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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2012): If I like the guy and there is chemistry, I'll have sex on the first date. But don't expect it, most of the guy I went on first dates with didn't. I fact, I only did it once.
I do not agree with the comments about girls respecting themselves and being a lady = not having sex on first dates. It's not 1950 anymore, we are allowed to enjoy and want sex too.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 Are you asking what type of woman does this or how to get a woman to do this? I hope you are not trying to pull a pump and dump. that is very damaging to someone.
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reader, lavarah +, writes (17 December 2012):
well i am a woman and most of us only have sex on the first date if we just want a one night stand or if the man is too tempting to resist.i have had sex on the first date before. but only once.
[2]i would have to have known him longer than a day and have feelings for him. cuz i wouldnt just fuck some randomn guy. well unless... there was just a sexual attraction right off the bat.
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reader, BlacknBeautiful +, writes (17 December 2012):
I think that sex on the first date definatley depends on the women. I think that if she feels that the time is right and that if shes feeling you in all the right ways then you can do it. Ive never had sex on the first date but I have on the second, and it was definately because the guy had alot sex appeal and turned me on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2012): If your date is a "lady" and respects herself, she won't have sex on the first date. :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 December 2012):
 Damn, tennis star.... I hope you don't like me... and would like to "seal the deal" some time!!!!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 December 2012):
 1.) Probably more than we think. Some women succumb to the pressure the male is putting off, maybe it's been a while since her last romp, and if there's a lot of passion there. It can also be a combination of all three.
2.) If I like the guy, then I won't have sex with him on the first date. Now, if I'm just looking to get it on and I'm not that into him...and he's putting off like he wants to seal the deal, then I will go for sex.
It all depends on the guy's actions and what I want that night.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 you go to a house of ill repute and pay money. no problem. all you have to do is produce the cash. As far as the real world is concerned you have to satisfy her needs and desires before you can get your way. Usually the woman doesn't put out on the first date because she wants to get to know you first. I would suggest you adopt the same policy. Some women are nutters and you may regret getting involved.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 December 2012):
You are in luck... because I can give you a certain answer to your query....
IF a woman is a tart, or strumpet, she will readily have s*x on a first date..... IF she is a "lady" then there is NO CHANCE that she will put out on a first date....
Is that clear enough for you?????? ... or her?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012): When i did i pretty much did after few drinks
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 December 2012):
 I agree it comes down to the woman and in many cases the guy. But for me, I have never had sex on a first date. I feel it screws up getting to build that up where it's not just SEX but making LOVE.
I have been out on a couple of dates where the guy pushed (in a lame joking way) for us to have sex. And it was (for me) a huge turn off).
If you are just looking for a NSA relationship then be really up front about it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 December 2012):
 A lot of the times, the men don't want to have sex on the first date and us ladies have absolutely no problems with that. It does not take me much to have sex. For most women they will have a problem with it. If you suggest going to your place and her place and she refuses it means that she doesn't want to have sex, and no amount of flirting will do any good. I just don't take the guy seriously. I won't expect a call from him, and if I do I will assume it will just be sex. A guy who wants to have sex on the first date will have to do a lot to prove me wrong, that he is indeed looking for a relationship. A guy who is serious does not find the need to rush. It's not what you do but how open the woman is.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 December 2012):
 Answer to your first question really depends on the girl and what she wants from the date. All girls are different and have all different standards. As for the second question, I don't think there is anything you can do to make a girl want to have sex on the first date, either it is what she will want or not. Best thing for you to do is just be honest to yourself and to her about what you are looking for from her and see how it goes from there.
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