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writes:I was happily married for close to 10 years till I saw my dentist. I haven't been able to sleep or eat after I met him. The way he cupped my face to work on my tooth and his deep eyes - all is making me crazy. He is married and has kids. I know his is a troubled marriage but he is not responding to me, he acts very very professional. I try to make attempts frequently so that I see him. I am getting very restless and nervous about whether he likes me or not. Please advise !!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, IDoWhatIWant  +, writes (27 January 2009):
 I strongly agree with the anonymous reader...Change dentist.
What about your husband? He loves you, no? Why cause him pain... You love him too, or did? I dunno, but i really dont think you should waste him like that. The dentist doesn't like you, its only a job. Its hard to hear that individuals that you like doesn't like you but that dentist seems to be a proffesional, and i dont think he'll notice you, more than as a patient.
Really think about what you're willing to do, and what pain it'll cause both you and the people in your surrounding.
What if it doesn't go well with the dentist? Then you've thrown out the happy home you've already got.
Go to a therapist, and see what she/he tells you. Dont waste your money and time on that dentist, seriously.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): Why do you care if he likes you!?! Your married!
You REALLY need to keep reminding your self that! In a marriage there ARE ups and downs, but right now (even if you dont realize it) your taking advantage of him on his time of need. Might even consider cheating! Just stay away from him! Avoid him the best you can!
If he did like you would you go through with it anyway?
Could you break up two families?
All the best xx
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (27 January 2009):
If he is not making any responses the chances are, unfortunately, that he may not be interested! Sometimes us mere mortals end up fantasising over professional people in charge of us like doctors, nurses, teachers and dentists too etc - but a fantasy is often all it becomes!!On the rare occasion that professional people do get involved - they will show you a sign and make it obvious that they are interested too! - So if it happens - you'll know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): Please get yourself another dentist. You don't know anything about his marriage... if it is true it is trouble then the appropriate thing to do is to stay away, whether it is troubled or not... he is off limits, he is married.He is not interested in you, he has kept his relationship with you very professional, you are wasting your money making appointments to see him and you are acting the fool.Get a grip, go see a therapist and find out why you are willing to throw away 10 years of marriage for a fling with a guy who turns you on by his deep eyes......Do you see that you are acting as a direct threat to his wife and family? You mean them harm, you mean to break up their family and are justifying it in your head that he is tragically unhappy and all he needs is to find you.This is not a trashy romance novel, this is real life. This man has reasons not to get involved with you both because of his profession and because he has a family.Leave the guy alone, get a new dentist and get yourself some help.....you have a hole in your soul for some reason and you are trying to fill it through fantasy....find out what you need to do to heal the hole in your soul by yourself and leave this poor man and his family alone.
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