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writes:Me and my ex split over twelve month ago after two years , I found out she was seeing someone else. I cause no fuss. We all work in the same building. All through the year she ahs been very hot and cold with me yet I have given her nothing to reflect on me as a “loser”. I have got on with it though it hurt.I’m not sure if she is still with him, but reports to the end of last year suggested it may not be.All through the year she would do things to try and get my attention, sort of see if I’m still interested.The latest one today, as I was as I was leaving work, I got in my car in the secure car park, and happened to notice she was about to come in. There was another car waiting to leave and it left. I decided I would wait in may car until she parked up and went into the building. I knew she wouldn’t have to walk past me, so I wouldn’t have to look at her, I find it easier that way one day I get a smile the next not, so I’m sort of at the point where I cant be bothered. Anyway I wait, it’s a moment or two before she drives on to the car park, the I realise she had seen me and she was waiting for me to drive out so I would have to pass her. I don’t I think I will sit here till she is out of sight. I wait I wait she parks up and as I say she doesnt have to walk past me so I think great. Im trying to work out where she is in my mirror, I cant see her, so I decide to go.I then see her hovering around her car looking in my direction, she is clearly playing for time, I don’t look at her, I can get away with it without seeming rude as im concentrating on my driving. She clearly wants me to acknowledge her and has made an effort to force our paths to cross.My question is this why do this when your so hot and cold with me, what do you want from me and why ? Did I do right to ignore her in the manner I did ??
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reader, shiraz +, writes (28 January 2009):
hiyah, your both obviously missing each other.. past is past at least everything is open as it always comes back on you when you dont want it to. The way you acted was ok as i can see your point but try not to get to involved too soon, your not actually making conversation and until you decide you want to start talking then carrying on second guessing each other will continue for some time, until one decides to make the move. you seem to still like her and she likes you but theres a lot that needs rebuilding, if it even can, its always a risk just depends on if you want it enough
Best of luck xxx
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