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writes: I'm straight but I watch lesbian porn to get off, I have don't it like 5 times now and feel that I might be addicted and when I have sex with my boyfriends, who doesn't know about it, one who knows me does. I feel like I have to think about it to make myself cum and I really want to stop it ! As I stopped him from watching porn when I had never watched it myself. And the thought of him watching it make me dislike him. I'm so confused I need to make myself stop watching it, how do I go about doing that ?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 September 2014):
 Oh coe on, It's not that big of a problem now is it. For all you know he looks at lesbian porn too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2014): Well then in that case you have to decide whether he is a good match for you. I wouldn't be happy if I was in a relationship with someone who I am not attracted to. And maybe his attitude about stuff, like being controlling, close-minded and judgmental is off-putting to you and that is a big reason why you are looking into other things to get off.
Re evaluate your relationship. You deserve to be happy.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (19 September 2014):
So? He doesn't get to dictate how you feel, or who you are. He sounds horribly immature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend hate the idea of me with anyone girl or boy and is very against me bring even bi
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2014): Same here. It's just a fantasy. Your bf would probably enjoy watching with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2014): Why don't you try being with a girl to see if you like it? I mean sure getting off on porn is fantasy but the sexual desire and attraction you feel for women is absolutely real. There was a brief period I thought I liked girls. I had just broken up with my ex boyfriend, perhaps I was jaded, but similar to you, I felt attracted to girls. So I decided to be with a girl to see if it was for me. We made out, we got naked. And to be frank, I didn't like it. I wasn't as turned on as I thought I would be. In fact, I found myself struggling to be turned on and doing the opposite you did. In my head I was wishing I was with a boy, instead. But it was awesome because it made me realize that I am not a lesbian and that I do like men. But if I had never experimented it would probably still be a question mark in my head. Perhaps it would even affect all my relationships in the future. But now I have that experience to compare my current hetero sex life to, which is amazing. That is why they say, live to the fullest and experiment before you settle down. That way you discover things about yourself, know who you truly are and figure out what you truly like. My current boyfriend knows about it. In fact, we were friends when this happened, it was right before we started dating. The good news is guys tend to be open minded about girls experimenting with girls. He was really cool about it. He told me it is perfectly normal for girls to experiment. I think this is something you should try. It is going to keep eating at you until you quell your desires. Almost every girl I know has experimented with bisexuality. Not in porn but in real life. Some love it, some don't. The bottom line is that there is nothing wrong with experimenting. You could talk to your boyfriend about it. Or go about doing it on your own. But I think however you decide to go about it, you should try it.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (18 September 2014):
Why do you feel ashamed about it. Plenty of straight women enjoy it (I'm one). It is just fantasy, personally I don't feel there's anything wrong with it.
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