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Archived questions from: December, 2011 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Please help an inexperienced married man understand sex and relationships

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4745 days ago

31 December 2011 (M) - I was an 18 year old virgin when I met my wife. I had never had a girlfriend or even kissed another girl until one night after a date she just leaned over and kissed me. I waited some months before sleeping with her at age 19. She was 21 and expe...

I'm married to an old miser!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

31 December 2011 (F) - Well, shortly, i'm 30years old, married to a 65year old miser! I have no source of income whatsoever. I and our 6 month old started living with him 2months ago. We had dated for an adequate duration. We have a bad situation concerning our finances. ...

My husband has been impotent for 5 years. Should I stay?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4748 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - What would you do, if your husband 20 years, suddenly goes impotent , without any any medical cause? He is 50 now, but he was 43, when one day to the next he just lost his erection, and ever since, he is unable to get a normal erection. He also lost ...

Not only is my husband not sympathetic when I am ill, but he's mean!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2518 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - My husband has no sympathy for me when I'm ill. Let me take that one step further, not only is he less than sympathetic, he is a little bit mean. He doesn't yell or anything but makes it very clear that he thinks I'm a hypochondriac and that there ...

Is it fair to trick someone into doing something that you know they won't like

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4749 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - I am an anti social person and always have been all my life. I am happy this way and enjoy reading, my animals, gardening and generally have a quiet lifestyle. My husband of two years and I do not live together as we have jobs in other parts of the ...

Husband (also doctor) addicted to teen porn...just told me he hates me for asking him

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - My husband has admitted to being addicted to porn years ago but it was never a real issue because he hid it. I recently borrowed his laptop and he had over 89 bookmarks of 'teen' porn and he used the name like 'morgage payments' to hid the sites. On ...

He only likes Oral sex! Is this normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4750 days ago

30 December 2011 (F) - Hi I'm in my late thirties and been with my husband for 16 years but he wants oral sex most of the time (or anal which he says he doesn't like but he tries because I like it, I've told him I don't). He gets oral a lot but I would like a change. He ...

I got married but I'm still in love with my married boss

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4750 days ago

29 December 2011 (F) - I am in love with my married boss since few years but recently got married to a guy as per my parents wishes. I told him about this relationship to my husband (though not naming who it is) to avoiding being physical with him. Since then he has been ...

I want to know how to get my wife to change her mind

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4750 days ago

29 December 2011 (M) - My wife used to hesitantly perform fellatio. A few years ago she quit. There is no discussion. Just to bring it up pisses her off. I feel like I am worthless because she will not do this for me. I am not a kid, I am over fifty. How do I cha...

What to do with a lying spouse?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - My wife of 10 years had some problems with stealing and lying in the early years of our marriage. For the past several years there have been times I've suspected the behavior again, but lacked proof to confirm, so I gave her the benefit of the ...

I don't know how to get the trust back into our marriage!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

28 December 2011 (F) - I don't know how to get the trust back in my marriage! Not long after we made a committment to each other he rec'd an email from a woman he didn't know, who started flirting with him and making sexual offers; one thing led to another and he told her ...

Wife cries and gets upset from a song, Wont tell me why .

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - if been married to my wife for 6months , and dated for 2years. My question is....do i have a right to know why a particular song sets her off ? ....why she cant bare to hear it because it brings her back to a bad time which i Dont kno very much ...

I used to date my sister in law...and I think we still want each other

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

28 December 2011 (M) - hi i'm a married man with kids and don't see all my family until we all have a family get together at he weekends at my parents house, which is where i bump into my sister inlaw who was my ex girlfriend briefly at college but now shes married to my ...

How do I let go of him and move on with my life? or should I stay and fight for him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

27 December 2011 (F) - Dear Cupid, So here it goes...a year and 1/2 ago, I met my soul mate...online. I know this sounds very cliche for this era, but it happened. What seemed to be attraction and coincidence, I soon found to be a connection deeper than I had felt bef...

My wife has decided all sense of affection between us is over as well as our sex life

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

27 December 2011 (M) - My wife has decided all sense of affection between us is over as well as our sex life. 8 years ago, after the birth of our 3rd child, she convinced me to have a vasectomy so we would not have any more children. Immediately afterwards, my wife's ...

His Mom tells lies about me. We have a baby girl. Should I wait until he wants to come back to me? Or contact him first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4753 days ago

26 December 2011 (F) - Just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, his mom and sister. He was drunk and was arguing with my mom and me....he was saying all kinds of things to us and well my mom was screaming things back so it turned out to be a huge fight! We ended up ...

Everyone is telling me to walk away. Should I wait as he asked, until his health improves?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4754 days ago

25 December 2011 (F) - I am going through a hard time at the moment with my feelings towards someone special and I don't know what to do for the best. I'm so wrapped up in the situation I can't seem to make sense of it all. To start from the beginning, I have only bee...

Major problems, and we've only been married three weeks!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

25 December 2011 (M) - Am I asking for too much?? I feel like I have been through too much and we have only been married 3 weeks. She won't kiss me very often because she felt betrayed by something that happened over a year ago in which we both nearly broke up. Yet sh...

Tips for time management?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

24 December 2011 (M) - Lets get all the issues out there. I have a huge problem with time management and my lovely wife has decided the way to try and punish me is to be passive agressive. I want to fix the lateness issue. Example tonight was xmas eve. She got dressed ...

How are some women out there able to cope with these sort of self-centered, self-serving and extremely selfish men?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - Dear Aunts, I want to believe I'm an emotional person and like lots of love and attention. I have been married 5 years and its like my husband has stopped kissing me altogether. The last time was about 8 months back, when I initiated it and before ...

Is my verbally abusive Bf cheating? Should I leave him? How do I stand up for myself better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

24 December 2011 (F) - my boyfriend and I recently had twins a boy and girl and I feel my boy friend doesnt love me no more ! I DO everything for him I cook, clean, give him sex when he wants it , i take care of the twins i told him 'if you want to help me with the twin...

My husband said he doesn't love me. Should I just move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4756 days ago

23 December 2011 (F) - have trouble in communicating with my husband..he told me he doesn't love me..but there are some ways that i feel he's just not telling me what he really feels..there are some point that i still thinks that he has another woman..but he insisted in ...

Newly wed, no sex and we argue! What can I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) - My husband and I got married about 2 months ago after being together for nearly 5 years (living together for over 3 of those). We have always had great chemistry (really, no complaints in the bedroom), and while we have had our ups and downs like ...

She wants a child and I want to make her happy, but I don't feel ready! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

22 December 2011 (M) - Hello dear cupid friends,i have a problem and need advice. Me and my wife will complete 5 years of marriage on july next year. There she'll be 29 years old, for this reason she wants a kid, it's her dream. I have 25 and will have 26 next year. The ...

My husband's family don't respect my kitchen

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - My husband had told me that some of his fathers friends were stopping by because they were driving up from Florida to Ny and they were stopping through. I had never met these people but it turned out they were actually staying at our house. No ...

How do I keep his cheating from affecting our kids?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - my husband cheated on me, so many questions coming out in my mind, he said and promise me that its really over with d other woman but so many evidence coming out from d shelter keeps me in pain, what should and must i do in order not to affect ...

I don't know how to ask for anal anymore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

21 December 2011 (M) - Me and my wife have a nice intimacy hot life, everytime, love, careless, so hot, so hot everytime we have it! She loves so much when i put my finger in her anus but when i try to have an anal intercourse with her she doesn't want it! Why she doesn't ...

My husband doesn't care anymore!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - I feel like my husband just doesnt care anymore. He never discusses any problems we are having but will always complian about my son. We havent had sex in over two months and the last time it took alot of convincing on my part. He sleeps all the ...

Married and not interested in other men, but women catch my eye

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

21 December 2011 (F) - ive been with my husband for six years now, but married for two, but since weve been married i don't so much as look at another man, but women seems to catch my eye? ive never been with a woman before, but came close, i didnt have the guts to make ...

We separated due to his telling another woman he was only sticking around till he could afford a divorce, now when we were trying to reconcile he's messaging women again!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

20 December 2011 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 5 months. This is going to be a long story everyone I am apologizing now. I guess to start we both changed after we got married. We moved into a camper trailer right after we got married. It is located on his ...

I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it

This question has 37 answers - newest was posted 4143 days ago

20 December 2011 (M) - I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...

How do I put this behind me? Is there a reason why this still bothers me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4759 days ago

20 December 2011 (F) - ive been with my husband 21 yrs... He has said some inproper things too other woman.(example) a ex friend(female) ask my husband too loan her 20 bucks,my husband says "dont tell dawn(me) i dont want her to accuse me of flirting with you" etc. My ...

Revenge cheating...will it help ?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

20 December 2011 (M) - i found out that my wife slept with someone while we were engaged a few weeks after we got married. It has been 5months since then and i have not been able to forget or fully forgive . Im heart broken . Ive become very cold and mean to her, ive ...

Would my husband's behavior indicate guilt? or that he's just tired of the same conversation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

20 December 2011 (F) - My husband had been joining internet dating sites and chatting with other women and cheating on me behind my back for years before I discovered it and when I did he abused me and called me names and wouldnt tell me anything about what he had been ...

My husband accused me of being insecure after he was flirting at his christmas party! Am I insecure?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

19 December 2011 (F) - Recently my husband and I went to his company's annual party. I have met a few people he works with but I do not know anyone well. It is awkward for me because once we get to the party he acts like I do not exist and gets mad if I stay wit...

Do I have the right to be mad?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

19 December 2011 (F) - My husband and I rarely go out. We visit alot with his family and we go out as a couple often. But we dont go out with other couples. He has has a job almost a year now, and we have gone out 2x with the owner of the company and with the own...

So hard to walk away after so many years. Where do I find the strength?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4750 days ago

19 December 2011 (F) - So the holidays are fastly approaching and I am dreading every minute of it. My husband and I have been together for 18 yrs now and it is now over. We decided a few weeks ago that he needed to leave after the holiday (only stayed cause of our 3 ...

How do I break away from my abusive ex and stay away from him? He confuses me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

18 December 2011 (F) - i have been with this man for five years, this is our second break up. what led to our break up was he started doing more drinking and smoking weed. he has never done this before. it seems like when we got back together for the second time is when...

Is my wife embarassed by me? She told me "not be obnoxious" when I meet her friends.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

18 December 2011 (M) - We have been married for 13 years and have been together as a couple for over 18, over half of our lives, and have multiple children together. Tomorrow, we are supposed to meet with my wife's friends, maybe some of their husbands, and one friend has ...

I have feelings for my personal trainer and I am a married woman. My marriage is dead. How can I tell if my trainer is serious?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

18 December 2011 (F) - I have been training with my personal trainer for a year. At first I looked at him as only a trainer but recently I have been feeling differently about him. We have become good friends and there is a chemistry that has developed between us. We shar...

She tried to break us up. At the first chance he slept with her. How do I get over him cheating and betraying me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4753 days ago

18 December 2011 (F) - I'm in need of desperate help! My husband and I got into a huge fight 3 nights ago because I found out he was still talking to a woman whom had admitted she had feelings for him. She even tried to get us to break up and he promised after that time...

My husband tried cheating and there are still issues of trust

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

18 December 2011 (F) - Married n confused.Husband has tried cheating online as well as done other things that are wrong.Says he's no longer talking to or doing anything with other females but he wont be open with me on anything.Made clear to me he's not doing anything so ...

My marriage is in trouble, please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

17 December 2011 (F) - I'm in dire need of immediate help. I'm a 30year old mother of a 6month old daughter, and a wife to a 66year old man. We met and dated online for 3years in which a we got married a year ago. We never lived together, but visited one another for ...

I don't like my husband's female friend!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4758 days ago

16 December 2011 (F) - Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...

I think something strange is going on with my husband and his former boss's wife!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

16 December 2011 (F) - My husband used to work for someone and he always had a questionable relatiolnship with the boss's wife. It was so bad that his co-workers used to kid him about inheriting the business and that the boss's kids were really his. He eventuallty ...

Am I being controlling, or am I just being cautious and protecting my marriage from further destruction?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

16 December 2011 (M) - Hello, I need some advice and opinions. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and its been a pretty tough marriage from the beginning. We have both been faithful over the years, but not real happy. I just recently realized that I've been a v...

Wife Cheated with my Cousin/Best Friend! Don't know what to do!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

16 December 2011 (M) - It's a little long. I apologize in advance. But there is so complicated. So confused and don't know what to do. I found out my wife cheated on me 1 year ago today. Needless to say, I was devastated and still am. Traumatized. For the first 10...

Does my husband need viagra?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

16 December 2011 (F) - So every time me and my husband have sex it only last like 4 or 5 min. And after that he can't seem to get it hard again, it sucks he can't go another round.. he's 31 so he's young , n I'm 23 and I never get pleased by him..what can I do to make it ...

My husband lies about our finances and wont let me know what is going on!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

15 December 2011 (F) - I have been married for 16 years but we have been together for 25 years. We have 2 children that I adore. Recently after getting married I found out my husband was lying to me about things . I was devestated but he assured me he would be open and ...

In the process of an adoption and I've fallen in love with the birth mother! Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4764 days ago

15 December 2011 (M) - i am in the middle of an adoption and i fell in love with the birth mother, i love her more than my own wife. is this normal that i want to spend rest of my life with her and unborn children she wants to give us? help me...