A
female
age
30-35,
*aime90
writes:I really need to understand what the hell is going on in my boyfriends mind.I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months. I am 18 and he is 23, and we both live at home and are both studying. He says he doesnt want to move out of home and live with someone unless he is married. I dont get it. He says whats left if we have already had sex then what is going to be so special about getting married. But he didnt chose to be a virgin or anything so how can he complain about there not being anything left? What about having kids and buying a home together? Calling each otehr husband and wife? Does anyone else share this point of view? The thing i dont get is that he moved out with his ex last year when she was pregnant with their baby! How can he be ok with having a baby when he isnt even with the girl anymore but not want to move in together until married??Is the relationship workig towards anything? I thought we were walking towards moving out! Then he says how we need our own place because it sucks how we always have to be quiet when were in bed at our houses with our parents around. And sometimes he does talk about us living together.I love him so much and i know he loves me the same. I dont know what it means but! I need to know if anyone else has similar beliefs?
View related questions:
his ex, moved out Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): LMAO! this sounds exactly like my situation, only its long distance... is that you Sarah? joking! no but seriously, you have to confront your b/f about this issue, the same way you did here, thats what my g/f did.. and i now see it from her point of view. I think that you are just stressing out about your situation and you rae trying to "plan" a future because you are afraid of it falling apart, this is exactly what my g/f told me, note i am 23 she is 18 and doing her hsc, i know her future is very important to her. I think just bring it up with him next time you guys are talking about the subject, try not to be to pushy, just say your scared and you love him and what to know what the future holds. Goodluck!
|
