We separated due to his telling another woman he was only sticking around till he could afford a divorce, now when we were trying to reconcile he's messaging women again!

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My husband and I have been married for 5 months. This is going to be a long story everyone I am apologizing now. I guess to start we both changed after we got married. We moved into a camper trailer right after we got married. It is located on his grandparents property so I thought okay this should not be too bad because it was going to be cheaper than where I currently lived. Well he had promised to get it fixed up to where it was livable. After a month we still had no hot water, no heat, and now there is no water at all. The place was a disaster and when I would attempt to clean it up, he would stop me and tell me he would do all this on his next day off because he wanted to go through all of it. That was 4 months ago and it still hasn't been touched. During this time he contacted my ex husband and asked him if I had always been so lazy. That really floored me. Well to make this story a little shorter I will get to what is going on at this point. I had seen a message that he wrote to a woman on facebook telling her that he was only keeping me around until he could afford a divorce, so I decided to leave and let him out of the marriage if that is what he wants. So I had my mail held at the post office. I had never held mail before and was surprised when I went to collect it because they had also held his grandparents mail. This made them very upset with me and they told me that if I show up back on the property they will call the police. Well my husband and I talked the other night at a coffee shop and talked about getting back together and he apologized and really acted sincere. He refuses to tell his family that we are trying to work things out because he does not want to have to listen to them complain. As I said I have been married once before and learned not to involve family in your marriage issues, but he did and I have no idea what he has told them. Whatever he said to them made them to where they do not like me at all. So I am currently living with one of our friends until we can get another place to live. Well here it is finally everyone. I got on the computer this morning and saw that he had wrote to another woman again and told her that we were separated and that he does not like being alone and that he was looking for a girlfriend. I am really upset because I have told him over and over that I do love him and it feels like I just get it thrown back in my face. I need some advice. What should I do?

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