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writes:Hello fellow agony aunts and uncles. I was wondering if you guys could answer me a small question?At a wedding, can it still be completely tradition and etiquette as if its a traditional church wedding - for example, is the bride still given away by her father?if not can someone get me registry office etiqueteI'm asking this as i have become recently engaged and i am now in the planning (luckily i have 17 months to go!!!) we have chosen a registry office and i only know church weddings. (yes i do feel dumb right now) Please reply? xLots of loveRaven
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (30 January 2009):
Ravenxx91 is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey thanks for the advice, basically a registry office has been chosen so no information needed and yeah thank you everyone the information is helpful - so basically it can be as unique as anything??
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Raven, this is your day and your wedding. While registry weddings tend to be less formal, if you want your father to give you away there will not be a 'wedding cop' standing at the door and telling you 'you are not allowed as this is not a formal church wedding!' Do what feels right to you and makes you happy.
That said, I agree completely with country woman about looking to do a civil wedding at a non church location. Who says the only choices are church or the court house? You can hire a non denominational 'minister' to marry you where ever you want! You can get married in a bed and breakfast inn, on a river boat, at a winery, at the zoo, at the local park, in your back yard, at a museum, at a local botanical garden, in a greenhouse, on the beach, at a swimming pool or while parachuting out of an airplane! If you can think of it, it can be done! Get creative and makes this wedding your own!
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Sweetheart at the end of the day rcn is very true. Your wedding day can be about what you want and if you want your father to walk you into a registry office I am almost certain that can happen.
You can also have civil services these days and they can be performed in your parents back garden if you want them to be. You can make the thing as special as you want it to be but you just have to locate a minister who will perform this for you, your local registry office can probably give you details of this.
Sometimes you can find local big houses that offer wedding services and sometimes they can arrange a minister/vicar on your behalf. If you know your local vicar you can talk to him or her about it to.
You can have a gazebo up in your back garden or hire out a marquee - whatever you want to do you can do almost anything these days, rules have been so much more relaxed than it used to be so don't feel silly for asking the question. You are being proactive and that is always good. Sometimes big hotels can have your wedding inside of them and also a reception but these sometimes have to be booked up to 1 or 2 years beforehand. Why not arrange a day where you and your fiance or mum can go with you and make a day of it.
Also why not look online and find out if there are any local wedding fayres you can go to that are local to you. You will definitely find something and you can get a lot of information from these events. I would say book the location provisionally and also the vicar/minister and then the rest you can have time to plan i.e. cake etc, really is up to you.
Hope some of the above helps.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 January 2009):
 The nice thing about weddings, anyway you want it, you can have it. This is your special day.
I don't know the U.K. rules, we now have Church rules in the U.S. where a wedding can't happen until the couple has gone through pre-marital counseling. They believe this reduces the divorce rate.
Other than checking on rules, you can design what you want anyway you want.
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