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writes:I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years and I love him very much but I do worry that I dont know what love is and so worry that maybe I dont love him.I know its silly and im 23 years old,I feel like I should know better.I have always worried like this but I know I dont want to loose my partner...please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): Thanks so much for all of your help and advise,I think the reason I am so insucure steams from watching my parents go through a very messy divorce when I was 13.Knowing that they wernt able to have strong loving relationship made me feel that I didnt deserve one and some thing had to be wrong.I know now that these feelings are unfair on myself and that what me and my partner have together is so special and I need to just enjoy what we have.
Thanks again so much every one
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (31 October 2008):
 There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. If you said that you love him very much that is enough for a relationship however maybe you have an issue of showing effection, thats why maybe you don't really know what love is. Another theory could be that you are phycologicaly looking for true love, which is being in love with someone.
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reader, ashleym626  +, writes (31 October 2008):
basically here arew my ideas on love and how you know you love someone. For starters you have to be in a place in your life where you are willing to make sacrifices and hold someones elses feeling up as high as you hold your own. Love is work you have to work to have love, and stay in love you have to try everything to make the other person happy if you care about them enough. He should also be doing the same for you. love is being with a person and sometimes even when you dont feel you are in the wrong you will be the first too apologize because its not worth fighting with someone you love. If you never would do anything to hurt them and think about there feeling as much as you think of your own well then I would say you definitely love him
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (31 October 2008):
I think sometimes people over complicate the word 'love'. Considering you have been with your bf for 3 years suggests to me that there must be something strong there to make it work that long and to keep you both there, and this could be very well love.
If you are with your bf for the right reasons, such as being with him for who he is, not what he has (such as money) or what he can do for you, then I would think its safe to say you do love him.
What would scare you most about loosing your bf? I think whatever your answer to that is a good indication of whether or not its love.
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