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writes:Hello everyone my name is Feeljoy please my question is: is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tomas  +, writes (3 February 2009):
Religion and politics are famously hard for people to talk about, because they are both terribly complicated and basically immune to scientific proofs. (Anyone got a spare universe or two we can run some tests on?)
So we all have ideas about how everything works, mostly handed down as wisdom by our families and our cultures, that we take on faith, which serve as frameworks to decide how best to live in the world and treat each other.
The goals and values underlying most of these systems are similar (treat people how you'd want to be treated, share things, look out for those less fortunate, work hard, be humble, etc.). But the languages and the history of these systems of belief are often exclusionary.
So to answer "is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life?"
Relationships last longer (and better) when there is a common set of goals and values, and a shared framework for understanding the world. This helps when conflict arises, as people have a shared "law" they can look to as arbiter.
Lasting relationships on earth can clearly happen between people for whom Christ (his message, his church) is not the way they understand the world. Most people in the world are not Christians, and they love just as deeply.
The more difficult question is whether someone who views Christ as central to their life can have a lasting relationship with someone who does not. I'd say this is only possible if both people respect one another's values and beliefs, and see them as different ways of expressing or understanding something they have in common.
If one or both people understand Christ (and the world through Christ) to be something exclusively Christian, then I'd think there'd be a danger of disrespect for one another than could be corrosive over a lifetime.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (30 January 2009):
of course you can. take my parents for instance, they are not religious, but yet they have been together for 26 years. my grandparents are also not religious and they have been together for 50 long years and love eachother dearly.
you don't need christ,allah or anyother god in your life for you to love someone else.
yes it's great for people to have faith and believes, but it shouldn't stop you from having a loving relationship if you don't believe in jesus and god.
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (30 January 2009):
 i agree very much with shortstuff4789...you do need the Jesus in your life to have a lasting relationship. yeah people can stay together without Jesus, but in order for their relationship to be meaningful and have a purpose they BOTH need Jesus.this is of course my opinion/belief. but the reason you asked says that either the Lord Jesus Himself but this inquiry on your heart or has placed this desire in someone that you love dearly heart.in either case He still has revealed Himself to you rather that be through your own personal desire or someone else. point He's put this inquiry in your mind/heart for a reason. He wants you to seek Him out. and discover for yourself who and what's He's all about. and can promise you that your relationship WILL be longer, lasting, truthful, pure, joyful, loving, and even in the bad times, if you have all of the above thats what real love is about. being joyful/peaceful even in the bad times.no one on here can really tell you about Christ unless they've experienced His love and kindness for theirself. some probably will stay together for 35yrs without Him, but do they know where their going when they die, or do they have any belief of when they die.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): Well, there are people who are very religious and in lasting relationships that aren't Christians and they seem to live very happy lives. Jewish people are a good example.
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reader, shortstuff4789 +, writes (30 January 2009):
 I dont think so. If you are a christian there are specific guidelines as to whom we should have relationships with. 2 Corinthians 6:14-16"14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people" (King James Version)or in a more plain text:2 Corinthians 6:14-16"14 Do not keep company with those who have not faith: for what is there in common between righteousness and evil, or between light and dark? 15 And what agreement is there between Christ and the Evil One? or what part has one who has faith with one who has not? 16 And what agreement has the house of God with images? for we are a house of the living God; even as God has said, I will be living among them, and walking with them; and I will be their God, and they will be my people. " (Bible in Basic English)This guildline was put in place to see that we do have lasting realtionships. We must be wary of non belivers because the devil will try to lead us astray. that does not mean you shouldnt talk to them but rather try to show them through your actions the love of God and if they have questions answer them. i hope this helps.shortstuff4789
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Yes, absolutely, you can have long lasting and meaningful and wonderful fullfilling relationships without jesus in your life at all. Care to give us some more information so that we can help you better?
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 January 2009):
 I think i relationship with Christ will last longer because ,during time of struggles, they focus on something else than their current situation.
Therefor, avoiding arguments with spouses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): That's a very general question, could you be more specific as to what you mean,please?
Do you mean any kind of relationship?
Do you mean you don't believe in christ?
Do you mean you like someone that doesn't believe?
If you want a general answer then, yes, of course there are lasting relationships without christ, the relationship between parents and children/mother and son,these are in most cases lifelong relationships.
If you are speaking solely of love, then yes that is also possible,but I can't say anymore than that without further details.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (30 January 2009):
 I'm guessing you mean a lasting relationship with another person? My mum and dad celebrated? their 35th wedding anniversary yesterday and they don't believe in christ and never have. They have had some tough times in the past, but always stuck together.
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