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Archived questions from: September, 2005 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

I'm revolted by the idea that my husband had sex with his cousin...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6131 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - My husband told me that he had sex with his cousin 3 years before he met me. I'm totally sickened by it. They are in their 40's. My husband still wants to hang with her. I want nothing to do with her. I think they both were disgusting, but I ...

The man I'm dating seems to have had an ample sexual history...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6971 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - I have been seeng somone for a few months who seems to care about me but he has been telling me things about his past that I am finding it impossible to digest. He married his first wife at 22 and at 34 had an affair with her sister who came to ...

A year ago, he said he's wait for sex until we were married. Now it's like he hates me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6972 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - I'm 20 and he is 32. Me and my boyfriend have been off and on for a year and a half. We met at work and he says he felt in love with me the first time he saw me. He knew he wanted to marry me. Then I told him that I was a virgin and wanted to wait ...

Sex gives me uncomfortable flashbacks of finding myself pregnant!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6116 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant by a man who I’d been seeing for 9 months. He said that he would wait until I was ready before we had sex but one night on my birthday he took me out to a club, he got me drunk and took advantage of me. I ...

I'm always the one to initiate sex with my boyfriend. The lack of intimacy is driving me mad!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6123 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - I don't understand....my boyfriend never seems to be in the mood. I ask him if anything is wrong....I try to get him in the mood, and that usually doesn't work. I am usually a very affectionate person, but this lack of intimacy makes me feel like ...

My brother molested me, but I'm ashamed to admit it happened!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5777 days ago

29 September 2005 (M) - Hi, my name is Jamie. I am 16 years old. My big bro (20 years old) molersted me when I was 10. I thought it was OK at the time because he said it was, but now that I'm older I realised it's NOT. I'm awfully embarrassed about this, but it can't be...

Did we screw up by sleeping together before we get married?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6984 days ago

29 September 2005 (F) - Hi! Okay it's like this. I'm 24 librian and he's 35 librian. Both single and both been with 3 partners each. I have been very good friends with this man for 5 years no but only together 7 weeks. During this time we have always had a connecti...

Are my problems with sex and intimacy a result of my abuse?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6516 days ago

29 September 2005 (?) - My world changed when I was 12. I was sexually abused by my mum's boyfrend. Nobody knows and they're still together now. Only thing is I find it really hard to open up to people. I often sit in my room by myself. There's so many thngs in my head ...

We weren't really together, but it still hurt that he'd have sex with someone else!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6984 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - I have known this guy for five years. We were off and on. He had sex with this other girl. We weren't together but we still hooked up, and I told him if he ever did that I wouldn't talk to him ever again. I found out that he lied to me and that...

Anyone got any really wild sexual suggestions for me and my boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6952 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - Hello, I know this might not be the best place to ask a question like this but I'm needing some help! I have been in a relationship for a number of years, and we have always had great bedroom chemistry. After a few years I guess you grow out of ...

I think my girlfriend might have had a sexual relationship with her half-brother!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6984 days ago

28 September 2005 (M) - I recently went through my girlfriends emails, which I know was wrong but I suspected something sick was going on. I found emails from her half brother from before we got together suggesting they were having a sexual relationship. It was consensua...

Desperate to have sex, but terrified of STIs. Am I pathetic?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6971 days ago

28 September 2005 (?) - Hi, I'm Jack from England. A statistic I read up on said that "1 in 9 people in England has had an STI". For that reason and the scary stuff about STI's being on the increase I'm scared to have sex, yes it means im still a virgin at 18 1/2 and it ...

How could I be so stupid? I had sex with an older guy, because I really thought he liked me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6263 days ago

27 September 2005 (?) - I feel so stupid. I met this guy as soon as our eyes met we flirted. He got my number and we started texting each other. He called me 'gorgeous' and said he wanted me. A week later, I followed him home. Once inside we started snogging and things got ...

Things were great at first. Now he's quiet and tired and the sex has disappeared...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6984 days ago

27 September 2005 (F) - I've been with my fella for 9 months. Everything was great at first but recently things have changed. He doesn't seem to make the effort and with regards to sex, he won't unless I initiate it. I love him dearly, he's 38, I'm 26. He's a quiet pe...

I had another sexual experience after she said to "get it out of my system." Now she doesn't trust me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6986 days ago

27 September 2005 (M) - Hi, I have dated someone on and off for about two years. During the summer we happened to bump into each other again. We started to hang out again, things became more serious and I told her that I loved her. However, the problems from the ...

How can I give him the unmistakable message that I'd love oral sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6986 days ago

27 September 2005 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a number of months now. I really care for him, and our relationship is perfect....well almost. We have sex most days, and although the sex itself is fantastic he hasn't once given me oral sex. I don't know ...

My fiance is gorgeous and I love him; I just don't feel sexual around him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6986 days ago

26 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my fiance for a year. We live together and plan to marry next year. I just dont feel sexual with him. He is gorgeous and I love him dearly but I don't get turned on by him. He is getting frustrated and says it's OK but it's driving ...

I think I'd be ready for sex with my boyfriend, if only I didn't have to show him my naked body!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6962 days ago

25 September 2005 (F) - I am so scared of showing my boobs or downstairs to my bf. I am 18 and I'm ready to get phyical with my bf who I have been seeing for about 6 months but I'm so scared of showing him my body. I feel fat and I think that my body isn't good enough. My ...

Three times a week isn't enough. My husband says I should "do whatever it takes" to make him happy.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6987 days ago

24 September 2005 (F) - My husband wants sex all the time. The problem is I don't. I love him deeply and am frustrated I don't feel sexual. I've tried explaining this to him but all he says is if you love someone you will do whatever it takes to make them happy. He has ...

Why does he send me hot, sexy messages AFTER I leave, instead of when I'm with him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6964 days ago

24 September 2005 (F) - I am a 48 year woman that is involved with a 33 year man. We have been friends for a year and just began a sexual relationship when he moved an hour away. He send emails telling me he wants hot, loving sex, massages etc., but when we are together ...

A Catch-22: Inexperience with women makes me hesitant to try dating!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6960 days ago

23 September 2005 (M) - Hello basically I'm a 22 year old male who has never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship. This is really affecting my life and my confidence. I am good looking but I lack self esteem I am also very nervous because of my sexual inexperience. ...

Help put my mind at rest: How long does sperm last for outside the body?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 5434 days ago

23 September 2005 (M) - This is a silly question to ask but i'm sure im not the only one that has thought about this. How long does sperm last for, once its out of your body? the other day i masturbated in the shower, and i was really paranoid about cleaning everyth...

He says he'll never cheat, but in the next breath tells me he craves "crazy sex" with other women!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6989 days ago

23 September 2005 (F) - I really need some advice. I don't know what to think anymore. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. He is 25 and I am 21. In the past my boyfriend has slept with a lot of woman. Probably almost up to 100... We have a very...

Walked in on my husband with the Page Three girl and I need reassurance that all men do this...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6848 days ago

23 September 2005 (F) - I know all men masturbate and have had numerous conversations with my Partner about this, he always said he never did it if I was in the house. Recently I was still quite sleepy so he got up to have a shower. I decided to get up shortly after and ...

Isthis 'no-strings' sex relationship just a midlife crisis?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6976 days ago

23 September 2005 (F) - Hi I'm a 42 year old woman. I'm not too happy in my relationship with my partner of 15 years. I had an affair early in the year, but ended it as the man was married. Now I've joined a website for married people. Well I met this young man on there bu...

Sex is a distant memory since we had the baby...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6991 days ago

22 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my partner for nearly two years now. Sex was great in the beginning but faded out quickly. We now have a ten month old baby, but I can't bring myself to sleep with my partner anymore. I know I love him and couldn't be without him, ...

Our relationship seems to be fading... and fast! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6991 days ago

21 September 2005 (F) - The first few months or so of my relationship he used to phone or at least send sweet good night texts every day. This stopped and seemed as though we wouldn't talk unless it was me that called. We didn't have sex for about 3 weeks and he said that ...

We're friends with benefits, but I'm ready for more than that. Should I tell him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6667 days ago

21 September 2005 (F) - Confused about my relationship with someone who is an friend and lover. I have been friends with this guy that started out as no strings attached. We are great friends now. I have grown to love him. I never told him that. I love him so much that...

Great guy... not-so-great sex! What about me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6993 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - Hi...I have been with the same guy for a while now...a little over three years. I love him and want to marry him someday. We have talked about a future together and kids...the whole deal. My problem is in the bedroom. I have never met a guy ...

I knocked back most of my ex's sexual requests, but he wants us to meet again! Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6994 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I recently met up with a very old flame, who I am trying not to think of as the love of my life. He wanted to show me his new house and we both knew where it would end up. However, his demands began with oral sex and got more extreme, and included ...

We haven't had sex yet and suddenly he doesn't even seem interested in the topic...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6994 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I have been in a relationship with this guy for about 8 months. He is 36 and I'm 21, so there is a real age gap. Neither of us have had a lot of luck with relationships, in fact, he has been married before. When we first started dating we would me...

Oh no... I got drunk and had sex with my brother!

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 6129 days ago

18 September 2005 (F) - I am twenty nine years old. Last summer my ex husband had the kids away on holidays and I went to stay with my brother for a couple of days. His wife and kids were away. We went to a party and we both drank a lot, when we came home we drank a bottle ...

He only rings up at the last minute. Am I just a booty call?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6995 days ago

18 September 2005 (F) - I'm an emotional wreck! I am 47, divorced and have been seeing someone for a little over a year. He is 44, never married, but lived with someone for 9 yrs, he has been on his own for 6yrs. He stated from the beginning that he did not want a ...

I've never had a long-term relationship. Is it because they want sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6989 days ago

18 September 2005 (?) - I'm 18 and a virgin and also never had a girlfriend. I am always meeting with girls and dating them, I always decide not to rush into things too quickly, so I never become bf/gf with someone over night. I never make the first move and I never sugg...

My new girlfriend and I have tried everything, but we just can't get her off!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6878 days ago

18 September 2005 (M) - With every single ex-girlfriend I've had the sex has been explosive to say the least...absolutely fantastic. My newest and hopefully last girlfriend, who I love so so so much and me don't seem to have the same spark in the bedroom, even though I...

He upsets me and I feel awful, but I'm still sleeping with him. Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6852 days ago

15 September 2005 (F) - I am 19 years old and recently met a man who I really liked a lot even though I was warned against. Instead of taking the advice I continued seeing him anyway. After 4 months of seeing him, I decided to sleep with him but he is the 1st person I...

Sex with my older guy isn't as good as sex with a guy my own age!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6995 days ago

15 September 2005 (F) - I've recently started dating a new guy and I really like him. We waited a while before we had sex, as I was with someone else when we met and fell for each other. Now we're together but something isn't as I thought it would be. I'm 18 and my ex...

No libido at all! Is it my contraceptive device or something else?

This question has 29 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

15 September 2005 (F) - I'm a 19 yr old. I have been with my boyfriend sixteen months. I'm curently on nuvaring a birth contol viginal ring. However I have no libido. I have no desire whatsoever. What could be wrong with me?...

My girlfriend seems cooler to me. She's pulling away and sex is less frequent...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6031 days ago

14 September 2005 (M) - Hi, ive been left slightly worried over the past few months by some antics of my girlfriend, i really want to ask her but ive already let her down as i looked at some of her personal stuff as i had questions on my mind that i couldnt get answers for ...

Plenty of sex with my boyfriend, but no orgasms while we're at it. What's wrong?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5641 days ago

14 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I have never achieved an orgasm during sex. He has made me orgasm using his hands and usually after sex he will "finish me off". This is always nice but lately I've been feeling a bit turned off and fed ...

There's no sexual chemistry in our relationship. Is that because I don't have orgasms with my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7000 days ago

13 September 2005 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Lately, I have noticed that their was something big missing in our relationship. My boyfriend and I discussed this matter and he actually made me realize what it is, it's sexual chemistry that is ...

Sex. Should we do it drunk or sober?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7000 days ago

13 September 2005 (M) - When me and my partner are drunk she wants to act sexually, but I would prefer to do so being sober. What's your opinion?...

We had a great time in bed, but I never orgasmed, and I want to know why not...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7000 days ago

13 September 2005 (F) - OK, this is sort of embarrassing so that's the only reason I haven't mentioned my name. I have been feeling shitty recently. Problems with a guy I love or thought I loved. I went and fooled around with someone I don't know. Basically I felt tra...

What can I do about unwanted erections?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

12 September 2005 (M) - I get erections all the time and it gets bothersome when we are just hugging. What can I do to calm things down?...

After a really bad experience, I lack the confidence to try things in bed to please my fiance!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7001 days ago

12 September 2005 (F) - I could do with a little advice or pointing to some helpful sites. I have a wonderful fiance who I love very much but he feels he's not good enough for me or that I don't find him attractive as I'm too scared to try anything in bed. I was in an ab...

When I walked in, a friend was flashing my husband!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6973 days ago

11 September 2005 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have always had a good sex life, and I don't mind him looking at girls, just not touching. We had some friends over one night (a couple) and the girl went to the master bathroom knowing my husband ...

We did..well, almost everything! Now I'm scared I might have caught something!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7001 days ago

11 September 2005 (F) - I gave myself to a guy on the very first time I met him. I mean, not everything but almost. I never gave him everything cos I'm a virgin but it still feels weird. It's not the kind of thing I'd usually do. It's actually the first time I went so far. ...

My wife wants to "do" me with a strapon... Surely to God this isn't natural?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

9 September 2005 (M) - me and my wife have a good sex life but she wants to try anal on me with toys then a strapon we like to try new things but her doing it to me doesnt seem natural. if we do try anyone got any advice on best strapon(small plz) best lube and best ...

Interested in trying swinging, but apprehensive about how it might affect our relationship!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6959 days ago

9 September 2005 (M) - My wife recently declared an interest in trying sex with another girl. It got me interested me as the girl in question is sexy and apparently available and I would shag her without any problems. The girl also suggested that her husband joined in. M...

I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!

This question has 140 answers - newest was posted 6093 days ago

9 September 2005 (F) - I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...