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writes: I have known this guy for five years. We were off and on. He had sex with this other girl. We weren't together but we still hooked up, and I told him if he ever did that I wouldn't talk to him ever again. I found out that he lied to me and that he did that. I told him I would talk to him in time and be his friend but I needed time to get over him. He gave it a week and called like nothing was wrong. I was acting kinda like I didnt really care about him, so he said I'll just let you go because it made him mad. I called him back which I should not have done and tried to explain not to get the wrong impression. Now he is acting like it's whatever and I dont care. But how do I get him to regret doing that to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (29 September 2005):
 Yeap, you got that right. You went wrong when you decided to call him. You shouldve just left it as it was and make him crawl back to you. The only way you're ever gonna make him regret doing that to you is by ignoring him, for real!! Telling him that you dont care is not enough. You have to action it out as well! He knows you still love him and is scared to lose him so is using that agaisnt you. He says whatever now, but give it 2 months without talking to him, I honestly believe he's gonna start calling you again. I think you should just tell him to bugger off for now if you want to make him feel guilty for what he's done. However, having said that, I dont really think what he did was wrong as you both werent together at that time were you? But i do understand how ure feeling now so think about what Ive just said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): you cant get him to regret doing that to you. You can try, but you wont win. He has to convince him self that what he did to you was wrong and he should regret it, but with situations like this, guys dont give a hoot about females. Its obvious that you 2 were on two completly different levels in this friends with benefits relationship. He wanted you and every other female, you wanted him and only him, and you wanted him to only want you and only you. Thats honestly how it was. You should of straight up told him how you felt and how he hurt you. Dont hide your feelings. Thats being fake, and not being you. I've explained my point of view. From now on, be honest bout how you feel and dont be fake
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): You can't make someone regret something that they don't. My man and I were sleeping together but not officially together. I told him that I didn't want him sleeping with anyone else. We became official two months later then six months later he confessed that he slept with another girl right at the beginning. I was devastated but he didn't see it as a big deal. The only thing he thought was a big deal was that he lied. Honey, you have to realise with guys if its only casual then they think they can sleep with some one else. I struggled to get over it as hated the idea. Absolutely hated the idea of him sleeping with someone else. Either you forgive him or don't. If you decide to then work out whether its exclusive or not.
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