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writes:Almost a month ago I asked my husband to leave, and he won't go. At first he was looking at apartments, then he said he could stay at work, but he never left. I told him to at least go into the garage and he did nothing. He sleeps in the living room. I don't even want him in my house. Anyway, We have tried to talk but it seems like more lies and more blaming me. I have us set up for couseling, I told him to leave until we at least start that, but he is still here. Yesterday I found a note in my car about all the things he promises to do, but its been almost a month, and now he wants to try to do some romantic gesture? It was too little too late. How do I get him out of my hosue? He for some reason thinks everything is fine, and they are not. I would be much happier if he were gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): There are few things you can legally do in the USA. But, one is to get a restraining order. Tell the court that you feel threatened and he will have to leave. Or, do as I did and contact his girlfriend. Let her know that he is free to go. She'll take care of the rest.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 April 2009):
Well tell him that you asked him to leave and come to counselling if he wanted to save the marriage and he didn't...
So you are filing for divorce.
Tell him he has till next Friday to find somewhere to live and then when he is at work on Friday you get the locks changed.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe lies all the time and compulsively. He lied about going out of town with another woman, which is why i wanted him to go. But the lieing has been a problem since i met him it seems. I told him that if i had a place to take me and the kids, that I would be gone already. He told me that he would do anything to try to make things work, and that if I needed time he could give me that. But it was just more lies. I wanted him to leave at least until we started counseling. And I believe its my name on the deed. Him not going is only making me want out of this marriage more.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 April 2009):
Well hang on, first off, you can't kick him out of his own house.
If it's his house then you have to leave.
But you don't seem to be sure whether you want to end the marriage or not... I mean you set up counselling... that's not something a woman should do if you are trying to kick him out. That says that you still want to work on it.
Either you want divorce or not.
Go and see a solicitor / lawyer and hand him the paperwork. Then you can organise to put the house up for sale and both move out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Is not half of everything you own as a married couple legally his? If so, I'm not surprised he hasn't left yet. I think I need a bit more detail on this one!
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