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*herrybomb13
writes:I kept seeing this guy who I thought was cute but he had sketchy lookin friends and im sure he is usually high. Today we some how started talking and i gave him my number, then he walked me to the train station. He told me that he smokes weed and i asked if he had a job. He said hes looking for one and asked if i could ask the piercing lady at my tattoo shop for an apprenticeship for him. I told him to ask himself and he said ok. Then i asked where he lived and he told me he was homeless. I had no idea. Now im not sure what to do cause there was SO MUCH sexual tension and now i cant ignore him cause he has my number and knows where i work. Hes 2 years older than me.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (25 June 2012):
I have no idea why, but for some reason between the ages of 16 and 24ish, a certain slice of the female population becomes irresistibly attracted to losers. Im 44 and thus far have not quite put my finger on exactly why. What I can tell you is by this point of my life I have lost count of otherwise beautiful/personable/smart women who by the age of 30 say to me "What in Gods name was I thinking." Sadly, in many of those cases children are already involved and thats all they wrote, as they say. As an addendum, there also seems to be a much smaller slice who stay attracted to losers throughout their lives. This phenomenon I have almost alwasy seen coupled with issues with their fathers from a young age. Back to your original assertion, everything you have written tells me this guy is a loser, yet you want to have sex with him anyway. If you want to live a life of regret from the age of 28 until you die, my advice to you is to have as much sex with this guy as possible, get pregnant with his kid, and try to work out a relationhip with him. If not, proceed accordingly.....
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (24 June 2012):
 I think it's because he showed you some affection and that can be a powerful thing especially if you haven't really had much affection before.
The trouble is that we women take the tiniest bit of affection that we get and weave a whole dream around it. We make that one thing the focus of our desire and we casually ignore the negative things.
This guy and you are young, there is potential for change, but the whole drug thing is extremely hard to get rid of and it's a major factor for causing problems in the future (it is a proven fact that long term use of cannabis causes mental health problems and paranoia- I will get shouted down for that but I have read the medical papers on it because it is in the feild of my work)
Drug use can lead to petty theft, brushes with the law etc etc...(not saying it will but more likely to)...it's a BIG deal.
I can see where you are coming from and the attention is nice but it's already fuelling the dream...and you don't really truly know him.
Think about if you really want to go there? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012): Know what your heart needs,criticaly weigh your needs that is look at merits and demerits. The most important thing follow your principles, as for feelings for him you can control them if you tell yourself.
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reader, Cherrybomb13 +, writes (24 June 2012):
Cherrybomb13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIdk. You all are right but something felt right about him. I keep thinking about him. Maybe its because he hugged me and kissed me, even just on the forehead. I thought about him all day today and looked for him on my way home from work. Honestly i dont even think that phobe has minutes or anything, but Im dying to run into him again...
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (23 June 2012):
 I wouldn't worry that he has your phone number. He isn't in a place to have a relationship and he likely knows it and probably will not call.
Don't pursue him either. He has noting to give to a relationship at this time.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2012):
 I'm sorry he is homeless at such a young age, but I think it's a little too complicated for you at this time in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): Okay, so you have a ton of sexual tension with him. What does that prove? The world is full of guys you could have a ton of sexual tension with. Hundreds of thousands of them. The feeling you get with this guy might be fun but it is a long way from being unique. If the guy isn't relationship material then be smart and don't put yourself into a position to get hooked in.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (23 June 2012):
I think it's sad that he's homeless.
Could be classed as a BAD boy but it seems he's more like UNFORTUNATE boy who's drifted into a dead end life, probably because of bad circumstances.
As sad as it is, I don't think it's a good idea to get in too deep with this boy because there is gonna be a HUGE amount of issues underlying his situation and as easy as it seems to romanticise him...the reality is that it's not going to go well if he is just drifting!!
The guy that you dated who knows him...talk to him and see if he can offer his friend some kind of help, but to get sexually active with this boy might spell trouble for you.
Set the bar a little higher to someone with a little more drive and direction in their life...oh and remember to practice safe sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): It's a no no for me, doesn't sound like he's boyfriend material either and he was already trying to take advantage of you by asking you to do things for him, can you imagine if you two start dating? as to sexual tension, you can have sex with him alright but have you thought that living on streets he may not exactly very clean? And he does drugs, sorry but a lot of people start with marijuana and then go to heavier stuff, I'd run in the opposite direction if I were you, he has you phone so what just don't get his calls... Of course you CAN ignore him...
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