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writes:I'm really upset. My boyfriend has gotten really depressed lately to explain this I better start from the beginning. We met years ago and stayed friends until we lost contact because I moved away and lost my phone. He moved house and then a year later I got in touch with him through a friend. I moved down to london and he agreed to help me by letting me stay at his. He was a heroin addict at the time and myself having experience with this problem I helped him. I spent all the money I had because he wanted a better life and I decided to kiss him. He was really happy and we've now been together 10 months - Suddenly depression has hit and he wants heroin and is telling me he doesn't love me anymore and that he's leaving and wants to die. I caught him in our bedroom and he'd burnt his arms with lighter fluid and stubbed cigarettes out on his hands. I have an eating disorder and I can't take stress anymore I need to help him but he's cutting me out and seems so distant. He's sleeping in our car tonight rather than sleep with me. I've done nothing wrong even my friends say I dote on him and treat him like a king. Making him feel special. Why is he turning on the only person who wants to help? And the only person who loves him since his family have turned their backs. He's making me feel unloved, we'd both planned to spend the rest of our lives together now it seems I'll be burying him pretty soon. I really love him but no matter how much I say it won't change his mind. He's cut off all physical contact towards me and I'm in a mess and really need a hug right now and for him to tell me all the things he usually tells me. Like I'm the most beautiful, special girl in the world. And that he's so lucky and that I saved his life and made him happier than he ever thought he could be. I can't cope please help I don't want him to die.
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reader, RON_499  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Well I have never had any experience with these kinda problems but still I'll try my best to help you. First of all, you need to be strong for yourself as well as for him. If you break down then he's as good as dead. Sorry about that!!!. Why don't you try telling him to get some counseling, scratch that off, I mean force him to get some counseling. If he doesn't listen then you need to get some help from a couple of guys and do it, just be careful when he's high and stuff like that.If he really did love you he will definitely get over this. Even if he says that he doesn't love you, still you need to try and you need to tell him not to be selfish and that he needs to live for you cos if he's not with you then you won't be able to move forward. It's gonna be damn hard but you gotta try for his sake. Hopefully after all this counseling and stuff like that he's gonna be fine and I'm pretty sure if you just keep at it and have faith everything's gonna be fine okay?
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