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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for a number of months now. I really care for him, and our relationship is perfect....well almost. We have sex most days, and although the sex itself is fantastic he hasn't once given me oral sex. I don't know about you but I really enjoy a man going down on me, and don't feel sex is sex without it. I have given him oral sex many times, and hinted that I would love the favour returned but it's just never happened. I don't want to just shout it out to him but its getting quite fustrating now as I haven't orgasmed since we started having sex.Please help.............
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2005): i dont think its a good idea to mention my x........its his friend! we are goin on holiday tomorrow for a week, so if it still hasn't hapened whilst we are away im gonna SCREAM!!!!!! The problem with my boyfriend is he never asks me to give him head....he just really appreciates it when i do.
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reader, MissMo +, writes (27 September 2005):
When it comes to things of this nature, it's best to talk about it. As previous responses have stated, hints don't work. You should open up and have a conversation about your sex life. You can start the conversation by bringing up something you recently heard or saw... Ask him if the sex is working for him, and whether there's anything he thinks both of you should work on. After listening and responding, you can then go into what works and doesn't work for you. Remember that the point of the conversation is to improve your sex life, not to insult him or put him down. Let him know that it would feel really good if he went down on you. I would stay away from any comparisons to ex-boyfriends, though. Listen carefully to his response. Men can be stupid and selfish about oral sometimes. Some men love doing it, some hate it. Maybe your guy just needs reminders and encouragement. Others will only do it if you're shaved/waxed. The worst case scenario is that he hates doing it... Talking about it should help you understand where he's coming from. He should be able to take your needs into consideration... when you care about someone you want to make them happy - thus, he should be willing to go down on you every now and then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2005): Ugh. My boyfriend didn't want to do it to me for forever, but now that he's figured out that it works, well, getting him to STOP is the hard part. I would just outright ask him to do it.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (27 September 2005):
frustrating... hinting is no good, you need to tell him, dont need to shout just talk to him!
Probably the best way to face it is to make him feel not good enough as he doesnt satisfy your needs *unless* he does oral.
The usual "i read up on...", "i saw a program on TV..." blah blah and it said about women are more likely to reach orgasm if the man does oral and tell him that you havn't reached orgasm even once with him but you have everytime you had sex with a previous boyfriend.
Many men apparently dont pick up on hints so thats no good, or if he has picked up he simply doesnt want to do it!
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reader, tilly +, writes (27 September 2005):
i had the same problem but please don't hint to him men don't listen to hints. when your in bed and about to do your business and he wants you to give him head DON'T he will soon ask why and then you simply say to him you will do if he returns the favour.
i hope this helps it worked for me.
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