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writes:My partner and I have been together almost 4 years. However our sex life has been non existent for about a year now. I've tried talking to her about it but nothing ever really comes of this. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it is a major part, it's where you connect and bond and feel the love you share for one another. I'm just wondering should I try talk to her one more time to save our relationship? She also doesn't want kids and I do, I just need to figure out if our relationship can progress or are we at a stand still and should move on in our separate ways? It's just so hard when you love someone to just leave if you don share the same future dreams.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 September 2014):
 . And she did not want to hurt you either, but you are not right for each other.
She may be an amazing person in your eyes , and / or she may be an amazing person objectively , but she can't / does not want to give you two things that are very important to you : sex, and children.
So, leaving may be difficult- but I'd think that STAYING would be more difficult ? knowing that it will totally deprive of two things you really care about.
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reader, totallylost86 +, writes (21 September 2014):
totallylost86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Cerberus, I guess love is never enough if you don't share the same future dreams. I'm just finding the thought of going our separate ways extremely difficult. She is an amazing person who has always been here for me since day one.. She is one of the very few genuine people left in this world.. I don't want to hurt her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): No sex for a year and talking hasn't resolved that and if you stay with this woman you can never have kids.
That's the situation and after 4 years of being with her you know that's not going to change.
The choice you have is between continuing to live in a miserable hope that this woman will somehow change and give you what want in life or pack your bags and move on.
OP love isn't enough, it's not making you happy on its own.
You want different things in life and for the past year you've had more a friendship than a relationship, so maybe it's time to make it a permanent friendship instead.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 September 2014):
 These types of things ned to be ferrted out before you get married. Now it's too late so you have to file for a divorce. Better luck next time.
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