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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

I don't like the person I've become since I've gotten married

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - Let me set the stage for anyone who's reading: I've been married for 10 years with children. My wife and I got married at a very young age because of our first child or should I say, I married my wife because of our first child. After that...

After 10 years should I contact him and try to get closure?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Bare with me this a long one. I met this man (DB) when I was 15, I am now 29. He was my teacher my sophomore year in high school. There was a ton of chemistry between us but we never acted on it besides lots of flirting, occasional hugs, and ...

Do I leave husband & kids for a 20 year old?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I am 35 and have been married for 7 years now, and have three children. My marriage has been a rocky ride up to now. My problem is that I have fallen in love with a 20 year old. He is a student an doesn't work yet. We are such good friends,we do as ...

Involved but now he's asking for space!

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31 December 2009 (F) - Hi I have seperated with an abusive man and my old friend from high school has also separated with his spouse. We are both going through alot and we both are having issues with children issues. We have been romantically involved for some time an...

I think husband wants to marry someone else after leaving the country!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - i think my husband is planning to marry somebody else. after leaving this country i am at my mothers place so i dont know when is he leaving he want divorce from me but i dont want to give, if he leaves country is there any legal procedure to bring ...

An affair & an abusive husband! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I desperately need some advice. My husband has been physically and verbally abusive to me for the past 7 years we have been together. I still feel like I have feelings for him, but recently I've met someone that I know I'm going to end up having ...

I don't think my wife loves him, but I know he loves her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - I not happy with my wife. i got married one year back. i love her very much but she is not. the starting month of after marriage we were happy. after that we stated conversation. because of recession am not get increment. i was in big problem. it ...

Husband shows me no emotion

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5431 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Hi, a very common question. I am wondering if it is justified to leave my husband. We don't have kids yet. My husband never shows me any kind of emotions. He has a problem with porn, which is something told him from the beginning that am not ...

My husband went to sex therpist promised to be with me,and lied!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5411 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - WellI caught my husband masterbating after he promised he would come to me after we went to a sex therpist, he is addicted for sure, please only decent replys, any proverbed replies will be reported. sure everyone masterbates, but a husband doesn't ...

Can a relationship recover from infidelity if the cheating partner still denies it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I know that my husband cheated on me. However he denies it. I do love him and want to move past this but if he will not admit it can we move on? We have been together for 15 years. Now this just happened after he started this job about 2 years ag...

In love with my sister-in-law and afraid of losing her...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - i was alone with my wife's sister march of 2008. we were alone at a place where she used to live. i was and still am really in love with her, and i am pretty sure she feels the same about me. we were alone in her kitchen i froze. i could have stood ...

My husband leaves all family responsibility on me, how can I be happy again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - i am married now for 2years i was married with two kids i work and he works also, my salary is smaller than his but i pay more bills than he pays and he spends his money in pubs with friends, i feel very bad, i am responsible for all, for my kids...

I really want to know why he would rather masturbate than sleep with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Hi I am 38 and have been married for 4 years (hubby is same age). It is both of ours' second marriage. There is 2 children. One 7y from my previous marriage and one of 2y that we had together. Our sexlife has never been massively passionate. Mo...

Married for less than a month then she want me no more

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - helo good people. im a traditionally married for less than a year to a lady who had sex more times than i did and she also had a big penis penetrating in her b4 me. her pussy is big for my penis and her pussy is very wet and sometimes it stinks v...

He's a good man but I think about leaving my husband every day

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I think about leaving my husband everyday. I hate myself for this. He is just does not make me feel good. Even so he is a good man. Sadly he is also impotent for no known reasons... Not medical. And this is not my primary reason I want to make this ...

Husband having an affair I don't know what to do!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5379 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I posted before but have added some more information. I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got ...

Is my wife trying to break my attachment to her by being unemotional?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - Hi everyone whats all this about can you help me, im going mad. Over the last 12 months my marriage has broken up, we were together for 7 years. Myself and my wife have had affairs, She moved out some months ago. Two weeks ago we both admitted...

No more romance

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - Hey folks Maybe somone here can help... I have now been married for 16 years and with the same wonderful woman for 18. Have 2 older boys with her and we are still very much in love with one another we rarely argue and in 18 years i can count on o...

My husband left me for another women on boxing day!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5425 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...

I really want to move on but how do I tell my husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - i really hav a mess sex life with my husband,i tried all i could,i tried to talk to him about counseling either but he keep on saying we don't we hav problem to take to counseling and he says that's just wast of money,we had been tryiny to make ...

Cyber cheated... Now my wife hates me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - I did a really really stupid thing and cyber cheated on my wife, I met a girl through a chat room and for 3 months we sent dirty emails to each other and spoke on the phone a dozen times and emailed pictures of our privates to each and pictures of ...

How do I get my life back to the happy times that it once was?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I have been married for a long time~ my husbands job kept him away for the first 15 yrs, and he changed, never wanting to hold my hand, touch me, kiss me and even went as far as to say I was getting fat and that he doesnt like fat women. That was 5 ...

Is there something wrong when the man is no longer interested in sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - i just want to know if something is wrong in a relationship when the man youve been with no longer is interested in having sex.he no longer holds me or even looks at me as a woman,yet he checks out other women he sees when we're out somewhere.i lie ...

Have we lost the spark due to my pregnancy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I'm 19 and pregnant and me and my husband have been together a year. I was never really phsically attrated to him, I was attracted to my love for him, but the longer we are together the more it seems like that may not be enough. He isn't a good ...

Can this affair work? I am planning on divorcing my husband.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - I have asked my husband of 18 years for a divorce about 7 months ago. We have 2 kids, over the age of 10. I have had several affairs because for years I haven't been attracted to my husband, and married him dishonestly-because he seemed like a good ...

Is my husband using me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - is my husband using me ?? i been marreid to my husband 7 yeras we been to gether total 9 years we have 3 children to gether and i had 2 grils from previous marrige things were good intil he quit his job with out no reason then i told him to fine ...

How do I get my wife to have sex with me more?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - what do I do to get my wife of 24 yrs. to have sex with me? I bet we have had sex maybe 30 times in the last 15yrs. Thats over 5400 nights in the same bed. When we first got married she was like a nimpho. She wanted it all the time, now its is her ...

Since he is unemployed he has become controlling.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - helo n merry xmas to every1.i have a bit of a prob.my hubby is unemployed and we have 3 kids together.a few yrs ago he had an affair which resulted in a child.we are stil together.but now that he's unemployed he's very controlling and wants to know ...

Do you think my wife will cheat again?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - My wife has been cheating on me for so many times and i still forgive her.I know its stupid of me but i don't want our family to be torn apart.shes a good liar and a really selfish bitch.One time,she said shes going to throw the trash and i was ...

I am white and married a black, hubby doesn't see how mean many of his race are to me!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5139 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - i have been married to a black man for 20 years. my problem...well...i am not black and when we go places together i always get the snobby,rolling eyes and staring hard at by black women. some who goes as far as trying to flirt with my husband ...

I have no money, a son I cannot leave, and a marriage I am dying to get out of... should I pursue my affair?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - I have been married for over 20 years - he very much in love and me only staying in the relationship for my teenaged son. Thru facebook I met an old schoolmate that I didn't really know in school and we proceeded to have some fun banter back and ...

I am unhappy in my marriage, should I get a divorce?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5445 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - I just told my wife I am not happy in our marriage of 2 and 1/2 years. We dated for 5 years prior to getting married. We have no children and both of us are skeptical about even having them. Which is weird cause when we first started dating we ...

We had an argument, I kicked him out and he found someone else. I want my husband back!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5445 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - i was with my boyfriend for three years and we got married on the 7th june this yr beleive it or not. wat a joke. i had a bad arguement i told him i didnt love him and kicked him out, but i lied i do love him i just said it in anger. now his gone ...

Marriage problem with my wife's attitude!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - hi i wonder if i can have some advice. my wife behaves so differently since we were married. tell you how. for the past 5 years of marriage, if i take pictures of her she goes extremely angry. for the past 5 years of marriage, if i start to...

How can I win her trust back after we both had an affair?

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24 December 2009 (M) - My wife had an affair, ihad an affair first, but she didnt know. She had an affair because she felt like shit. I want to get back with her, emotionally i am attached to her. I know that things will never be the same, i dont want them to be the same, ...

He's married but we love each other, what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5431 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Ive just recently started a new job. Me and the manager being very close he knows everything about me and my history of abuse and current abusive situation with my family. It was agreed during holidays i would come work for him to get some extra ...

Ever since we had a child together, he's never home and I don't know what to do.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5446 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - So i have been married to my husband for 4 years now and ever since we had our daughter he never seems to be home. He joined the fire department is always doing side jobs going to friends house and whatever else. He told me the day he joined the ...

She's having an affair with a married man. How can I make her see the error of her ways?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5413 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm hoping for some perspective. I've been friends with a girl from school for years. She's very clever, attractive, silly and ambitious. We don't have a huge amount in common but we've had common friends over the years, we've been on ho...

I suspect her of cheating, because her sex drive has diminished and she has been spending lots of time away.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - Ok, new here and looking for advice. First a question for the ladies. In general, when grooming, if a woman shaves down below, is that usually something they do for themselves, or something they do to make someone else happy? The reason I ask ...

My husband has become too close to another woman, how can I stop this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - My husband likes to be dominated .right now he seems like he is at the point where his friend who is female has control over him ( they met online and have met in person) . I can't get him to do anything and he and she talk everyday for long periods ...

My wife has no problem exposing herself to others, is this normal behaviour?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5428 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - this is about a strange behavior of my wife. she is 25. i see that she has a tendency to exhibit. she rarely cares about her dress. whenever somebody comes to our home they have a very explicit view of her assets and other parts. i tlaked to her a...

I'm becoming violent and very angry because I suspect of him cheating, are my fears justified?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - hello i really need some help i dont have anybody to talk to. i just got married 4 months ago,my husband is 33 years and i'm 21 years old.my problem is that i can't trust my husband at all. i have been for a while obssesed with him cheating on me. ...

My husband says he watches porn because I don't look the same after having kids. Should I leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - I am thinking of leaving my husband, is this too extreme? When we met I made it very clear to him that I'm not intereted in being with someone who uses porn. I find it insulting and disrespectful. At the time he said this is fine as he is not inte...

Did my husband rape my sister or was it consensual?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - i found out that my sister woke up to find my husband on top her having intercourse with her. shes saying this is what happened and she pushed him off and that he kept calling her BABE referring to me. for some reason he hought it was me. yeah ...

How do I fix this problem with my wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - My wife was not so happy with me so I invited my friend to have sex with her. but a year now I feel I am not happy at all. she always likes him, I feel depresed with the way my wife behaves with me.......

My marriage is going downhill and I have met somebody who I can love as I once loved her!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5287 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - I have been married for twelve years, and before we were married we dated for ten years and lived together during those times. We have two beautiful children nine and eleven years old. My marriage has been going downwards for the last five years. I ...

I want a baby but he says we have no savings...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - Me and my husband got married only last year but we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for more than 6 years and decided to get married.Now i want to have a baby bcoz Iam in the right age right now his younger than me,i am very upset with him until ...

How do I stop this? I don't want to jeopardize my marriage!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - Confused by attention! Im happily married for 6 years and working. I was initially working on a project with a colleague in a different location. Later I moved to a new office location. Since then, this ex-colleague has been chatting with me...

I kissed a girl on a business trip and now I am getting Facebook messages from her friends about our "affair"! I don't want my wife to find out!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

22 December 2009 (M) - Me and my wife have had some trouble in our relationship which unfortunately is not being resolved. We have been separated for 5 months and she is back home in her country. I was away on a business trip and talked to a girl who worked at the hotel. ...

Am I wrong to wonder what my husband is getting up to on his computer?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - hi i only been married three months maybe i should have asked you first my husband uses the internet a lot has loads of people he im`s i know some are people for business but about a week after we got married he let me use his computer and i tried ...