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writes:I know that getting physical too soon especially if you are just dating and the guy is not your boyfriend is not the best way to go. However, I have been on 4 dates with this guy and on the fourth date gave him oral sex. I said some stuff that may have sounded that I wanted to sleep with him soon. Since that date I contacted him a couple times and he responded. So on friday we went out and on saturday and sunday we text messaged. Monday and tuesday and wednesday he has not even texted me antyhing. He usually texts every single day. I feel as though things have changed and he doesn't see me as someone he might want to get serious with. I am really dissapointed because I like him and I am thinking will he ever contact me again?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (24 February 2012):
I think you know the answer all ready. He may be in touch when he needs another blow job, if he thinks you were good enough.
I was already madly in love with my wife when we had mutual oral sex on our third date after only a couple of weeks. I don't think it was how soon you did it, just that he didn't have emotional feels for you. You were taken in by his physical desire. Make sure there is some genuine feelings there next time, if you are looking for than just a physical relationship.
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reader, jamespike +, writes (23 February 2012):
I'm sorry to tell you this hun but he's probably not gonna call. It seems to me he got what he wanted. That one date after oral was probably him hoping for sex. I really hope I'm wrong but there are alot of jerks out there. Please remember we are not all like that. Good luck with the next fish in the sea.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 February 2012):
 If you gave me a nice blow job on our fourth date, I would be very fond of you. I'm not so sure that I'd consider you for a long term relationship, however, except possibly for more oral pleasure on occasion. It would depend upon many other factors: such as what I know of your past, your personality, our compatibility, your living conditions, my attraction for you (and you for me), how we met, the quality of the blow job and whether you also enjoyed it.
However, I'm a man who very much enjoys both giving and receiving oral sex. Many women have provided such pleasure to me, sometimes just as quickly, or even right away. Many women, in my experience, really enjoy giving head to a man. Many obviously just enjoy cum or pleasing men. In some cases, the relationships continued for months or years, but some I considered just a short time, or a onetime release. I think that every man may have varying reactions and opinions about this topic.
Depending on the other factors, I would not eliminate the possibility of a continuing relationship with a woman who provides me quality oral satisfaction. In fact, I have usually wanted much more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): he may be back , and he may have got what he wanted. then again he may have been looking for someone for a long term relationship but started wondering how many other dates has she given B/J or p**** too after a few dates.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 February 2012):
 This submittal is proof-positive that the old "four date" scheme works well......
He got what he wanted, and now, he's gone. You must reconcile that to yourself..... AND decide how you will handle that guy, in the future, who will attempt the four-date scheme on you next time....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): He may text you when he wants another one.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 I think he will contact you again ,.. at his own terms and conditions, and without too many ceremonies or attentions before.
I don't have a crystal ball and I might be wrong. But the hundreds of posts I have seen in my couple of years on DC seem to confirm the existence ,and the wisdom of a certain rule. It's a strict, harsh, and often difficut to practice rule, which says : FIRST you get into a relationship with a man, THEN you become intimate with him.
It's not really a matter of 1st date or 4th date or 10th date, times may vary - but apparently being sexual before becoming bf and gf is a nearly foolproof way to put the chart before the horses and getting yourself pegged as FWB material only.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 February 2012):
 YOU GAVE HIM... what did HE give you? if it was one sided then yeah he's probably a user and gone....
it's a bit soon to think he has gone :poof: but it's possible...
if you don't hear from him in a week or so give him a call (DO NOT TEXT) and go from there.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 HI
HHmm well it was a little too soon for that kind of activity, BUT if you felt right about it at the time who is anyone to judge. Give him a little time, there may be a perfectly good reason as to why his not been intouch.
Mandy x
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