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writes:My husband is obsessed with his penis. He thinks it's small, because he heard how big a man I slept with was. How can I tell him to knock it off, and that he is perfect for me? I do but he thinks I'm just trying to make him feel good. He doesn't believe me that we all don't want a huge dick up there. He has bought pumps and tools to grow his dick and is always on these penis exersize websites. He made me measure him and wants to know how big the other guy was. I don't know how big he was, I know I just didn't like sex with him, while my husband rocks my world, even then he tells me I put on a good show. Granted he isnt big, but he's more than enough for me
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reader, Trooth +, writes (7 August 2013):
Just now came across this question. Sadly, this is an issue most people care very, very, very little about or think is funny, etc. I have struggled as your husband (if you're still married) has. I have come to realize that, yes, the actual penis size is not the issue at all. However, his deep rooted sense of inadequacy and low self esteem may be very, very difficult to root out and deal with. Thus, the penis thing keeps coming up (oops sorry :-) ). Men are not allowed to have these feelings, are very poorly equipped to even begin to deal with them and receive ridicule from most people if they even try. So, they feel severely isolated, confused, and miserable. If you can somehow tease out his past events that have nothing to do with penis/sex topics but which from very early on told him over and over that he "wasn't enough" and gently point out that he has been programmed to put himself down, maybe he will open up to exploring how to fix his self perception. Only then will the penis thing fade away, and even then it may flare up from time to time-it has with me and I hate it when it happens. I hope you get my reply, I know its been a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2012): My Dear, i am a man suffering of the same thing, going to be honest with you. Never ever again make comments about penis size, even if u never enjoyed the big penis or what so ever never do it, for us it does not matter if you loved it or not.
If we aint the biggest, then we re not the man, period.
Regarding your question, there is nothing you can do to undone what is done, sorry is life. :C
Dont get me wrong im on the same boat :s
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 September 2012):
 Sorry to learn that your hubby is such an injit....
Best you can do is continue to try to convince him that he's OK.... and, bear with him until/unless he finally comes to his senses.....
(Those darn guys in those porm flicks - with their Maga-sized manhoods - are such a nightmare to us marginally-endowed men!!!!!)
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): Hi op here,
We've been married for five years, together for nine. We had seperated before we were married, and that's when I had sex with someone else. I really regret it, and can't get it across to my husband that I had no feelings for this man and didn't enjoy sex with him. He wasn't that much larger than my husband. 6 maybe 7 inches and real thin, but sex with him was always painful the few times we did. My husband is on he small side of average at 5 inches, but he is extremely thick and I enjoy him very much. Even with my husband, he can bottom out in me and it hurts. I can't get through to hIm that we are a perfect match for eachother. I think we have a very fulfilling sex life, we have sex 5-6 times a week and I initiate more than he does. As well, he does give me great orgasms most of the time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 September 2012):
 deep sigh,
I'm so sorry you have this problem.... and I think you are doing everything possible to fix it. Sadly it's not really your problem it's his.
I am now with a partner who is on the small side of average and he's perfect too... men don't really understand that penetration is not what makes us happy.... nor do they get that we don't walk around with a ruler....
do you go after him to have sex or do you just wait for him to come to you... maybe he needs you to go after him a bit more...
how long are you married?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): I totally agree with you. My fiance is too big for me. Hes about 7.5~8in and thick. I dont enjoy sex and sometimes i bleed. I wish he was 5 or 6. Truthfully. You should show him the responses you get on here. Men shouldnt focus on their penis size, its how he preforms that counts.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (15 September 2012):
That’s quite extreme. All you can do is point out to him that it’s not the other guy you chose, it’s your husband, and tell him how satisfying sex with him is. Explain to him that skill, not size, is what matters and that what you want isn’t for him to try and get bigger, but just to have healthy communication so that you can tell each other what turns you on and do things with each other that are going to be pleasurable. Also tell him how destructive this obsession could be in your relationship: if it makes you unhappy he should know this. The sad irony is that probably the biggest turn-off for you is his obsession with penis size. If he isn’t receptive to your feedback, there’s clearly a very deep insecurity there and he may even need to see a counsellor to help him work through it.
I wish you all the very best.
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