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writes:Hi, sorry this is so long.I met this girl. We started talking recently, since we started talking she offered to buy me lunch once and gave me her e-mail address. She is extremely nice to me and she always smiles at me. Recently she mentioned she is having some trouble. I wrote her an e-mail with some solutions on how to help her. In the e-mail I gave her my phone number and told her to call if she needed any help from me.Do you think she likes me? Do you think she will call?Also, if she doesn't call. Should I still attempt to talk to her after that or leave her alone? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): Why don't you ask her for her number? If a man gives me his number instead of asking for mine, I assume that his not really interested in a relationship. I would NEVER call a man who gave me his number, but didn't ask for mine.
You're the man in this situation, but you're not really acting like it. This poor girl has been initiating left and right. She took you out to lunch. She gave you her email address. All you did was write one measly email to her. Most women assume that if a guy's interested he'll ask them out. You haven't even after she initiated, so she probably assumes that you just want to be friends.
Write her an email and ask her out. Then you'll know if she's interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI DON'T have her phone number. Read the question. No where does it state that I have her phone number.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 September 2012):
 be aware that WOMEN for the most part like to VENT about their problems but do NOT expect you to fix them or try to fix them.. often they just want you to listen
MEN like to fix things so they try and it pisses women off.
I'd call and touch base early next week... NOT text, not email
pick up the phone and CALL HER.... and then you let us know how that went...
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reader, kenny  +, writes (19 September 2012):
 I woulden't go bombarding her with calls and texts otherwise you will risk scaring her off. Leave it a while then give her a call, or a text just saying hope your ok, and that you hope things are going well. Sounds like she has got alot on her plate at the moment, have respect for that and give her some breathing space. Who knows when she's all sorted out in her life and the dust has settled she may suprise you and get in contact with you.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): One of the things I didn't like about my last boyfriend is that he always tried to offer solutions; it drove me mad! Although she said she was having some trouble, unless she specifically asked for your advice (ADVICE, not solutions), then you shouldn't offer any. I often want to vent and have a sympathetic ear. Your email may have put her off a bit.If she's nice to you and asked you to lunch, then I'd say she likes you, especially based on the lunch thing. We can be nice to people all day long without being into them. I think you should call her, check on her troubles, and lend your EAR instead of your mouth.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 September 2012):
 It wouldn't hurt to ring her up and ask how things are going... After all, she confided in you that she's got some turmoil in her life - even asked your advice/opinion - what's wrong with "following up?"
From that (call) you should get the "answer" to your question...
Good luck...
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