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writes:I gave myself to a guy on the very first time I met him. I mean, not everything but almost. I never gave him everything cos I'm a virgin but it still feels weird. It's not the kind of thing I'd usually do. It's actually the first time I went so far. I am afraid I might have caught something cos we never used no condoms and this guy is a kind of famous person whom has probably slept with hundreds and hundreds of girls. So it is quite possible that he might have something. I'm scared sick. Help please. Why do you think it happened? I mean I had a long term boyfriend whom I loved (he never loved me back) and I never went that far with him. Did I cut my nose to spite my face?
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reader, Delila +, writes (12 September 2005):
Well hopefully you didn't catch anything, but to put your mind at ease go to a family planning clinic in your area and they will screen you for the various STDs. A more important question is as you asked it, why did you do it, when you really had no intention of going so far. The guy may have been very manipulative, which you must watch out for in the future. Its hard to keep the barriers up and shift someone at the same time. Most guys are good and they take your "NO" or your "NOT SURE" and they don't push it. Other guys don't even have the manners to ask. You were probably in awe of him too and this made you go further than you normally would. A really good idea if you are ever in this situation again is to excuse yourself when you start shifting, to go to the bathroom or something, then use a powerful visualisation technique used to protect you from manipulation. Imagine you have a sword in your hand which emits an amazing electric blue light, sweep your your arm around in a big circle imagining you are drawing a blue line of light all around your body. This only takes a few second but it REALLY WORKS. Don't forget the condom too! Love Delila
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reader, pops +, writes (11 September 2005):
Talk to a health clinic, and get a referal to a lab that will do a discrete testing of you for STDs, and pregnancy. If the tests come back negative, you are lucky. All the things you told us should have made you put the breaks on and insist that at minimum he use a condom for your tryst. While losing your virginity you managed to find out that one night stands are not all they are cracked up to be. Learn from that. It happened because you wanted to fulfill a fantasy by screwing some rock star. You will be find if the tests are negative. Just grow up a little and make better decisions. Many have been where you are now. You will survive.
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