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writes:ive been with my husband 21 yrs... He has said some inproper things too other woman.(example) a ex friend(female) ask my husband too loan her 20 bucks,my husband says "dont tell dawn(me) i dont want her to accuse me of flirting with you" etc. My husband told me 2 days later! I was really angry because i felt he decieved me,and if she was my real friend she should of either told my husband thats wrong or she should have told me! But she didnt do either!! My husband apoligizes over and over telling me he was wrong! I have trust issues already and he tells me i gotta start trusting him he knows he doesnt have to lie to me about money any more.he says thats why he told me what he said to my ex friend.im having a tough time getting past this. Im angry that he ever said it...period! How do i put it behind me? Is there a reason it bugs me still?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Are you serious?I'm assuming that if you had something more incriminating to say about him you'd have included it in your post. So my guess is that your husband's statement to your friend and his subsequent revelation to you were not motivated by guilty conscience, but a painful awareness of how narcissistic and hyper sensitive you are.Your husband did nothing wrong. Your friend did nothing wrong, and the one who ought to apologise for outrageous conduct is you. Bullying others because you assume that everything they say and do is for or despite you is one of the hallmarks of an abuser.If you keep this up your list of friends will get smaller and smaller (as I suspect it already has).
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