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*illsmafia228
writes:So here it goes. Me and my girlfriend of 2 years just broke up on Thanksgiving and it was a pretty rough break up. The thing is this Friday would have been our 2 year anniversary which is going to be a really rough day for me. Heres my question i guess i really dont understand how girls work. So she claims to have this new guy she met online and that shes had feelings for him for a while but every other day she seems to conflict with herself. One day she'll be cool with me and say she wants us to work on things and one day she even kissed me. The next day she said oh i just wanted to see if i still felt something and i don't so i guess this is goodbye forever. Then the next day she'll call me crying about how she still loves me and misses me and we talk and get along. Anyways this pattern seems to be repeating of her hating me one day missing me the next. Yes we had our relationship problems but i cant seem to move on. Shes dating this guy now and they've never even met, and she says shes happy with him then the next day she acts like she wants me back? I have no clue what to do or how to handle this situation any advice? Sorry for bad gramer im typing this from a phone.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 December 2012):
 She's playing "schoolyard" games which, usually, are insipid for adults....
YOU are in total control. Either go along with her and play the game (HER game),.... OR, develop testicles and put her out of your life and go on your way.....
Ooooops, did I include something that made it evident which I think is the smart way to handle this???????
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): I'm having the same problem with my ex he's saying he doesn't love me but the next he's cuddling and kissing me I know he's enjoying the fact he has me on a hook. I'd say cut all ties and move on sadly it's hard for me to take my own advice goodluck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 December 2012):
 Stop having contact with her. She likes the fact that all she has to do is YANK your chain and you are there with bells on.
She likes that she has you to fall back on. That doesn't mean she really cares, it just means you are "useful" til she finds "better".
CUT the contact 100% - no calling, texting, e-mail, facebooking or what not.. NO CONTACT. work on getting OVER her.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (13 December 2012):
You really want to be with a girl who is this badly confused? Hmm yeah she shows real commitment there :P
At any rate, if you give her space maybe she will figure out what the heck it is she wants. She could indeed stick with that other guy but if the relationship has been rough for some time, the online guy seems like a much needed pace for her. If she comes back crying or whatever next time, be stern and firm with her and insist that she makes up her mind once and for all.
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