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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I feel so lost in life...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5808 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I really need advice as I feel I cannot see straight. I am in my mid-20' but I feel so lost in life. I live at home with my loving, but strict parents. I can't really invite ppl over bc my family is so dysfunctional. But I can't stay out late or...

I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this cycle?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5810 days ago

31 January 2009 (M) - Hi. I have never gotten what I wanted in terms of love. I've always jumped for the stars, but landed even harder for it. I continually go for the girl who is my dream, rather than reality. I am in a cycle of disappointment. How do I get out of this ...

Help me to stop hating my dad

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5810 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - It's gotten to the point that sometimes I wish he'd get terminally ill and just die. If he did, I'd finally feel free. I am so sick of him putting me down all the time, saying I am pathetic, worthless, he even said that he'd never want a daug...

Can and will my life get better???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5649 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I don't even know where to begin. 1 - my parents turned against their own daughter. 2 - I was diagnosed with anorexia. 3 - I don't even know how to explain what I'm going through. I just wanna know if things can get better. My life is bad...

I want justice!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5810 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I posted a question earlier inquiring about my husbands sex/porn addiction and I was looking for somebody that has or has had he problem and stood in his shoes to answer my question for me, but I was not clear enough on why. It has gotten so bad ...

Should I accept the fate of my 3 week marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5749 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - HI everyone, this is gonna be kind of long and hopefully that doesn't lose your interest. I have been with my husband for 4 years, but we just recently got married jan 10(this year) He used to be different, I don't even know who im with anymore, he ...

Am I bad? Have I done such a bad thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5811 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Six years ago I left my husband for another man. I have never been able to quite forgive myself because I know it hurt me children very much. I had been married for 21 years and had suffered badly. My husband took our first child from me in hospital ...

Doubts about a lasting relationship without christ...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5808 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Hello everyone my name is Feeljoy please my question is: is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life?...

He proposed, but now he's not sure. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5811 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - my boyfiend and i have been going out for about a year and two months everything seem to be going ok but not we are constantly fighting about silly things and i just do not know what else to do.i love him and he loves me and he had proposed to me ...

A foolish affair turned sour.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Regretfully, I have been having an "affair" with one of my husband's oldest friends. This guy lives over 500 miles away from us, and we have met up a few times, and talk for hours on the phone/e mails. I've left my husband, not for this guy, but for ...

Is this relationship normal or really screwed up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - On different occasions in the last 7 months I have posted questions regarding my relationship with my boyfriend. Just yesterday I realized how many different problems, big problems, we have that I have posted and asked for advice on. And now I'm ...

I made a list of the good things and the bad.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I wrote here a while back now, explaining the relationship I had with my ex boyfriend. One aunt on here suggested that I make a list of the good things about my relationship and the bad things. I am going to post my list, embarrassing as it is ...

Why have I never had a "normal" relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Why have I never had a "normal" relationship? In my life I have been involved seriously, with about 3 men - none of which I could class as having a serious normal relationship. The first guy I dated on and off for about 10 years but never let h...

So what does love and lust feel like?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I'm 14 and I don't know what love feels like. I've felt very attracted to other guys but when I've asked questions like this people tell me it's just lust and need. So what does love and lust feel like and don't go telling me I'm too young to know ...

What are the laws on student-teacher relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - hey :) I just popped on here to ask a simple and maybe somewhat controversial question but I shall discuss it whatever :) If you are 18 and want to pursue things with a teacher what EXACTLY are the laws on this? I understand people will tell me...

I just want to know what's wrong with me and find a way to stop feeling upset.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm 19 years old and have a lot of worries at the moment, to list a few: *my dad was made redundant just before xmas, he's trying so hard to get a job but can't, our family arent very wealthy anyway and although my parents always try and stay hap...

Questions about wedding etiquette...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5811 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hello fellow agony aunts and uncles. I was wondering if you guys could answer me a small question? At a wedding, can it still be completely tradition and etiquette as if its a traditional church wedding - for example, is the bride still give...

Is it realistic to think we could stay in love and get married eventually?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Is it possible to love someone since a teenager until marriage? Well that's how I feel, I really love her and she really loves me but I'm afraid there will be something bad happen on our way in the future and the thing is how do I go through if ...

How can he change so quickly???? I KNOW he's hurting here too...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am a 30 year single mum of 4, over 3 years ago I split with a violent ex. I met a fantastic man last year, he was a few years younger and didn't have children of his own. We met online and we chatted for 8 weeks, sometimes we were up all night. He ...

My wife's boss wants to get her pregnant then he will promote her!!!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hi my wife's boss wants to impregnate her with his child. My wife also wants it as he will promote her if she does so. Should I let it happen?...

Any advice on how to get her to come round to the fact that me and my boyfriend are an item would be appreciated.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Ok this is going to take quite a while so here goes. . Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year, there is quite a big age difference, I'm 19 he's 30 but that doesn't matter to us at all, the problem is my parents, well my mum especial...

What is your view of political socialization?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5813 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - what is your view of political socialization?...

Has anyone heard the expression "I should have rubbed you off...?"

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I must be getting old but has anyone heard the expression "I should have rubbed you off...". Does anyone know what this means specifically? Thanks....

When you are so hot and cold what do you want from me??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5813 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - Me and my ex split over twelve month ago after two years , I found out she was seeing someone else. I cause no fuss. We all work in the same building. All through the year she ahs been very hot and cold with me yet I have given her nothing to ...

She refused me. Should we stay friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - Should i remain friend to a girl who refused to be my girlfriend and how?...

Could someone give me a crash course on men?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Why would a guy not want to date someone who they are attracted to, someone who they have a lot in common with and always have a conversation about anything with? Why is he willing to sleep with a girl and not date her and is so afraid to commit? ...

I Googled and found his naked pictures, what now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Google search may have found more than I bargained for! Ive been casually dating this guy for about a month now.No talk of anything long term at this point,im not even sure if he is looking for that.Basically just enjoying each others company when ...

I want to date, but worry about my weight, should I be?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I love being single but I think Im tired of being single I want someone but im scared because two or three years ago people talked about my weight what should I do?...

How can I help my fiancee deal with her grief???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - HI, I was curious if anyone had any advice to help me both with helping my fiancee and with my own issues dealing with this. A few days ago my fiancee's brother took his own life. Since then my fiance has obviously been not feeling that gre...

Is there hope for us? He wants to have more children and get remarried....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 6 years. We have 1 son. I found out on his phone he had been cheating while working out of town. I divorced him but, we never legally separated. He's here. I am trying to deal with the pain. It's been ...

Afraid of giving a blow job!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I have been sexualy active for about 9 years.... but have never been able to bring myself to give someone a blowjob. It has almost become a phobia.... the reason I can think of causing the fear are: 1. I have issues with texture and food, which ...

I am in love with him but he doesn't respond ..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I was happily married for close to 10 years till I saw my dentist. I haven't been able to sleep or eat after I met him. The way he cupped my face to work on my tooth and his deep eyes - all is making me crazy. He is married and has kids. I know his ...

My gf played spin-the-bottle and kissed 7 people in a night. Now I am confused....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - How would you feel if your girlfriend kissed 7 people in a night ? Well that what my girlfriend did and i feel very bad on that and it was a spinning bottle game and i felt like people who play that just don't pay respect to their selves and righ...

My girlfriend wants to be able to kiss other guys

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5113 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - Hey guys, I am 19, and my GF is 18. Basically, my girlfriend loves me says I am perfect for her, says she wants to marry me and everything. Prior to this, I guess our lowest point is when she kissed a guy out clubbing drunk (i know no excus...

A hell of a lot going on here!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - Dear Agony Aunts, Uncles, and Whoever, Been some time since I was on the blog here and could use some good good advice. If there is any one out there with legel knowledge, please let me know and add your info too. We settled for the apartment we...

How can I be happy and stop bringing people around me down??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I'm so sad all the time and i don't know how to be happy. I can't think of one thing in life that i want that would make me happy and i'm really worried i'm bringing those around me down too......

Why do girls think I am looking at them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5810 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - The problem is every time I am around a girl they always think that I'm looking at them. Now, I don't know if it is just curtain girls being really vain, or if it is something that I am doing to make girls think that I am looking at them. Sometimes...

I wish my dream would come true

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5815 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - Is wrong to wish I was going to target every day with friends that are girls and letting them dress me up to look like the best girl I could be? That the dream I have every night and I am a guy. I turly wish it was true is that wrong? ...

Heaven for the trolls and immature people on the internet? the haters?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5812 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - Why are people so incredibly mean on the internet? I'm just really wondering. I know that people say that they don't have a heart and they are just starring at a pixel or username, but why do those immature brats keep forgetting about the person...

Should I make her or let her go?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - This is my first post on this site. I have a perplexing problem. My wife and I have some new friends. We have been going over to their home on the weekend. Sometimes it is rather docile. Sometimes it is not. We drink alcohol and chat. There are ...

Would you sacrific your own happiness for someone else?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5813 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Would you sacrific your own happiness for someone else? say you know that your significant other loves you dearly and you somehow fallen out of love with them. They are aware of it and you both are working to rekindle that love.. but you know that ...

Falsely accused of affair

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5815 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - My wife is convinced that I have had multiple affairs. I have never had a physical relationship with any woman, man, or animal outside of my marriage. Nothing I say or do has or will convince her that the affairs never happened. Today she calls ...

Sperm bank problems...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5807 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm going to cut to the chase, me and my wife have been in a domestic partnership for about 3 years, we had talked about having a baby through sperm banks once she was in her last year of school which is next year, well she couldn't wait and ...

Should I end this FWB relationship or tell him I want more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5815 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - I am currently in a "friends with benefits" situation. I'm going thru a divorce and he just got out of a serious relationship. On one hand, I am content with our relationship being casual...I don't want to rush into a full blown relationship just ...

How should I approach my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5816 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago. At the time I really thought there wasn't much of a long term thing going on. But, I am really having second thoughts. Now, I get so jealous at the thought of her moving on and dating. We haven't ...

I still care for this guy, but want to get over him, any good advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5816 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - I was with my ex for almost six months on and off and he was my first. He broke up with me because of commitment issues and said he really needed to concentrate on getting into law school. He insisted that we still remain friends and kept saying ...

My boyfriend's brother and I do not get along, how can I cope, without leaving my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5816 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - What to do when your boyfriends brother hates you???? I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we've been really close friends for couple years before we started dating. We started officially dating summer of '07 and for the first year ...

Guys: Is the first thing you notice about a girl REALLY the size of her chest?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5815 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - So, I'm in high school, and I've come to notice a trend in guys' behavior. (well the ones I'm around at least) They always stare at your chest. There's one guy, when asked if he knew me, said, "Oh yeah, she has really big boobs." Swear to God. My ...

Too busy to get married?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5814 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - Too busy to get married - what exactly does a guy mean when he says this? ...

Headgames???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5816 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - What is a head game? That is between male and female by definition/experience? Are there real feelings involved, or is it 'tricks'/ fantasy like an emotional affair as they are called today?? Or are headgames legitimate but there may be reasons for ...