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writes:my husband and i have a wonderful relationship but the one thing that bothers me is that i have found certain emails where hes told one woman that she was hot and another one where he states that hes horny too and cant open up the website and what city she lives in now both of these were dated 2 years ago and i havent seen anything since but i just cant shake the feeling that i no longer trust him should i worry
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (25 June 2012):
 What made you dig through his emails to the point of going back 2 years ago? Sounds like you don't trust him anyways and haven't trusted him. I think we need more of the story, because a woman doesn't simply rifle through and snoop through her husband's emails back 2 years if she trusts him.
No, something set you off, because rifling through emails is already a sign of a breach of trust and not the actions of someone who trusts their husband. So why are you going through his stuff? What has happened?
Also, that's a good question. How long have you been married, and were you together 2 years ago? Seriously, someone who has what they call "A wonderful relationship" doesn't out of the blue start snooping back 2 years in emails.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (25 June 2012):
Just for clarification - does "I found these emails" really translate to "I was snooping around incessantly and finally found something and it was this."
Im only asking because if its the latter, and I suspect to some degree it was (lets face facts, no one "finds" someone elses emails/account), then you have some trust issues to begin with that may or may not have something to do with him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Were you married 2 years ago? or dating? Honestly, I would print them out, sit him down and ask for an explanation. I think he owes you one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2012): Your right to have trust issues.
He has obviously 'cyber flirted' with this woman at the least..... so its a breach of trust.
However, there is a big difference between that and actually physically cheating. It is a big red flag though.
You need to confront him about this and judge his reaction, and ask him why he feels he needs to go elsewhere for attention.
Keep an eye on things at the very least.
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