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writes:i was alone with my wife's sister march of 2008. we were alone at a place where she used to live. i was and still am really in love with her, and i am pretty sure she feels the same about me. we were alone in her kitchen i froze. i could have stood next to her and kissed her, and told her how i felt about her. but i froze. now i feel regretful. i am still in love with her. i want to be with her so much. i want to divorce my wife, and start a relationship that will hopefully lead to marriage to her, but i don't know how. i know this is selfish. my wife does not love me, and i do not love her. divorce would be best for us both. only thing is i'm afraid i would loose the sil. i think about her every day, and have for the past 2-3 years. i am overwhelmly in love with her. she is all i see when she walks into a room. if there was a room of victoria secret models and her in a room i would pick her. she is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): WHAT has your wife said about your love/ lust for her sister? keeping it all in the family???
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): Keep a healthy(non-sexual) relationship with your sister-in-law.love her as you love your best friend.only then you shall have a peace of mind.As for your relation with your wife,love her all over again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): thankyou brooklyn girl for your advise...i post this question because of my frustration of having an unhappy and loveless marriage. i wish i had the money for a divorce...but unfortunatley i don't...but your advise has been the wisest and best...i thankyou. i hope that i can go through with it, and everything works out...to all the other advisors, its not lust i have for the sil it is love. i spent time with her and got to know her is how the relationship started and it developed into love. my marriage is a misrable, loveless, and unhappy...hoping it would change, it never did, and more than likely never will. i am going to do all i can to get out of this marriage, and all i can to pursue the sil. it may work out or it may not...all i know is i have to follow my heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): the only that makes sense is the one brooklyn girl gave. thanks brooklyngirl.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (30 December 2009):
 I think you may have to take this a step at a time, and the risks we all take in life!
If you are in a loveless marriage...get out of it! Talk to your wife about a divorce. That's the first step! Whether you can make things work with the sister-in-law or not, will come after you are free to take the next step.
You may lose them both...but that is the only way you will ever know! There are no guarantees in life! We have to take chances to get what we think we want.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 December 2009):
 I will leave morals aside. From a strictly practical viewpoint, I seriously doubt you can ever have a relationship your sister-in-law. It means you have to leave your wife to be with her, and it also implies your sister-in-law agreeing to being with you. Much too difficult, in my opinion.
I guess you know the answer, but refuse to do what you have to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): You should leave your sister in law out of things for the time being and talk to your wife. If the marriage is dead and you want a divorce then that is what you need to concentrate on first. As you dont know how your sister in law feels about you, mentioning her could just cause you a heap of embarrassment. She may not feel the same about you. Or your wife might think you two have been seeing each other behind her back. Leave your marriage first and persue her sister only when you are free to do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): you have to be happy in life that is for sure but sometimes even if we love someone so much it feels like its gonna kill us to lose them we have to do right thing and they are sisters you have to remember that
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Why do you love your wife's sister? Do you, perhaps, secretly want your wife in another body without all the problems you have with your wife?
I think you should confront your wife and concentrate on repairing that relationship instead of starting a new one. You must love her, or why would you have married her?
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