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writes:hi i'm a married man with kids and don't see all my family until we all have a family get together at he weekends at my parents house, which is where i bump into my sister inlaw who was my ex girlfriend briefly at college but now shes married to my brother, and no one but us two know that we were once a item, and for some time now have i noticed by coincidence that we are often meeting eyes and when we catch each other we quickly stare away, now when we weer together we used to have amazing sex and i would always play with her gorgeous feet and of late she always wears sexy sandals and gloats them at me. am i reading too much into it or what can you please help me here, as deep down i want to be with her. an i have a gut feeling shes wants the same but wont say.
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 January 2012):
Oops, let me revise my posting. Only the two of you know that you were an item? How come you never discussed this with your brother?
Anyway, what I say about the sister in law still stands. She slept with you and then married your brother. I could not forgive someone for that much less sleep with them.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (21 January 2012):
You know, I am surprised that your brother would marry a woman that you slept with. Its something all the other posters have overlooked here.
I wouldn't even speak to the guy for doing that, much less go to these family events.
Your brother created this situation of your heart being torn up by the fact that he has this woman and you don't.
Your sister in law could simply be teasing you, if there is anything behind it at all (and I doubt that there is).
Your brother has "I got her and you don't" on you and your sister in law could very well be playing you for a fool. She obviously likes your brother better since she married him.
Aside from the moral lecture about cheating (which I am sure you are sick of by now, so I won't give it to you), do NOT do anything sexual with this woman. She had sex with you and then married your brother. That reflects poorly on her character in my opinion.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 December 2011):
 It’s just a silly secret you two share. You are reading WAY too much into it.
Last week I had dinner with a friend I have not seen in 20 years… she told her brother and he was bragging/gloating about how he “took” my virginity nearly 40 years ago…. It was a big joke to all of us… and in poor taste as far as I am concerned as his wife was there….
Sexy sandals… isn’t it summer where you are? I wear sexy shoes all the time but it’s for my current partner not for some long ago ex….
Even if she is interested do you want to risk 2 marriages and an entire family being torn asunder?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): No good can come of this. Only heartbreak beckons. You would be risking everything for something that once existed but ended and ended for a reason. The attraction is still there but I wonder if either of you is prepared to throw a bomb into your lives. Leave things as they are. Do nothing.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (28 December 2011):
 Yes, you're reading too much into it. I love how "eye contact" is always blown waaaaay out of proportion by people, who are deluding themselves into thinking there is more to it. You're projecting your feelings and horniness onto her. Think about how much eye contact you actually make with others and vice versa. Of course she will look at you! What is she going to do, be weird and look away, or look down? Eye contact means nothing, unless it's accompanied by more concrete actions. She was wearing sandals and somehow you think she is trying to tease you by doing so? Last time I checked, women wear all types of hot shoes because women, generally speaking, LOVE shoes. I know I do! And I look for any excuse to whip them out and buy more. I'm sure she would have worn those sandals whether you were in attendance or not. You have a foot fetish and you think foot ware that reveals her feet are seductive. That is your problem; your turn on. How you respond to her feet in sandals has nothing to do with her. It's not like she is wearing lingerie in front on your, she is wearing sandals like any normal woman would.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (28 December 2011):
 She's off-limits. You are a married man; she's married to your brother.
Unless you want to break up your family and incur the resentment, hatred and anger of all concerned - FORGET IT!
Pay attention to iAmHereTohelpYou. If you don't give up this foolishness you're going to be in more trouble than you ever imagined possible.
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