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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

I'm still attracted to him I just have no sex drive, and now there is a Sailor involved!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Q1, ok so heres the thing my husband and i have been together 2 years and my sex drive has gone down a lot.... he is lucky if i want to have sex once a month. when we first got together it was like 2 or 3 times a day i dont know what happend i give ...

Please help me I feel so torn

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - 2 months ago I met a man online that lived a few hours from me. We ended up talking on the phone every day. He told me was single at first but a few weeks later I found out he had a baby girl and I asked him if he was married but he told me he wa...

I think he is crossing the line by talking to these other women but he just tells me I am sick!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I have a problem my husband e-mails his ex and visa versa, always wanting to help her either fix her apt. or anything else its ridiculis the way he goes about it, he tells her if there is anything you need done let me know. I am a jelous person ...

My husband's new hobby is taking over his life leaving no time for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - My husband has started becoming obsessed with eating and drinking to the exclusion of everything else (excluding personal hygiene matters). He's spending time with a new group of friends who like to go round the city and eat at all the restaura...

Why is the man I was with for 16 years trying to make my life a living hell?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Just a vent more than a question. I HATE MY EX. He left me and his 2 toddlers for a 22 year old. Gt to love it. I got over him leaving, we weren't happy. However, I am angry that he tried to proof I was unfit in court to get full custody which was ...

This is not some two-bit affair.....but I'm wondering if he actually loves me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Some advice please,I am in a relationship with a man who is married and I have been on and off for 30yrs,and i know a lot of you out there are going to be critical of me.but maybe some of you will understand.This man has been married for over 40yrs ...

Gay man married to a woman....now I want her to sleep with someone else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5676 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - Hi, i am a gay man married to my wife for 8 years, we have two kids. I am not very active in sex with my wife, for the past 4 years i had hardly had sex for 5 times. She keeps on insisting me, but i just jerk off when she is asleep on our bed. I ...

His bit on the side is returning to work in the summer....how do I stop these doubts?

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30 April 2009 (F) - Need a bit of advice to cut a long story short my h/b had an affair with a married girl at work i found out he finished it straight away he was off work himself for 6 months we spent all these months together 24/7 she stayed with her husband and ...

Is something wrong in my marriage or is it me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I found out my hubby had a FWB and this had been going on for around 8 years. I asked for a divorce and he begged me to stay so that we could try again. He went to counselling with me and for the last 18 months things have been okay. But.... I ...

I need help! Why doesn't my husband want to have sex with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4537 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - My husband never wants to have sex with me. Our sex life consists of me giving him blow jobs and very, very occassionally he might grace me with a couple of minutes penetration to stop me grumbling. I am sooooooo sexually frustrated and m...

Please tell me if you can think of anything I can do to try and make up for what I did.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - About 4 and a half months ago my wife cheated on me. The affair had been going on for almost two months before I found out. When I found out I instantly forgave my wife and asked her to stay with me. She was going to leave me for him. However he ...

Is three years long enough to have been together before getting engaged?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I'm so excited. My byfriend has gotten me an engagement ring. ^_^ We still won't be getting married for a few years- we'll be saving money and such for a house, car, etc, etc... we've been together for three years, and our love is stronger than...

My husband revealed my secrets and completely broke my trust

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have always been in some ways disliked by my family in law over the last 15 years and for the last 5 years I have removed myself from their insulting comments. I have not once expected my husband to cut any ties that would be wrong and have ...

Her ex just WILL NOT stop chasing her. Do I have a word? Or let her handle it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I am a 39 year old female that I have just married my wife Jan. 30th 2009. We got married in Connecticut. (legally) Well my wife has a friend that is her ex that is still in love with my wife. My wife has told her to quit emailing and texting ...

I've kicked out my husband but he won't leave!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5704 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Almost a month ago I asked my husband to leave, and he won't go. At first he was looking at apartments, then he said he could stay at work, but he never left. I told him to at least go into the garage and he did nothing. He sleeps in the living ...

I feel like he is putting everything else before our wedding!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Hi. I have been with my fiance on and off for around 6-7 years. We are planning on getting married this year, however I feel he is not putting in that much effort when it comes to the wedding plans by putting his plans and other things frst. We h...

Going through hell

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I have been going through hell of late. So here it goes. I was married for 10 years. 3 of it happy, next three years long distance and unhappy and the past 4 years without having sex and always fighting. I was having a...

Trust is not possible for me without evidence!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5715 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have been through one hell of a difficult few years and so has my little 8 year old son and his sister . My second husband was dreadfully abusive and we were quite ill by the end of it. Now I am with someone who seems to care about me very muc...

My wife of 20 years wants a threesome...I may want a divorce!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5673 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - Let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for twenty years. she would like to have a threesome or swap with a couple. When she told me this i was shocked and hurt. i would like someone to help me understand this. She is forty im forty ...

He admitted to a bi-sexual experience on our anniversary!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I could be here all day writing...But I'll try to sum it up a little. My husband and I were celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary the other night and we got to talking pretty deeply. We are always very open with eachother(so I thought) and always ...

Help! My wife is having an affair and I want to make my marriage work. What do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

28 April 2009 (M) - A month ago, my wife admitted to me that she was having an emotional affair with another "man". We are 33/34 and have been married for almost ten years. I was, and still am, absolutely devastated. She is my best friend and I never thought that ...

Boyfriend had male sex 15 yrs ago. Will this affect our mariage?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Hi! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are planning to get married and have a baby. We love each other. He's been recently unwell, he had a little secret that was tormenting him so he told me eventually that when he was 16 he had sex with...

What do you think of my now separated husband? Am I right not to take him back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I'm in this situation and i'm not sure how to handle in. Here goes, my husband and i recently seperated after being married for 10 yrs.he continues to blame me for everything that lead to the seperation.I believe that i'm a good women i did ...

We've broken up; how do I care for my son as I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been through a seperation. I have done a lot of soul searching in the time since we seperated (1/half). I still have feelings for my ex and realise that I probably always will as we were together for some time and have a child ...

Do I meet him... or do I say no and stay with my husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5715 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I am married and have 2 kids. I have been with my husband for 5 years and married for 3. We have been haveing a lot of arguments and even got close to being physical with each other. So in all this i started chatting to other people. There was this ...

Wife has a low sex drive and mine is high! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

28 April 2009 (M) - I have a problem i love my wife but the problem is she has a low sex drive while me on the other hand i can go more than three times everyday what can i do?Pliz help...

My wife's ex is moving in next door!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been together for eight years - since she was 19 and I was 20 - and we've been married three of those years. We have a beautiful son whom is five months old and my wife is pregnant again. We also have our respective and stable ...

My husband is not putting enough effort into job seeking.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5706 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - my partner lost his job about 5 months ago but he still isnt applying for enough jobs. he seems to think that 1-2 applications a week (if that) is enough and hes being so fussy with what jobs he applies for. How can i get it through to him that what ...

We're both married, how do I get him to leave his wife for me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - i have been seeing this guy for about 1 year and the thing is hes married and before you start to judge me please just hear me out! i really love him. and he loves me too! anyways i am just the type of person that believes that if you want something ...

Please help me save my marriage and show my wife I love her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5624 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - I need some advice...I have been married for 9 years and have 2 kids. I love my family, but recently my wife and I have not been communicating well and I admit that I have not done what it takes on an emotional and loving (I am not talking about ...

Help on leaving my useless husband and starting from scratch.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5717 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - okay, so my question is should i stay with my husband or not? i ask because he is younger than me and is very selfish and oblivious to alot that goes on around him especially my feelings. when we got married we got pregnant and i paid for the abor...

DID I MARRY A SERIAL CHEATER ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts My husband who is 49 had been having an affair with a younger women(28 years old)he said he was going though a mid life crises i belived him and gave him another chance,he is no longer seeing this women but i have found out that this was...

Wife's past sexual escapes are still haunting me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - I don’t know if you can still remember me that about a year ago i sought for your advice on what to do over my wife narrating to me as her husband about her past sexcapades with various men differently. She practically even demonstrated how they ...

Do you think counselling will get us through this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5717 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My Husband of 15 years and 3 children has told me 6 months ago he had a short fling with a very good friend of mine who has since left to live many miles away and has never been in touch with either of us and now I know why? He is been treated for ...

Stopping this vicious cycle!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5679 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Hello, happy to know you exist,here i go...well once upon a time i met a handsome man that was very responsible and a hardworker and some...he was divorced w/3 kids and i never married but did have 2 of my own, so we decided to make a big happy ...

I'm not sure I still love the father of my children

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5718 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I am married; we seperated for about 4 months and I went back with him because I wanted my kids to be with there father. I am 19 yrs old with 2 lil girls I mean my husband isn’t a bad person he just is very jealous. He don’t want me to have any ...

My husband is having an affair and ignoring my problems

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5718 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I am 51yrs my husband is 45yrs, I have a son from my prev marriage. My husband is a Christian, I am a free thinker. My husband is having a affair with a Malay girl age 26 yrs, I found out, he says sorry to me and swear not to see her again. O...

I think our marriage may be over...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5718 days ago

26 April 2009 (M) - please help i think my marriage is over i am a man of 43 my wife is 42 my wife never talks to me never shares problems but she tells her friends all our persnal stuff shaers jokes emails scandal just about anthing but cant say a word to ...

My husband's parents favor his kids more than my oldest child.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5711 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - My husband's parents favor his kids more than my oldest child. I got with him 2 days after i found out i was pregnant with my son (3 years old) he sees my son as his own. He has a daughter that is 8 and we have a 2 week old daughter together. the ...

Developing a roving eye, help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

26 April 2009 (M) - Hi. I've been married to my wife for almost 3 years, together for about 6. We are both in our late twenties. When I met her she was the most lovely, charming, sexy woman I'd ever met and we're were deeply in love within days of our first date. ...

I feel as if my marriage is falling apart...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5718 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - More than a question I need advice. I feel like my marriage is falling apart!.. I dont know if its because of the birth control I use. I recently read other womens reviews on the same birth control and most suffered some of the symptons I have, such ...

I want to love him but I don't know how...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5718 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - I am married but I dont love my husband. I dont like his physical appearance thats why I cant accept him physically..But I still married him for 2 years because I was afraid of being single. I thought I will fall in love with him once we get married ...

My husband is converting to Islam and wants ME to convert too!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5541 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - I was shocked by what I found around the house when I woke up this morning. There were a lot of prayer books and a copy of the Koran (is that how you spell it??) lying around, plus some other Islamic literature. I asked my husband why there was Is...

I feel like he doesn't love me anymore.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5719 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We lived together for 4 years before we got married. He has a job were he travels alot. A month ago he came home from a trip with a very bad attitude. He did not want me to touch him in any sexual way ...

I just got married but already lusting after our men

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5718 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - i just recently married. He is away for a year(legal reasons) and i am lusting for another man. i want to pursue but i love my husband. i dont think i can go a year without sex. would it be so terrible to pursue an affair? what do i do?? how can i ...

I cheated, tried to fix it, now he's planning a secret tryst...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5716 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - I cheated about 7 months ago. I had been unhappy for years, tried to tell my husband but he brushed me off. Not that he's bad, he's great, just oblivious. He told me he always thought that the fact that he loved me so much was enough, he didn't ...

She goes out and leaves me when she hears her ex is around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5719 days ago

25 April 2009 (M) - Is it right for a man to be quiet when his wife leave him alone in the kitchen to go outside when she heard her ex-boyfriend was around ?and is it right for her to tell the husband that this is her house she can bring in anybody she likes or talk to ...

Husband now asking when I will be home ect...pornography involved

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5715 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - hi i really do need some advice on this matter as i am driving myself mad, I have found out that my husband is looking at porn on the internet and that he had subscribed to a few sites that girls get back to you on, he is doing this when i am at ...

My husband of 32 years is having an emotional affair

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5719 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - My husband of 32 years is having an emotional affair with his admin. We have 3 kids who all grown. We married when we were very young. The oldest is 32. We stayed together and raised our kids and have a good life. He is a shop supervisor and I ...

Should I marry

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5719 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - I am in engaged to be married in 8 weeks and my fiance parents has a house that will be passed on to him. We are planning for our wedding and also trying to buy a house that will accommodate 7 total of our children from previous relationships. Every ...