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writes:I want to know if married guys who don't have children with their wives ever leave them? The guy I am seeing hasn't had sex with his wife in 5yrs. After they got married she told him she was going through menopause and didn't care for a man anymore. I've been seeing him since April of 2008. Before I started seeing him, one day he told me he was in love with me. We work together and we talked all the time about everything under the sun. After awhile I fell in love with him to but he hasn't left his wife yet. I am single after a 3yr abusive relationship and I live alone so he could move in with me. He said he wants to do that but needs more time to get things in order what ever that means. I'm just getting tired of it and I've told him he is never gonna leave but he says he is. I don't sit around waiting on him to leave his wife, I still go on with my life. I need some advice on what to do about this situation. He said he doesn't love her so why hasn't he left?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Hi there.
I spent 6 years in a relationship with my former husband who was abusive. We had a child together who is now 4. After I found the courage to separate from him, I fell into a relationship with a man who was married. He lied for the first 6 months about being married, long enough for me to fall for his charms. He said ALL THE SAME THINGS YOUR MARRIED MAN SAYS TO YOU. I absolutely believed the 'they haven't had sex for years' line. I lived alone as I absolutely believed he would move in with me once he 'HAD HIS STUFF TOGETHER'. These guys all have the same book of lines. He had me believe that she was horrible, horrible...but then I accidentally met her! And she was LOVELY. I absolutely believed that he 'DIDN'T LOVE HER ANYMORE'. I spent 2 years infatuated with this man who was staying with his 'horrible' ex-wife who denied him sex and who was being 'nasty with the finances'. In the end, I was a nervous wreck and I started to think it could be years before he left her. Then I found out where they lived and realised he had LIED about so many things. Finally I told him I couldn't see him anymore. I missed him like crazy and cried all the time.
BUT THEN...a miracle happened. I met my now partner, who is....how to describe him? My angel. He is the sweetest, most loving, beatuiful person I've ever met, and that married man - he's now divorced and alone. Once he found out I had met someone else THEN he left her, THEN he appeared on my doorstep wanting me to pack my bags and live with him, offerring his HOME to me, offerring me ANYTHING I WANTED...now he is divorced and alone and I am so incredibly happy, I don't even THINK about him anymore except to write this advice...because I want everyone to be as happy as I am and ditch these LOSER married men. Please learn from my mistakes!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Of course he loves her and he is still having sex with her. He has no plans to leave her, she is his loving wife. After he leaves you he goes home and gives her a big kiss. They laugh together, cuddle in bed, you know all the things that married people do. And to top it all off, he can screw you whenever he feels like it. Why on earth would he give that up?
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reader, beebee305 +, writes (29 October 2008):
The man is a creep preying on you like and injured deer. He has ALL of your attention, ALL of your love, and ALL of your free time. And then he goes back to his wife and you ar eelft with wha tit seems like is an empty house and no real committment. He tells you things to leave you hanging becaus ehe knows you will stay. Wha tis there honetly sweetheart to "GET TOGETHER" he needs to get his shoes hos clothes and a good lawyer an dhe is done. Obviously he has no plans on leaving knowing he has you as a doormat. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT and you deserve so much more that you are denying yourself by wasting time with a looser like him. You ned to wake up next to someone in the morning to someone who is more deserving than him. You deserve to be happy and ten to one you are not right now. Take some time to yourself get oyurself together and I am sure you will be thanking yourself for it later! Take Care best of luck sweetheart!!!!
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