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writes:So im really in Love with my boyfriend but our relationship has been a bit rocky....lets face it whos isnt at a teen age. After two months earlier broke it off on acount of work and crazyiness and i felt i wasnt meeting his needs. A month later i figured i was wrong to break it off but he had already asked another girl out. We(my friends and i) later found that month the real reason for his decision to go out with her was becuase to make me jealous, which it did some but not much. He gave her a chance and after 3 months total he dumped her and came back to me. I was glad of course I had wanted him back and didnt feel too guilty. After 4 months i hadnt seen him in a week and then was heading off to Cali. The day i arrive in cali he pretty much breaks us off and he wasnt happy about it. He said to my friend(who he tells a lot too) that he didnt understnad why he did it he jsut felt he needed to. This one got me mad cause it was to go back out with an ex that was pissed at him for a year and had recently broken up and said she was starting to like him.I was scared and upset i pretty much felt abandoned but i pushed through the week. The moment i came back i wanted to see him and was scared he would be distant. Now I had heard from my friend they werent actually going out anad that day he was all over me and we kissed. The next day i see him same thing except we more or less made-out. The following day I find out they were together and that he had cheated on her with me. I loved him i felt helpless and didnt know they were going out. We did get back together, which is what I wanted, and he said he learned from his mistakes and i know i did from mine. He says he loves me all the time and I love him with all my heart. Ive been serverly depressed in 8th and 9th grade(current in 10th going to 11th this fall) and finally im happy. When i was though i was giving all toother and never put myself i feel so almost selfish for getting back the one I dearly Love. Am I wrong to of wanted the only happiness I had back?All i hear from her is how much she cant get him out of his head and its starting to scare me like she will take another shot at him or he will feel bad and go back to her, but i dont want that. He has never cheated on me (i have friends who can watch him) but has supposivly cheated on others. Am I just too parainoid about this girl getting him back? Am I too selfish to want the one love I truly want in my life?Thanks for all who respond and sorry its so long
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Why give this guy the time of day since he seems to like playing you and this other girl along. I know it hurts but walk away and find someone who isn't going to drop you and pick you up whenever they feel like it. It's not fait for him to play with your emotions the way he is and he'll keep doing it aslong as he knows you'll keep going back to him.
You are not selfish in wanting to be with the one you care about but sweetheart this guy does not love you. If he did he would stop playing you around! You are only 16/17 and cannot know yet that this guy is the one you want to be with forever. He may never have cheated on you, but he had no problem cheating with you on his ex. I would seriously consider whether you can be truly happy with this guy cause if I was in your shoes my fear wouldn't be am I being selfish but when is he going to dump me next for someone else.
That doesn't make for a happy relationship and you do not sound happy at all. Why not walk away from this guy and find someone who can truly make you happy.
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (25 June 2007):
 why are u seeing a man that is mentally with anther woman? meet a new man, move on,
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