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writes:Hi! hope i can get a honest answer here...i've got a bf and i love him a lot and he loves me the same way. he's very nice and kind. only i'm not used to the kind of relationship he's got with his sister...i think i'm a bit jelous and i'm almost ashamed of that because i shouldn't feel this way. the thing is that he's 30 and she's 24 and they're very attached to each other. nothing wrong with that...but it feels strange to me when they sleep in the same bed (single bed) hugging each other...or if he's in the toilet she would go in as well and vice versa...they don't mind if they're naked...i know for sure there's nothing sexual about it (100%) but am i crazy not to be comfortable with this situation? i even told him and it breaks his heart that i could be offended by that...help! what do you think? am i wrong??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): thanks all for your replies. i've spoken to my bf and told him how i feel. he was quite in shock that i could find that behaviour abnormal and almost got emotional for the fact that it could bother me so much. he said he never thought there could be anythin wrong with that because he doesn't even see his sister as 'another woman' or 'a woman' at all. for him she's just his sister, like a part of his own body...like a mum would feel for his son...and he doesn't understand how it could be wrong to have a special relationship with his sister when they share the same blood...and if people think there's something sexual in that then their mind is pervert...but he said he can change for me but just needs time, he's gonna change little by little...
i said to him i really appreciate he would change for me even if i don't understand why he wants to take his time to do that, i mean, what's the big deal? why can't he just stop? i don't know...
what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Of course none of this is strange to me, but then again little sounds strange to me. Many families, especially those that practice Nudism are as comfortable in underwear and in the nude as the are in their outside clothes. Sleeping in bed together, well nothing wrong with that either. Finding the two together sounds a bit strange, as strange as this post I think. Just tell your boyfriend and his sister it makes you feel uncomfortable because you were brought up different and ask them to stop.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (31 October 2008):
 Hello!
I have a friend who is 22, when she is at home she can walk around in her underware when her mum and dad are around, I find it weird...
Also another friend of mine likes to sleep with other people, not in a sexual way - when her brother who is a year younger (they are in their twenties) used to visit her, they would sleep in the same bed. Also when I was around she offered for me to sleep in the same bed as her which I have declined. I dont like sharing the bed with anyone except for my boyfriend, even with my sister or little brother.
So sleeping together I guess is not a big deal. But walking around naked sounds strange to me indeed...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 October 2008):
 Of course you are not wrong, this situation is sick and wrong. It also doesn't make ME 100% sure there is nothing sexual going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): thanx for your honest reply. what about the fact they sleep in the same bed? is that normal?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (31 October 2008):
If I was you, I'd find that a bit weird and uncomfortable too. Ive been brought up in a family where its not ok for the opposite sex to see each other naked unless they are in a relationship type of thing. So in my opinion, thats inappropiate.
I dont understand why they need to go into the toilet at the same time together??? Is it that one is in there and the other cant wait to go, so they go in there when its being used? Honestly that doesnt make any sense to me why the ywould both need to go in there together. Id liek to hear how they explain why they do that.
So I dont think you are crazy to be not comforbtale with this situation.
What to do about it? I really dont know...
Hopefully someone else with have a better answer. I just wanted to let you know you're not crazy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Oh, MY Gosh! No, you are not wrong at all! brother's and sister's do not do that kind of stuff. they are both adults!!!! That's a BIG no no. siblings that old should have stopped sleeping in the same bed with each other back when they were 7-8 years old. This is a very odd situation. I think you need to sit down with your b/f and explain to him that this is not normal. Don't be rude about it though. you could make him mad or scare him off. Just tell him you are not comfortable with the situation and ask if he could please, put an end to it. Good Luck!
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