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writes:Hello everyone, I need some help. My problem is long so bare with me. I have been talking to this man via text message for quite some time now. I have never met him in person but i met him on the internet quite a while ago. It started out talking on the internet then got to text messages. Even though i never met him we became friends and I feel like I got to know him better than anyone else ever has. Problem he claims he has fallen in love with me and I believe him. He is the sweetest guy EVER! He worships the ground i walk on and thinks i hang the moon, not trying to sound concited here but its true. He would do anything for me. He thinks Im perfect and he treats me like gold. He is the man all women would die to have. He cannot find fault with me. He claims if we dated he would be with me forever and only me.Im not a sucker.I am skeptical of all nice guys because Ive been hurt before. I really believe him though. Problem is iam not physically attracted to him to say the least, well at least as far as the pictures Ive seen because I have never met him in person. He is very overweight and very unnattractive. However, despite his looks i have started, i think to fall for him a little bit. he thinks i have fallen for him too and i deny it but i cant help but think maybe I have. I know i sound horrible and I hate myself right now for being so shallow but i never considered myself shallow. Let me go and say he is so unattractive that most women would not even talk to him. However I think i might be starting to fall for him because of his personality. What should I do? Should I try a relationship with him or let it go becuase of the lack of physical attraction? I need answers. Please help. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): I disagree, sex/lust is simportant no matter how much love can transcend. That kind of love is just too rare and idealistic when in practice it doesn't work.
Sex is a need, and if he can't fulfil it that way then don't bother getting attached otehrwise people will start getting hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): Love has no bounds, love is not sex, love is not infatuation, and LOVE IS NOT LUST. Love is liking someone for who they are, regardless of wieght, face, shape etc, Loving someone is what makes life worth living, even better when that person loves you back. I think you are in love with him and are confused because he does not rate in phsyical attraction to you. I think give it a shot, because remember... you only live once. Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): No it'd be unfair on him. A man likes to know he's satisfying his woman, if he can't do that for you then don't start anything.Though he should be doing something about his being overweight. Every man and woman should look after themselves.
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