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Archived questions from: October, 2008 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

How does a person who has been molested know when they're ready for a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - How does a person who has been molested know when they're ready for a relationship? How does the molested person know that what they are feeling for some guy is really real as opposed to just being obsessed with the person?...

Should I get him a gift in return for his good advice?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - I've recently become FWB with a co-worker (we work in separate departments). He gave me some advice regarding an accident I was in, and as a result I've come into some money (over $800), which will really help me out with some bills, altho he says I ...

Am I jumping to conclusions here?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - Should I jump to conclusions? At my job, everything is computerized. Everyone has a login and password to access information about patients. Personal information such as work schedules, residence, pay rate, etc is also stored on our web page. No...

What clothes would look good on me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - this isnt a question that usually appears on here, but, i have no idea what clothes i should wear to suit my body. i have; broad/big shoulders (so i cant wear puffball sleeves) a small neck (and look ridiculous in polar-necks) quite long l...

How do I cope with her sleeping with male strippers?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (M) - my problem is that it feels like im dating a man sometimes! my girlfriend is CONSTANTLY checking out other men, all the time, whenever i catch her she says 'sorry' and that she didnt realize she was doing it. she admitted to me that she looks at ...

This guy has helped me out a lot, but does not want a relationship, am I wasting my time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - This guy and I went to high school together (he had a crush on me, and I didn't know it), I graduated and moved away. He graduated the next year, we lived our lives for the next 20 years and ran into each other one night. We started talking on the ...

Is this what you would call 'love'?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years and I love him very much but I do worry that I dont know what love is and so worry that maybe I dont love him.I know its silly and im 23 years old,I feel like I should know better.I ...

Hope I can get an honest answer here!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5901 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - Hi! hope i can get a honest answer here...i've got a bf and i love him a lot and he loves me the same way. he's very nice and kind. only i'm not used to the kind of relationship he's got with his sister...i think i'm a bit jelous and i'm almost ...

How many times do you call your partner per day?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

31 October 2008 (M) - She works at night time and there will be days she works alone in her department. She text for me to call back. It happened few times so I guess she is lonely. I decided to call her everyday during her break time. The problem now is, she do...

I work in a man's world here and I feel my work and accomplishments, are overlooked! Any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5902 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - This is not really a romance question but I know there are some people here who could maybe help me with this. I am working on a government committee and I have written some resolutions which were voted the best in the area that I live in. I ...

What does the word "emotionally" really mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - Hi, what does emotionally mean? I mean if someone says "I've never been close emotionally to someone before..." what does it mean?? I'm a bit confused ...

Is he losing interest already?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 2 or 3 months and I'm having the time of my life. It seemed that he was too, but over the last 2 weeks or so he hasn't been sending me the cute little messages he used to or giving me compliments when we're together. ...

Why do some people constantly disrespect others by trying to force their religeous beliefs on them

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 5902 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - This is no doubt going to be a controversial topic but here goes: I am an atheist and quite happy with my beliefs. However I quite happily respect and accept everyone else's beliefs nor do I ever disrespect anyone else's beliefs / religions etc by...

Short question, What does this mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - This is a simple short question, i know i sound silly but i was a little confused when someone said this to me, "i wouldnt think u would differ from the truth" what does this mean???...

Are our lives predestined?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - We all know that things happen whether they are good or bad.... but do you think that whatever happens to you in your life was supposed to happen to you? I mean is it to teach you a lesson or is it just that things happen? What if it was bad, am I ...

Is there anything else I can try as in my state with anorexia I am unlikely to last longer.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5904 days ago

30 October 2008 (F) - I'm 20 years old, I have an ok life with a boyfriend who suffers from depression and sometimes lashes out due to alcohol and drug problems. I missed out on my teenage years due to being thrown out by my mum who left the country when I was 15 I lived ...

He is very angry and says I don't care about him...what more can I do??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5904 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - My 20yr old boyfriend and i have been dating on and off for about ten months. over of which he has gotten a dui and lost his license for a year. i moved 4 hours away from him, for school that offered me a scholarship, about 3 months ago. i have been ...

How can I help support him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5904 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - He is upset with how his life is right now with working and lack of money? How can I help and support him? And what is the differance between emotionally connected and mentally connected? Because he told me that he connects with me emotiona...

Sometimes I think about death and it really scares me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

29 October 2008 (M) - I have had a very good life and enjoyed all it had to offer. I still very much appreciate and enjoy everything that is around me and every day. I have a very good and happy life. However at my age, I am getting closer to end of my life. I don't need ...

Am I making the right decision to keep my baby?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5895 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - My Mum has always been my one and only source of unconditional love and support and the day she suddenly died was the most devastating of my life. I'm 26 and feel like I had the most important person in my life who I shared this unbelievable bond ...

I absolutely know it wasn't the sex. Is there something wrong or am I just 'trippin'?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

29 October 2008 (M) - I have started dating this woman a couple of weeks ago. She texted me 3-8 times per day. We saw each other 3 times. I spent the night 2 outa 3 of those times, the first night I spent the night, [in the morning] she asked me to come back that evening ...

I'm almost certain I'm straight, except for this. Can you help please?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5869 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - Yeah, I know you're all bored to death of these "I fancy my teacher" questions, and I can't claim that mine is different or extraordinary, but these feelings are messing up my life. I had this (female) english teacher last year. I started of hatin...

He denies being registered on an adult friend finder site, and now he's in a mood with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year. However, last week he left his hotmail accout on at my house, and i discovered that he had registered with 'adultfriendfinder', a sex hook up website, saying he was single and looking for one on one sex. ...

I spent an amazing summer with him. I go abroad and he hooks up with another woman in only two weeks after I'm gone !!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5904 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - Thank you for reading, I know it's a novel! Sorry!! I met a guy on a dating/social website in May, and we started dating in July shortly there after, he asked if I would be his ‘girlfriend’ I didn’t see much point since I was moving in a mont...

Why didnt she listen to what I said?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5895 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - My ex-boyfriend broke up with me in August and started seeing someone else straight away. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant by him. I told him and he said he would support my decision of what I wanted to do. I wanted to keep the baby and ...

How do I drag him away from his computer and into my bed?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5903 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for a while now, and it seems that he never wants to have sex. It seems like he's much more interested in his computer games. Any suggestions as to how I could get him more in the mood?? Like what are some things I could do ...

I'm still in love and missing her terribly, please help.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5900 days ago

29 October 2008 (M) - I'm a married man in a love affair with a married woman. It seems that her husband has an idea of my exitence. Because of this she says she cannot seem me anymore the way we used to!!! But having said that we talk everyday and she tells me how much...

What on Earth is going through my boyfriend's mind?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5905 days ago

29 October 2008 (F) - I really need to understand what the hell is going on in my boyfriends mind. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months. I am 18 and he is 23, and we both live at home and are both studying. He says he doesnt want to move out of home and ...

What can I do to control myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5905 days ago

29 October 2008 (M) - I'm 19 and I just simply put can't get over my sexual urges and I end up masturbating. Honestly for me this is just extremely frustrating even though my head and rationality says something else my body tell me another. I've had strong sexual ur...

I'm attracted to his mind but not his body. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5904 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hello everyone, I need some help. My problem is long so bare with me. I have been talking to this man via text message for quite some time now. I have never met him in person but i met him on the internet quite a while ago. It started out talking on ...

In a mess with a married man

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5899 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I want to know if married guys who don't have children with their wives ever leave them? The guy I am seeing hasn't had sex with his wife in 5yrs. After they got married she told him she was going through menopause and didn't care for a man anymore. ...

My mum just confessed to me that she and my husband have been sleeping together!!!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5904 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I really need some advice on my very complicated situation! On September 8, my mother who is my best friend also, confessed to me that she and my husband have been sleeping with each other, from the time we started dating up until i got pregnant ...

Just how important am I to her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5905 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I wanna ask how can i tell if my gf wants to be with me and only me, or is she with me just when she has noone else to turn to.... she rings me during Lunch when she is at work, she rings me sometimes during the evening, when I am at work during t...

My girlfriend is starting to ask my help in paying her bills

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5078 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I have a girlfriend who i love very much and she says she loves me, she works nights in people care and exhausts herself doing it to pay her mortgage and bills and the money is not going far enough so shes started asking me for money to make up the ...

What is the differance between a man admiring beauty and lusting after a woman?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5905 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I would like to ask everyone's opinion. What is the difference between a man looking at a woman and admiring her beauty, vs a man looking at a woman and lusting? ...

Could this be emotional abuse?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5891 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi I think I have been in an abusive relationship. Started dating in February, he was loving and things were good. but slowly over time he showed he had a short fuse, ranted to me on the phone about spending time with family, said our time pre...

I want to leave my husband but I can't bring myself to do it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5905 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My husband and I have been together 10 years and have 3 kids. I want to leave him but I can't bring myself to do it. We constantly fight, he curses me and even calls our kids names, I hate him for how he acts. I've asked him to go to counseling ...

Why is he turning on the only person who wants to help? ME!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5906 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I'm really upset. My boyfriend has gotten really depressed lately to explain this I better start from the beginning. We met years ago and stayed friends until we lost contact because I moved away and lost my phone. He moved house and then a year ...

Ladies, how much does physical attractiveness, in a man, mean to you?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5905 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I feel so insecure about my body these days, I know I'm not at the peek of physical fitness but I am an active person and feel like I shouldn't have to be the guy rippling with muscles and washboard abs. What I want to know is... Women how much...

I hate to think that he stopped loving me altogether..so how do I interpret his text messages?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5906 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My ex and I have started talking again after some very steep ups and downs. It has all been through text messaging so it's hard to interpret. I try to keep things short, sweet and to the point. When I say something that doesn't require an answer ...

Is there a cure for shy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5905 days ago

27 October 2008 (M) - Hello, my question is how can I cure my shyness? I am very shy and, my main problem is I just don't know what to talk about. I know it seems weird, but when I see someone I just say hello and I'm really stressed about what I should say next. I kee...

What should I do to make this a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5905 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - I am basically don't know what i am wanting, but i have been seeing a guy for almost a month, i don't even know if we a in a relationship or is just the sex, whenever we see each other, we either just french kiss and then have sex.. I wanted to make ...

Do I drop a great relationship to sow wild oats?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4818 days ago

27 October 2008 (M) - I've been tossing myself back and forth lately about making a decision about a wonderful relationship I'm currently in. Just a little background about myself first -- I was an extremely "dorky" and awkward teeneager growing up. School was such ...

Do men mean it when they say "I love you"?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5906 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - While we were laying in bed the other night, he told me he had something he wanted to tell me. I got nervous and thought it was something bad, but it wasn't he said I love you. And I believe he meant it because men don't say the three words if they ...

He says he connects with me emotionally but not mentally. What does he mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5877 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - The same guy I have been dating said he hasn't connected with another girl emotionally since 6 years ago with the girl he was going to marry. He told me that he connects with me emotionally but not mentally and he wants to. How should I take that ...

I would love to sing and dance professionally, but is it too late...I'm 38...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5906 days ago

27 October 2008 (?) - When I was younger, I dreamed of being a singer/dancer/actor. But this was back in the 70's and 80's and my parents considered it to be a poor career choice and wouldn't send me to drama school. I was told at my own school that I had talent but as t...

I'M SO CONFUSED!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5896 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - My question is, I don't understand whether I love him [still] OR/AND why I'm feeling this way? Here is my story: When I moved [Beginning of school] , I obviously didn't know anyone but i got close to this guy [ill call him batman] who sits beside ...

We kissed and now I don't know what to do!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5906 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - well, my friend and i are really close. one night we stayed up and then we fell asleep. then i woke up an hour later and he was watching me sleep and was closer than ever, he was in my personal space. then he asked if we could cuddle. i was like i ...

Why am I the secret girlfriend??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5906 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - I'm in my early 20s and dating a guy in his late 40s for about 3 months. We're both successful and have a great time together. There's one problem though, he tries to hide me from everyone in his life. There are very few mutual friends that know ...

How do I get more comfortable with sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5893 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - I am in a new relationship...about 3 months old and my boyfriend is ready to have sex but im not sure that i am ready. I am a virgin...well he penetrated one time and there was some blood but he didnt penetrate again because I was nervous. I can ...