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writes: My husband told me that he had sex with his cousin 3 years before he met me. I'm totally sickened by it. They are in their 40's. My husband still wants to hang with her. I want nothing to do with her. I think they both were disgusting, but I look at her even worse. I want nothing to do with her and I don't want him to either. No one in the family knows but me. They're moms are sisters. When he mentions her name in conversation I get sick to my stomach. He hasn't talked to her as far as I know. I want to know what other people think of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): it was August 2004, in florida when me and my 1st cousin had sex together, i was 16 and she was 15 at the time. her mum found out about our relationship in june 2007. she hasnt told my mum, yet and told us she wont because she knows how much we love each other. She got cheatted on, and i was there to help as family, to be there by her side, but the more we spoke and hanged out, the more we both got to close and when we stayed in the vila in florida 2004, both our families went, and we had sex, ok, i didnt exspect it to happen, but she was clever to bring condoms and other things, so least she was ready. but we did have sex after that, and now that im 19 and shes 18, were in a flat together. but still do it, but we try to becarful. one day i will have to tell my mum and dad, and she will have to tell her dad about what happened, when the 1st time we did it, and how long we liked each other b4 it. if they dnt like it, and hate us, well we can at least tell them we took it step by step, and since we have been together secretly, she isnt pregnant, i have the condoms, and she has the pills.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): well i dont see anything wrong with it. last year when i was visiting my 16 year old cousin, she eyed me and caught my eye so i raped her later that night. she never told anyone i guess because of the shame, but it doesnt bother me, i enjoyed it and im sure she did too. all this talk about rape victims being scarred is such bullshit. girls like getting raped, they are at there core depraved sluts. i would suggest you find someone else. if he isnt controlling you like a proper male, he msut be a pussy, go look for someone with a bit more balls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): i get the feeling from your letter that you would be revolted by any other woman he may come into contact with, sadly because she is a relative she cant and wont just go away, you will have to decide which emotion you live on, jealousy, repulsion or love, if you cant move on from this you must let go, and remember you have first choice which emotion surges up, noone else. all these electric emotions will not help him find you attractive
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): I am very much in love with my cousin. He and I have been having sex on and off for years.I know he does not feel for me as much as I feel for him, but I can not stop myself from wanting to see him, or touch him. We both have partners, although my partner and I do not have any children. My partner is a really good guy and I know he adores me totally, and I know I should give my cousin up mentally and emotionally to truly make pur relationship work. However it is hard to stop going towards my cousin at every available opprtunity. I walked away before and attempted to get on with things. I thought about him every day but resisted the urge to make contact. He contacted me and I tried to stay away.....but just couldn't. I know he just uses me for a quick frill and nothing will ever change and I'm being stuck on stupid. if anyone in our families found out it would be heartbreak all round. I know that he would treat me badly as well. I guess I find it hard to break those ties we created as children, even though so much has changed. I hate myself for becoming my cousin's bit on the side. How mad is that. All I will say is, I am not alone when we have sex or make love or fuck or whatever you want to call it. We are both as much to blame for not showing a little more restrant
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2006): I hear what you're saying and I can understand it. However, I also hear what I'm thinking and I certainly understand that as well. Before I even met my husband, I was involved n a hot affair with my cousin. Looking back I wish it didn't end back then, and I am not quite sure why it did. I do know this... lately when I've been thinking about him, I want to reinact those events from years ago more than ever! I always was in love with my cousin and I suppose I always WILL be. Time changes a lot of things, but it doesn't change EVERYTHING. I haven't seen him in years until just a few days ago, and we were getting along just as famously as if we had been around each other all the time. Sometimes you can leave someone and not see them and when you do, you pick up right where you left off. That's what happened with us. Of course being married now is a different story but...
I realize I didn't answer your question, sorry. Just had to tell my situation to SOMEONE. Good luck with how things work out on your end. I hope things work out on my end too and I will forget about this and concentrate on my husband!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2005): I know it must be difficult for you to accept this, and I don't blame you, as such for close relatives to have sex seems rather immoral. However, relationships between cousins aren't frowned upon as such any longer. People have started to accept this. But if it bothers you this much, have a word with your husband; if he truly loves you, then he will stop 'hanging out' with her often. Having said this, you cannot stop them from making contact altogether, they are family after all. You should not worry, they had sex 3 years ago, it doesn’t mean it will happen again. He married you for a reason. Finally, try and put this behind you, everyone has a past, I’m certain that you do as well. Good luck, Amy
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2005): There is nothing actually wrong with cousins being together,as some do marry.I had a affair with my cousin and loved him dearly.But i look back and i feel a bad sick feeling in my stomach that it was wrong.You have to try and forget this now and put it all behind you now.It can cause real problems in families this sort of thing.In can be hard when you are likely to see one another at family gatherings.i think it would be best for you and your husband too keep your distance form this women,but you can not put all the blame on the women.They both knew what they were doing didn't they.
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