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writes:Lets get all the issues out there. I have a huge problem with time management and my lovely wife has decided the way to try and punish me is to be passive agressive. I want to fix the lateness issue.Example tonight was xmas eve. She got dressed up in sexy lingerie. I took long in the toilet and shower. So she decided to punish me by ignoring me and studying instead. ok fine! I went off my head. Slammed the door and woke the parents. Everybody agrees that I have a problem of taking things too seriously. After 2 years together I still have this late problem. How to fix it?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): You might want to read up on ADHD. Tardiness is a classic symptom and your brain may just be built differently than hers preventing you from perceiving the passing of time the same way. I have a wife and daughter with ADHD and they both often take very long showers, but it's like they don't even realize it. My daughter now sets a timer to let her know that it's time to get out when she's in a hurry.There are two types of ADHD, one is the "hyperactivity" kind that is most diagnosed in kids because their hyper behavior is so obvious. The other is "inattentive", meaning that the brain is very prone to distraction and has difficulty with planning and prioritizing. The fact that you've been dealing with this your whole life is important, and could point towards a neurological cause that can be treated.ADHD has a lot of other symptoms tied to it, so it probably isn't likely. But maybe you could use some of the same techniques around time management that are recommended for those with this condition.http://marriage.about.com/od/healthyliving/a/11-Add-Adhd-Behaviors-That-Could-Be-Killing-Your-Marriage.htm
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 December 2011):
 Frequent tardiness could be a sign that you have given an upcoming event greater significance than is healthy and appropriate. You've made what should be a nice encounter into a make or break scenario. The result is is takes far longer for you to prepare and/or you may be trying to distance yourself from the pressure of an event by delaying the event. Could this be the problem?Are you a perfectionist? Do you have a strong need for control (I don't mean dominating your wife, but control over your surroundings?).
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reader, soul83 +, writes (25 December 2011):
soul83 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes! This is a problem that has plagued me all of my life so I am going to
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (24 December 2011):
 I have three tips. One a watch. Two a diary and Three quicker showers :)
Make it your new years resolution! :)
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