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writes:hi i only been married three months maybe i should have asked you first my husband uses the internet a lot has loads of people he im`s i know some are people for business but about a week after we got married he let me use his computer and i tried to upload our wedding pictures only to find all these naked women pictures of his friends i was terribble upset but could not ask him and still havent but he is forever on the computer having conversations am i wrong in wondering whats going on i know he click`s of when i walk in the room i know he is on site for dating online i have seen him but he said he joined these before we were together but why hasnt he stopped his membership . And ther is one perticular girl always on the net chatting i have nt ever looked to see what they are saying but i do not think its right sureley
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Boo, you should have said something when you first noticed it. If he is doing what you say then something is seriously wrong. Talk to him and tell him what you saw and tell him how you feel! In a relationship you have to be able to communicate about anything, and I think this falls under that category! I wish you the best of luck hun! Dont be to hard on him;) LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): oh hunny, these are huge red flags. no married man should be on dating sites. he should have deleted his accounts when he became engaged to you (or before). i have many male and female friends that i IM or email...but nothing inappropriate. when a man or woman closes down the window when you walk in....something is terribly wrong. he is doing SOMETHING that he knows is not right. you need to ask him. mal
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reader, jthomas  +, writes (22 December 2009):
You need to get to the bottom of this. It's one thing to snoop, it's another to take a look at something when it's thrown in your face... as this was. Being on dating sites is unacceptable coming from a married man. You need to talk to him about this. Let him know that you *accidently* stumbled across some naked pics when trying to upload your wedding pics and ask him whats going on. Let him know that you are uneasy w/ him being on dating sites and being in conversations online w/ other women. Of course, being female, we automatically assume that men should know and we shouldn't have to tell them, but let's wake up. There's a possibility that he indeed doesn't realize that he's hurting you. He maybe met these women on a site and developed friendships before you were with him, innocent(in his eyes). After talking to him and getting him to understand, he should make a change. If not, then I would say you have a definite problem.
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