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writes:I know this isn't a life altering issue or anything, but it's starting to really bother me. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together and we text every day. We rarely talk on the phone- maybe once a week. When we talk, and the conversation comes to an end or he gets another call or something, he always says, "I'll call you later" or "I'll call you right back". But he never does. He'll reach out to me later with a text instead. Is this a big deal, or is this pretty typical male behavior? He has said that he's not really a phone guy, but why tell me he will call me back if he has no intention of doing so?What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): Sounds like he doesn't like talking on the phone but likes to see you and keep in touch. Thank your lucky stars it isn't the other way round as loads of women on the internet get fed up of men writing and phoning and messaging and then never wanting to meet up!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 February 2012):
 you see him every day or so
he texts you
he's into you
the ONLY thing missing for you is phone time....
I'd let it go he's just not a phone guy
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 February 2012):
 Let's address your very specific question: " Is this a big deal, or is this pretty typical male behavior?"
1. This behaviour is fairly common among men.... It occurs because men don't want to have to work too hard in order to keep a girl interested enough to put out for him. Dialing a phone and carrying on a conversation with that girl (the one who puts out) is VERY STRENUOUS!!!),
2. It's a BIG DEAL only if you choose for it to be. Your options are three:
1. It's a big deal and I'll wrestle with it (AND with your "B/F").... OR,
2. You can decide that you want a REAL "B/F".... one who is nice to you and addresses/accomodates your desires.... OR,
3. You can capitulate, and continue putting out for this inconsiderate guy; AND (that means) you can suppress your preference to have a nice B/F.
Your call.....
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 I think it's not a big deal. He already told you he's not a phone guy so...he's not a phone guy.
How is the rest of your relationship? How does he treat you when you are together? and more importantly...how do you treat him? Women tend to fall into the trap that we think men should do all the chasing and all the calling...and if they don't, we assume they don't like us anymore!!
If you want to talk to him on the phone, then call him yourself and say hello.If he forgets to call you back, or doesn't follow it up with a text then just tell him it bothers you.
I think you will find that most blokes are rubbish with phones.
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (29 February 2012):
talk to him that it bothers you that he doesn't call. If he does not change , l think you should not reply the text messages that way he will have no other but call you
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