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writes:My ex-boyfriend broke up with me in August and started seeing someone else straight away. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant by him. I told him and he said he would support my decision of what I wanted to do. I wanted to keep the baby and I wanted him to get back with me but by this time he and his new GF were getting on realy well and liked each other loads. She didnt know about the situation as we didnt want anyone to know til we knew what we were doing. I cold tell he didnt want to leave her and because of this I decided to have an abortion, not only because Im too young (23) to bring up the child up alone but because I love my ex so much I couldnt bear to have to be linked to him for the rest of my life if he didnt want me. It killed me when he split up with me and started seein sumone else. Anyway, I had the abortion but afterwards I felt awful, I was crying all the time and I was unable to speak to anyone about it cos nobody knew. The only person who knew was my ex but he got on with his life with the new girl, in fact to be honest, he didnt want to know. So, I started drinking loads and one night I sent loaads of nasty emails to his new GF. I blamed her for me feeling like this and blamed her that I had an abortion, if my ex was stil with me I would of kept the baby. In the emails I was really nasty about my ex, I wanted her to hate him. But instead she showed him all the messages and he stopped to talking to me. I went on holiday for a few weeks with my sister to sort my head out. Now Im back and my ex it still not talking to me and his gf is still with him, which annoys me cos of the things I said about him I thought she would split up with him. Why didnt she listen to what I said? Does she think that he's gonna treat her any better to me? Im feeling alot better about things but Im so annoyed that while ive been feeling like this, him and her have been having fun. I feel like telling her the whole story. Im worried cos I know when I do see her I will probably do something to her. Why am I feeling like this and blaming this girl who didnt even know the full story?
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reader, kody08  +, writes (7 November 2008):
breaking up is one of the hardest things to do inlife expecially in the situation u were in but everything happens for a reason and continuing to try to stay attached will do nothing but drive you seriouslly insain. What you honestly have to do is wake up and realize that there is always better. Go get your hair and nails done and get back out thee and dont let him see you hurting because you moving on will make you feel 100 times better i can almost promise you that, hope the best
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reader, agony aunt floss +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Dear anonymous,
I can understand your anger but do you honesly think shes going to listen to you over her boyfriend. i think in your situation you did the best best thing for you and your 'baby'. In a few months time you'll look back on this and realise how strong its made you so let them have there fun and dont punish your ex's girlfriend because shes really done nothing wrong. hope everything goes well.
.Agony Aunt Floss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): this guy sounds like he doesn't seem to care about you or the baby.. you are soo better off without him. he is a complete idiot hun and has made you feel really depressed.
that girl will soon find out dont you worry. "what goes around comes back around"..keep remembering that..and soon he will be left with no-one..
try to focus on the positive things in your life.. treat yourself and build up your confidence again, go out and meet new guys and soon you will feel a bit better but it will take time.. cut the ex out of your life. he is not worth another thought! trust me..any guy who would treat a woman like that isnt worth it.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Honestly if I ever received a nasty, emotion driven email from an ex girlfriend of one of my boyfriend I would just assume she was some bitter ex who didn't have her stuff together.
If you had spoken to her one on one, calmly and rationally with the intention of helping her out (NOT making yourself feel better) then maybe, just maybe she might have at least thought about you said.
But truth be told, most people, even if they heard the negativity from their family, best friends, whoever they respect most will still see a situation through to find out for themselves.
Unfortunately we all need to learn from our own mistakes, not those of others.
You are not doing this to help her anyway, you're clearly doing it to get him back (Despite all of these nasty attributes he apparently possesses).
I think you need to speak to a professional about this.
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