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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I feel that sex is going to destroy my marriage. We've been married 3 years, together 6. In the beginning we would have sex every day, sometimes twice or more a day, quite healthy, occasionally somewhat adventurous sex. 6 years on, a big mortgage, massive work commitments and a child and two or three times a week is enough for me. My husband however has other ideas. Not only does he want it every day, sometimes twice a day, but he wants to go for a good hour or more every time and he's pushing the boundaries further and further. I've tried speaking to him at least a dozen times about it and tried to be sensitive to his needs but he just doesn't seem to get it and seems to think it means I'm becoming less attracted to him. I don't want something so ridiculous to cause a big problem. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 September 2014):
 Perhaps he's going on extreme on the sex because he has stress and he needs to vent with his body. I would demonstrate the effect it has on the family if you go on a twice a day routine, each an hour long. First you would be too tired to take care of your child. The child becomes restless and unruly. The house will be a mess and dinner will be sloppy. Your vagina sores and then you cry in pain. You complain to him and get dramatic about getting an infection.
Not telling you you have to do this but perhaps this is the only way to shake him up and get him to see reality. And hopefully, he will notice a problem and come up with the solution himself to cut down on the frequency.
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