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writes:Please advice.This I something that happened years ago and it has been eating me inside!I found a video of my brother having sex with my sister's husband. It was a complete and absolute shock! I literally ran away from it and haven't mentioned nor said anything to anybody. My sister went through divorce for other reasons and I thought we had finally got rid of th beast- but no, he came back. At the same time, my brother isn't openly gay and no one talks about his sexual preferences, but.. should I say it? ever?!Every time I see him or the two of them together.. and my sister being so naïve!Please, help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Tell your brother what you found out. He has betrayed your sister as well, and it will be easier to talk to him, than to break your sisters heart. If anyone has to tell, it is your brother not you that should have this burden. Sorry you had to see this, but you've done nothing wrong, your brother and your sister husband are at fault. Leave the telling up to them.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 August 2008):
I think you need to talk to your sister's husband and your brother first. You need to know all the facts and give him a chance to tell his wife or explain.
Once you have done that and found out what went on then you can go to your sister if they won't.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (1 August 2008):
I think you should tell your sister. It will hurt your family and she might be mad at you for a little while since you knew years ago but she will calm down and it will blow over and she will turn to you again.
You sister really needs to know because of the horrible fact that STD risk his higher in homosexual males and he could pass something on to her especially if he has multiple partners. I'm sure that your sister thinks that she is safe being married. I would! Imagine how much it would hurt her to find out because she contracted an STD because he was unfaithful.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (1 August 2008):
Yes, I think you should let your sister know. Besides the fact that it was with your brother, her husband could be fooling around with other men as well. I'm sure it's tough, being that you love both your brother and sister, but she needs to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Oh sweetie... I am so sorry that you are carrying such a heavy burden. But your sister must be told the truth. She has to be told... It isn't fair for her to be living a lie of a marriage...Not to mention that your brother is the one to instigated this. Please know that I will be Praying for you.. Please let me know how it turns out.
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