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writes:My best mate drinks too many energy drinks, swears too much, is getting into fights over his gf who probs won't last long but he's distancing himself from everyone and it's his life but I can't stand and watch him shut down. What do I to? I know I can't change him, but what am I supposed to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (1 March 2012):
 Having a dear one who is self-destructing is much like watching your favorite football team lose the Super Bowl (as I experienced, recently).
All you can do is watch....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 March 2012):
 This is always so hard. It's so hard to watch a friend meander (or run) down the path of self-destruction.
Sadly all you can do is voice your concerns ONCE and let him know that you are there if he needs you.
You do not have to help him be self-destructive or supportive of his self-destruction... and hopefully it's a phase and when he's done he'll come to you for help.
Do not be judgmental or angry. Let him know he has a safe haven in your friendship and you will be as supportive as you can.
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