A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey everybody my name is katie and i am 24 years old. And i am currently dating my former high school science teacher. You see 3 weeks ago i bumped into him waiting in line for coffee at starbucks. And we exchanged number as a way to catch up. And what was supposed to be a mini reunion turnned into us making out at a dinner. After that we went out of a few dates and i feel like this might be going some where, and so does he, but should we just stop? I mean it could get awkward really fast, like after we have sex the magic could be gone. Do i really want to do that to myself? Or should i just take the plung and hope for the best. (BTW he is 42 years old.) Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 September 2012):
 big age gap... even I'm not so sure this is a good idea and I'm probably the biggest supporter of age gap relationships on this site...
is he divorced or never married?
making out at a dinner or a diner? cause one is private and one is public (and ewwwwwwwww)
DO NOT sleep with him for a LONG time.
this may be a flash in the pan
it may be a notch on his belt
he may be separated from a wife (newly) or even married
does he have kids? they may be closer in age to you than him (my oldest son is only 11 years younger than my fiance)
I would take this very very VERY slowly
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): My only concern would be the age difference. How can you possibly have much in common with someone who is 18 years older than you. When you are 45 he will be 63.....that signifies a problem. I feel as though there is a very small window of opportunity for such age gaps and then at some point the difference becomes a problem. I would also be wary at the fact that he was a former teacher.
...............................
A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 September 2012):
 Former teacher/former student "things" have their own list of awkwardness details..... which you, clearly, understand.
I'd focus on THIS phrase: "...like after we have sex the magic could be gone. Do i really want to do that to myself?...."
THAT can/will apply to ANY man that you will get sufficiently close to that you and he may share intimacies. His being a former teacher simply makes that more complicated....
If and when you are with a real nice guy, you will not ask that question of yourself and the circumstances.
P.S. This man in your submittal... he COULD be "that guy."
Good luck...
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): People often defend age differences and say there is nothing wrong with it if it's legal, as so do I. You have to be careful for yourself though in a situation like this. Most single men or sometimes not even single, won't pass a chance for sex with a 20 some year old woman at his age. I'm not saying everyone is like this, there is people that are in the same situation for the right reasons but be cautious at first. Whether you want to stop is up to you, but someone much older and wiser than me said once your unsure it's time to go, there is plenty of fish in the sea...
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): I would leave him along with that much of an age gap, another ten years you'll be looking for someone younger.
Let him go, don't do that to yourself.
...............................
|
