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writes:I broke my ex's heart by completely neglecting her, not being there for her for two weeks, because I suspected she was seeing someone else. On top of that, by the end of the two weeks I sent her a completely unreasonable message where I was venting off my frustrations.This happened three months ago and since then she has been ignoring me, avoiding me and pretending she never had any feelings for me. I'm quite sure she still loves me but can't trust me with her heart anymore. She is very sensitive. I've tried apologizing and explaining everything but she refuses to say anything to me. What can I do? Cut my losses and move on? Don't really want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012): I have a different spin... If you feel that strongly about her, fight for her. She is probably very hurt and is afraid you will hurt her again. Trust me it takes a lot to heal from the pain of someone you love hurting you and not trusting you and ignoring you for a couple of weeks. She was probably heartbroken over your reaction.
Did you ever find out if she was seeing someone else? Because if she was, maybe that is the reason she is ignoring you now? She is with another person?
If she is still single, she is probably hurt and not sure of whether or not to trust you. You will have to make every effort to prove to her that you were wrong and how sorry you are for how you treated her and for not trusting her. You will have to be as open as you can and beg for her forgiveness at this point. Pull out all the stops. This way she will know clearly how sorry you are and that you still love her. If you cannot convince her AFTER trying everything you can and being completely honest and putting your best efforts into it, then maybe it's a lost cause.
But never assume. Find her. Tell her how you feel and see if that works. It is the only way. I don't believe that feelings die that easily. They could still be there for her. You never know.
Do not continue to ignore her if you really do still love her. It is worth another chance, isn't it? At least if she still ignores you it will be after you have expressed your true feelings and intentions. This way you will have no regrets and you will be able to move on knowing you tried.
We all make mistakes, especially when we are upset and in the heat of the moment. You did not handle it right in the beginning but you should not be hung for it. We all learn from our mistakes and wish we could have done things differently sometimes. But it's done. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just try to tell her how you feel now and hope that she opens up to you again. Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 December 2012):
 I'm sorry you are hurting.
what you do now is learn from your mistakes so you don't repeat them and move on
after three months without contact she's made it clear she's no longer interested.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 December 2012):
 It has been three months now and she is still ignoring you, I think that says a lot. I know you don't want to move on, but I am not sure if you have a choice here if she is refusing to even so much as listen to you. I guess it is a lesson to learn for the future, instead of assuming something communicate with your partner instead of ignoring them. That never solved anything and now you have learned the hard way.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 December 2012):
 You ask: "....What can I do? Cut my losses and move on?"
The short answer is, "yes."..... and the long answer is, "Yes.... and hope that you've learned your lesson and don't repeat it...."
Good luck....
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