex with my boyfriend. He's had countless of sexual experience while I've had none before him. I'm very open with him and we're both open to discussion and learning. The 'inexperienced' thing didn't bother him. So a...

Do you think I should've had sex with him?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3730 days ago

11 September 2014 (F) - Please help me!!! I had been going out with this guy for 2 years until he dumped me round 7-8 months ago. The reason for this was because he asked me if I'd have sex with him and I said no because we're waaayyy too young, (we're both 13) He sai...

My boyfriend's sexual drive is waaaay higher than mine!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3728 days ago

11 September 2014 (F) - Hello everyone, I need your advice. Im 20, my boyfriend is 22. We are in a relationship for a year now. My boyfriend is the first guy I slept with and I love him more than anyone on this world. The thing is, his sexual drive is waaaay bigger t...

Do I need to tell guys that I don't shave down there?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

11 September 2014 (F) - Same person who just wrote in about starting over sexually I just thought this was different enough for a new entry--I don't like to shave or really even trim my bush, I do very minimal maintenance.Once you're at that crossroads, where you're ...

Need help trying to start over sexually

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3730 days ago

11 September 2014 (F) - I'm recently out of a long term relationship. We had been sexually stagnant, possibly incompatible. Early on there was pressure to orgasm and he would leave angry if it didn't work, or there'd be some let down and sometimes crying. This was years ...