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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Can someone help me interpretate this dream?
Q. Okay, my dream starts off with me running around in this old abandoned school house. I used to go to school there but it's now closed. I dreamed I was in this room alone and I saw this picture on the wall. It was of Jesus and he was wearing the ...
A. 11 August 2008: Find a dream book. Personally, I don't think that your dreams really have any definite meaning behind them. I've had dreams about my teeth falling out--it's supposed to mean something, but I cannot remember. Nobody knows for sure why we even have ... (read in full...)
Are you still a virgin if the guy uses a condom?
Q. ok so i have a question about condoms. If i have sex with a guy and he uses a condom, am i still a virgin or does his bare skin and sperm have to be inside of me ?...
A. 11 August 2008: If you are unable to answer this question yourself, then you probably shouldn't be having sex...and like the others stated: no, you are not a virgin with or without a condom, penetration is penetration.... (read in full...)
How do I get over Mr Wrong?
Q. sorry for the lenght but i don't know how to explain it any better.... my first love was my first everything. i met him my junior year in high school. i had never really had a boyfriend before because most guys were afraid of my parents but not ...
A. 11 August 2008: Awww :( Well I think a lot of women have felt this way at one time or another. I know exactly how you feel. I know usually the cure is to go out and meet new people, but I've felt that I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything, nor did I care ... (read in full...)
He told me people I stuff my bra when I asked him not to!
Q. My boyfriend told his friends that I stuff my bra when I said to not. He does feel pretty bad and told me right away. But I'm still mad at him. Does he have any respect for me? My friends think I should break up with him. Any ideas...
A. 11 August 2008: I agree with your friends. That's something very personal, and if he's going to be a blabbermouth, who knows what else he would tell people? Obviously you cannot trust him to keep private things to himself and would rather have fun disrespecting ... (read in full...)
Why did I get back with the jerk who even asked my best friend out?
Q. well i had a boyfriend and he started acting like a jerk and i dont know why he was so sweet and nice and he kept getting mad at me so i ended it and 1 day later he asked out my best friend!! i mean what kind of boy would do that and everyone was ...
A. 11 August 2008: No, you're not a bad person! No, I don't think you made the right choice to take him back either. But, it's a learning experience! Think about it...what kind of person would act like a jerk to you and once you end it they ask out your best ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to end this relationship? It's been 4 years.
Q. Thinking about ending a long relationship, and moving away. We've been together for 4 years, which was started in high school. Everything was good, but I'm no longer convinced she's the one I want to be with. I've been bruting about this for almost ...
A. 11 August 2008: I wouldn't even bring up being "just friends" or keeping contact. She ends up thinking that there could be hope in the future. Just let things roll and see what happens after the breakup. It's always easier to get over someone with no contact. ... (read in full...)
Did I get taken advantage of and have a right to be mad at my friend or am I just a slut?
Q. Ok long story but please I really need help!! I am in college and a few months ago I went to this house with my friend. We were the only girls there and there were like 5 guys. I was upset that my "boyfriend" or whatever he is went to a party and ...
A. 10 August 2008: I think you are right and that you were taken advantage of. For a guy to know that you are that drunk and asking you for sex, he saw you as an easy target and thought he would take advantage of it. Then, with his friend to come in to "cuddle" with ... (read in full...)
A golden shower? Is this normal?
Q. My partner wants me to urninate on him while we are having sex. He also wants me to urinate on him. What does this mean? Is this normal? I have never heard of this activity? sincerely...
A. 10 August 2008: I wouldn't say it's "normal" but I've heard of it. Good luck to him trying to urinate while you two are trying to have sex, things pretty much get blocked up so he can't pee while having an erection. If you want to try it with him, maybe try when ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to end this relationship? It's been 4 years.
Q. Thinking about ending a long relationship, and moving away. We've been together for 4 years, which was started in high school. Everything was good, but I'm no longer convinced she's the one I want to be with. I've been bruting about this for almost ...
A. 10 August 2008: I agree, honesty is key. I'm sure she will be hurt without a doubt--but you can't keep fooling yourself and her. Just tell her (in person) that you feel you two are on different pages and based on what you said, that you are not interested in a ... (read in full...)
Did I lose out for all time on the prettiest girl I've ever seen in my life?
Q. Awwwwww, I totally missed out today! At my job this insanely hot girl who kept smiling at me came into the store and I didn't ask for her number, but another guy who also works there asked and she gave it to him! Now I'm here wallowing in regret! Af...
A. 10 August 2008: If you find out that things don't work out between your friend and that girl, you definitely should give it a try. Maybe it's a good thing that you didn't find her on myspace because she might be freaked out if you contacted her. Just wait and ... (read in full...)
I'm 99.99% sure that she is lying. What can I do about it?
Q. ok well my problem is that i left to go overseas for four months. now she told me that she had something to say that would bring me home, but i didn't want to hear it because i have important things to do right now. through friends i found out that...
A. 10 August 2008: I think if you are that sure she is lying--she probably is. However, you don't want to accuse her either because it could have happened. She's obviously doing it to get your (and maybe other's)attention if she was in fact lying. Just be ... (read in full...)
I need some advice to help me get him out of the picture.
Q. I'm 18 and I am in love with my current boyfriend, well my ex boyfriend is my current boyfriend's friend. my ex doesnt know that 'm with him. My whole point is that I still can't get over him till this day. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year ...
A. 10 August 2008: I wish I could write more. But at least to me, it's simple. Don't talk to him! Ignore his calls or tell him that you are seeing someone and out of respect for your current boyfriend you don't want to continue talking to him. Also, don't initiate ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with her as a friend, but I might lose my other friends as well?
Q. Ok, so I met this girl, let say her name was kaithlin. She became my bff but I was the only one trying to keep our friendship going, I mean sometimes she will take charge but it lasts usually 5 seconds flat. Then one of our classmates came into the...
A. 6 August 2008: Look, you're an adult. And as you grow, you come to find out who your true friends are. Just because you don't want to be friends with her doesn't mean that you can't be friends with anybody else. You can still be friendly with her and hang out ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with her as a friend, but I might lose my other friends as well?
Q. Ok, so I met this girl, let say her name was kaithlin. She became my bff but I was the only one trying to keep our friendship going, I mean sometimes she will take charge but it lasts usually 5 seconds flat. Then one of our classmates came into the...
A. 6 August 2008: There really isn't a way to "break up" with your friend. I've chosen, in my past, to not hang out with a particular set of friends after I felt like I did not like what they were into (drugs and partying all the time). So I did have a couple ... (read in full...)
Do I say the "L" Word or not?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles, I've been dating my boyfriend (who doesn't label me his 'girlfriend' due to some 'commitment issues') for over a year and a half and I am realizing lately that I've been wanting to tell him that I love him. I find myself a...
A. 6 August 2008: I would say to not tell him. If he's not labeling you as his girlfriend, has commitment issues, it's been over a year and a half AND he still hasn't said the "L" word first, I think that you should keep your feelings to yourself, even as much as ... (read in full...)
Aren't there "rules" about dating exes' friends?
Q. I am asking this question on behalf of my daughter who has found herself in a very tangled web. She was living with the love of her life for over 1 year, (they had been dating for 4 years) along with his brother and his best friend since college, ...
A. 4 August 2008: Yes, there's generally a rule that you shouldn't date your ex's best friend and vice versa. But I think when you get to a certain age and the past relationships didn't work out because, as in this case, the ex-boyfriend of your daughter and the ... (read in full...)
After I dumped her, she said that having sex with me is a bad idea and I couldn't handle her anyway. What do I believe?
Q. My girlfriend told me she wanted to have sex with me several weeks ago. I ended up dumping her for another girl that I like but still like my other girlfriend. Now she says to me that having sex with me is a bad idea and I couldn't handle her ...
A. 3 August 2008: If she's not talking to you and thinks having sex with you is a "bad idea" then that's what it is, plain and simple. It isn't a "no means yes" type of deal or some secret message. She knows that you two are no longer together and just having ... (read in full...)
I lied about living in the US, now she wants my mobile number!
Q. alright people so im in america at the moment and i met this really AMAZING girl problem is i told here i lived in america too (i don't know why) and now she wants my mobile number so since i live in england i think she'll notice that i don't live ...
A. 3 August 2008: She probably won't care, just tell her. It's not a big deal. Why lie about something so small anyway?... (read in full...)
Not sure if I could have gotten pregnant, should I resort to plan B?
Q. okay so i am 16, and i was fooling around with my boyfriend, as far as i know he did not bust. He was about to put his penis in my, and it was about a few cm in, is there any chance that i could have gotten pregnant? should i take plan b?...
A. 3 August 2008: Yes, there is a chance. And taking Plan B couldn't hurt. Go for it--better safe than sorry. Next time make sure he uses a condom or get on birth control. If you're not ready for children you really should practice "safe" sex.... (read in full...)
Ten years of a sexless marriage, we are basically roommates, I care for him, but I am considering an affair, would I be wrong?
Q. I have been married for 19 years. And for the past 10 years me and my husband stopped having sex. I have tolerated this sad condition all these years. I just do it myself whenever I want a release. Our relationship has deduced to a roommate status. ...
A. 3 August 2008: When you're married, an affair is never justified. You need to talk to your husband about the situation and come to an agreement of some sorts. Cheating is hurtful to yourself and to your husband. It's always best to put yourself in his shoes and ... (read in full...)
I don't want our daughter to be involved with the "other woman"!
Q. my boyfriend and i have a five year old daughter together. after an eight year relationship he says that he dont love me. days after he tells me this he is with another woman. i do not want my daughter to see him if he is with her. what do i do?...
A. 1 August 2008: Well she's your daughter too, and I think you definitely have a say as to whether or not she's around this new woman. First off, you don't know if your ex is in something really serious with her. Don't be rude and bitchy. Just calmly and as civil ... (read in full...)
My g/f has trust issues because most of my friends are girls. It's so annoying!.
Q. My girlfriend and me have together for a year. But there's one problem, she has some body issues (she wears baggy clothing) and trust issues (thinks 'im cheating - which i'm not) all because most of my friend are girls, It's annoying. ...
A. 1 August 2008: Guys that have a bunch of girls as "friends" are annoying.
If she had a bunch of guy friends and was always hanging out with them and talking to them on the phone, I don't think you'd like it too much either.... (read in full...)
I know she cheated, but I don't know what to do, is this a waste of my time?
Q. I am completely in love with my gilfriend. We were just friends for 5 months or so and we've been dating for about 6 months now. I cant tell if my girlfriend really loves me, or if she just playing me. She always talks about how hot other guys are, ...
A. 1 August 2008: Ditch her. She's not worth your time and effort. She's playing games with you or she's really not that interested and stringing you along simply because you're there.... (read in full...)
I am confused because again there are 2 women in my life and each fulfilles different needs for me. Help me figure my emotions out and make a decision!!
Q. hi, i am a 31 year old male. this is a little complex but bear with me. I was with a girl for 7 years but for the last 4 i was secretly seeing someone else. The problem with my girlfriend was that i was not physically attracted to her but she had ...
A. 1 August 2008: Well as you basically said, you know what you're doing isn't right. You're stringing a couple girls along not knowing what you really want. I think you need to realize that a relationship takes COMPROMISE. I think compromise is huge as well as ... (read in full...)
I think my wife is having an affair. Am I just insecure?
Q. Dear Readers: I feel my wife is having an affair on me. Thsi has happened in the past feeling this way. She doesn't seem to come on to me or is not interested in sex. She never really wants to look at me when we do it. I initiate it all the time she ...
A. 1 August 2008: I agree, communication is key here. Women don't exactly have the same sex drive as men. Sometimes having sex is a "chore" and we just do it to get you to quit bugging us about it. I'm not speaking for all women, but that's how I have felt in past ... (read in full...)
I don't know what I should do if she cheated on me!
Q. i really love my girl friend we hav been together for 3 years in 15 and shes 18 wut should i do if she cheated on me for i dont know 3 weeks should i go back out with her ? she cheayed on me cuz she heard i was cheating her which wasnt true....
A. 1 August 2008: I'm not really sure what you were saying...you've been together 3 years since you guys were 15 and now you're 18? Or is she 15? If you guys are both 18, then it's time to act like adults. Cheating on their partner because they "heard" the other ... (read in full...)
I have a lot of white discharge and no matter how many times I go to the doctor, it just son't go away.
Q. i am so sorry this is so long. i just want to know if anyone else has this problem. i have heaps of white discharge. all the time for about 2 years now. maybe a little less. i thought it was yeast ifections. so i would treat it as such and sometimes ...
A. 1 August 2008: Being that you have endometriosis could be a huge factor. I'm guessing they keep giving you antibiotics for the high white blood cell count, considering that usually means that there is an infection somewhere. A UTI doesn't cause discharge--it has ... (read in full...)
He has faked his feelings for me this entire time! What do I do?
Q. ..my boyfriend was v. nice to me , treated me well n showed so much love but ,i just found out from one of his friends that he was just faking it all these months we have been together!!:((...he has told his friends that i am just a timepass for him ...
A. 1 August 2008: Definitely go with RJGirl's advice--I completely agree with her.... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club behind my back and lied about it for months!
Q. I am upset because my boyfriend lied to me about something I think is important. I'm not a big fan of strip clubs, and to me, it kind of seems like cheating if your boyfriend is looking at other chicks that are half naked. Anyhow, I was studying ...
A. 1 August 2008: Honestly, I don't think any girl really likes them. It's not fun imagining some girl with only her panties on girating on his lap and shoving her boobs in his face. However, I think guys don't see it as a "big deal" because it's just entertainment ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he possibly wants another chance?
Q. okay... so i dated this guy for over 2 months..thinhgs were great... i was his first of everything....and well i started to pull away cuz i was falling in love so he noticed how i barly talked anymore so he's like we need to talk so lets go on a ...
A. 1 August 2008: Does he want a second chance? The question should be, is do you want a second chance? He was obviously hurt and probably picked up a new chick right away as a rebound. Are you wanting him back because you can't have him or because you truly want ... (read in full...)
I had no periods at all for over five months, then a very unusual and painful spotting, what could be the problem?
Q. ive been lookin around this site and although there are a lot of questions on periods, there isnt one with the answers im looking for. so here goes.. i started my period when i was 12, im not 16 so it was 4 years ago, nearly 5. they have been r...
A. 1 August 2008: I agree with a second opinion. Let the doc know everything that you just told us. Sometimes it really can be nothing--like a disease or such, just being irregular. I've known a couple girls who have had pretty much the exact same thing happen, ... (read in full...)
Cut him out of my life, or keep him as a friend?
Q. i was with my boyfriend for 3 years. but then he dumped me. out of the blue. only he didn't dump me i had to ask if i was single. confused. ;S o'm just confused about what to do? should i cut him out of my life? or keep him in it as a friend?...
A. 1 August 2008: I'm somewhat biased on this subject, but I am strictly against keeping an ex as a friend until you are COMPLETELY over them. Keeping them as a friend always keeps hope alive. You need time away from them to get over the past and strengthen ... (read in full...)
Is it rude not to respond to a text right away?
Q. I have a question about texting. So I've been chatting/texting this guy i really like for a while now. The thing is...is it rude to not respond right away to a question? Sometimes he ignores it and sometimes he takes a day to response. I ...
A. 1 August 2008: Yes, it's rude! And I know exactly how you feel, I was seeing someone just like that. No, you're not overreacting--he's being a jerk. With guys like that, at least in my experience, you can't be nice to them. I tried to be overly nice and act ... (read in full...)
This has been eating away at me for years! I found a video of my brother having sex with my sister's husband!
Q. Please advice. This I something that happened years ago and it has been eating me inside! I found a video of my brother having sex with my sister's husband. It was a complete and absolute shock! I literally ran away from it and haven't mentione...
A. 1 August 2008: Yes, I think you should let your sister know. Besides the fact that it was with your brother, her husband could be fooling around with other men as well. I'm sure it's tough, being that you love both your brother and sister, but she needs to know.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to need me and be with me always?
Q. i always call my boyfriend and he knew that i dont want to say bye,i feel that he doesnt need me,but i know that he loves me,plz tell me what can i do to make him want to call me always and need me so much?? [added from same user] why dont i feel my ...
A. 1 August 2008: Don't call him. As much as you want to, let him call you first. Once he notices that you're not calling him 24/7 he's going to start to wonder what's up and call you. Just let him make the phone calls and asking out for a while.... (read in full...)
I need to leave and fix my life but it is just so hard. Am I wrong? Do I need help?
Q. Well here is my situation. I was previously married to my high school sweetheart. We dated for 11 years and were married for 3. The second and third year of marriage was terrible. He worked a ton and so did I. I worked nights, weekends or day ...
A. 1 August 2008: Aww I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. No, you're not wrong. It's not wrong to walk away from a relationship where you're being abused, it's just not right. I could definitely see it being difficult being that you're not currently ... (read in full...)
Thrilled about a new pregnancy! What is something special that I can do for my wife?
Q. Hi all not really a question but more of an announcement! I want to tell the world but I think this is the closest I shall get! I am very excited, my beautiful goddess of a wife has just informed me we are about to have another child!! It wil...
A. 31 July 2008: How refreshing is it to hear someone so enthusiastic about this and not someone complaining that they're "not attracted to their wife because of her changing body." I think you have a great idea. They also have a lot of personalized gifts from ... (read in full...)
How can I make more friends and have a fun social life?
Q. Hi, I know I might sound immature saying this, but I'm just frustrated and I wanted to see if anyone had any suggestions. My regular friends never seem to have time for me anymore and I really wnat to amke new ones(not to replace the old ones, but ...
A. 30 July 2008: I think Frank has a really good idea. On another note, your friends may think that you don't like to do what they're doing. Sometimes they just automatically think you're not interested so they just don't invite you or they think that you'll just ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for giving him an ultimatum to not be in his child's life?
Q. Am I wrong for asking him to not be in the child's life cause honestly I dont think I can handle it if he is, because that means he will have to be in this OW's life as well for the child's sake. He has no business with them. I dont think I'm wrong ...
A. 30 July 2008: Yes, you are wrong for giving him an ultimatum to not be in his child's life. How would you feel if you had a child together and you two broke up, then his new girlfriend or wife said that he could not longer see the child if he wanted to be with ... (read in full...)
I don't like being touched... is this normal?
Q. I've noticed for a while now that I feel very uncomfortable when touched by anyone who is not in my immediate family. Whenever I make physical contact with a friend or anyone else, I get an unpleasant shiver and have to fight the instinct to pull ...
A. 30 July 2008: I'm actually quite the same way. I think I've somewhat forced myself to grow out of it. I used to absolutely HATE shaking peoples' hands. Now, I think just because of my work, I'm used to it. I also cannot stand when people stand too close to ... (read in full...)
My best friend is in love with a jerk, how can I help her?
Q. i seriously need help... my best friend has pretty much fallen in love with a idiot. he treats her like shit, and they don't even go out. he is so mean to her and her friends. and he even told her that he talks to other girls like that and he's ...
A. 29 July 2008: Aww, you're a good friend. But there's nothing you can really do besides just be there for her. She's going to have to get over him on her own. Things just take time. So the best thing you can do for her is be there for her: talking on the phone ... (read in full...)
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