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writes:I'm 14 and I don't know what love feels like. I've felt very attracted to other guys but when I've asked questions like this people tell me it's just lust and need. So what does love and lust feel like and don't go telling me I'm too young to know coz that really annoys me and I don't want advice on my sexuality either! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): Love seems like a touchy topic. Guess i'm around your age and have a very keen attraction to somebody who i won't mention. The first time I saw him I had weird feelings never felt and still do every time I walk past or something. Don't think i'll get him outta my head for a long time but i know it would have to be lust seeing as i'm rarely around him and have no clue what his interest are etc. God it's a powerful feeling tho and i wish i could talk to him more but 9 out of 10 chance he'll have a different sexual orientation to me (aka be straight) but i guess things might work out and i'll actually find love and have more of those incredible feelings with someone. Love/lust sucks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): I'm a little uncertain about this as while but I'll throw in my two cents on this topic. I don't think love is necessarily NEEDING the person or thinking about them all the time. That is obsession. A lot of people say loving them is willing to do ANYTHING for them because they're your purpose for living. I don't think that's it. I think if you love someone you will indeed care about their welfare (which, yes, may induce you to do a lot for them, even give your life in some cases). It's like the care you have for your family. If your mom was in danger or example, you would be genuinely worried and angry at whoever was threatening her. But that person you love doesn't need to take up so much of your emotions and thoughts that they become your purpose in life. That's obsession. I think love is when you feel tender affection for ordinary aspects of them that you may not necessarily be able to explain (and not just lust or the desire to touch them). Some say love is a reflection of our inner selves. Maybe that's why it's so mysterious and also why we each have different things we love and different definitions of it. Because everyone experience love differently, I won't tell you what your definition of love is. That's for you to experience. But here's a simple summary: love is a feeling of tender affection for someone, which isn't lust. Of course you will feel lust if you're in love (that's the basics of attraction. If we didn't lust, there would be something wrong with us) but there's another feeling too.
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reader, samantha_love  +, writes (31 January 2009):
love is when it hurts to b away from the=at special person when yuor day isent complete with out talking to them love is when everytime that special person touches you your heart rate jumps and you get butterflies n your tummy love is careing about that person so much that yuo would b willing to die for them if they were n danger and most of all love is when you cant imagine yourself with anyone else or it hurts to imagine them with someone elsebest of luck
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reader, Podge +, writes (29 January 2009):
 you're not to young, if your experiencing these feelings then your not. If your confused and wodering if its lvoe or not then its not, you'l know when you are trust me. Lust is just wanting somebody, which is perfectly normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Good question. I am the same age and felt how it is about 6 months ago. It's hard to describe. My stomach was really hurting and every emotion felt exagerated 10 times over. I nearly was (love) sick at the time. It's amazing
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reader, cdjudd +, writes (29 January 2009):
That is an excellent question. Love is really too hard to put into words. Every emotion you feel when in love, is completely astonishing. Lust is just the physical attraction really. It has nothing to do with love. For example, lust would be you having intercourse with someone, and only feeling a physical attraction and nothing else. Hope this helps your understanding somewhat.
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