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writes:i seriously need help... my best friend has pretty much fallen in love with a idiot. he treats her like shit, and they don't even go out. he is so mean to her and her friends. and he even told her that he talks to other girls like that and he's going to go out with one of his exes next school year. it's so hard for her to get over him because she fell so hard and so fast for him. but since the day she met him he's treated her like crap and it's really messed up. i've been trying everything to help her out and get over it and it seems like there's nothnig i can do to make her get over him.. she told me that she promises me that she'll get over him and do whatever it takes. i just don't know what more to do.. and it seriously makes me so upset. i literally started crying tonight when i really thought about it. everyone is all like shut up and get over him. but i get it now.. i get how she feels and its like i feel it too.. i hate seeing her upset every day of her life over a guy like this.. so what can i do to help her out more.. i really want things to be happy and all good. thanks so much, sorry for being so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): i know exactly what your friend is going through. i myself am in love with a jerk, i hate him but at the same time i cant stop thinking about him. i fell too hard & too fast for him, and he always gets mad at me for the stupidest things. i dont even realize why im in love with him, hes a jerk. but there is something about him, something that has blinded me. it is harder to get over him them to forget him, & other guys dont help. this summer i tried so hard to forget him, but regardless of the guys ive been with, it just makes me want to be with him more. he is so dumb! he makes me so angry, we liked eachother for the longest time, but at first i just liked the chase. now that i actually fell for him i think that he is the one that likes being chased. all my friends have really serious relationships & that does not help too much either, seeing all your friends so happy with another person it just makes you want that too. & then you realize that the only person that you want to be with is him, it just hurts that much more. i have been trying my hardest to get over him, i tell myself that i have, but im lieing. . .
; im waiting for something that i know may never happen, so is your friend, so is everyone that has fallen for a guy that doesn't even care.
-- - i know for a fact that he is a sweet guy that could be an awesome boy friend,when we fall for guys like this, we realize things about him that the world does not. we see him for the good things & not the bad. my friends continueussly tell me that hes a jerk & i can do so much better, but i dont want better i want him, & i wont have anyone but him, im in love with him & there is nothing that i can do, i have fallen & only when im ready i will get up again. . .
& this is how your friend feels, dont try and help her get up, she will on her own, when she is ready, but for now, just help her along the way, she needs friends like you.
. . . i hope this helped you understand, it helped me to get it all out. thanks & i wish your friend all the luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): thank you so much, you don't know how much it means to me. i'm always there for my friends no matter what. and i'll help her get through this the best i can. thanks again! :)
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 what a good friend you are, i'm glad.
well first of all if your friend is in love then is not going to be easy to move on because in her mind she wants to get over him and she knows he treats her bad, but in her heart she is completly blind so its kinda hard to follow your mind over your heart.
One thing you can do as a friend is setting her up with somenone else, i mean if she gets her heart into another guy then it would be much more easier.
You can also try to clear her mind, like asking her out to some partys or going shopping, doing fun things.
i hope this helps, just keep supporting her. I guess she really needs you right now. good luck
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 July 2008):
Aww, you're a good friend. But there's nothing you can really do besides just be there for her. She's going to have to get over him on her own. Things just take time. So the best thing you can do for her is be there for her: talking on the phone and hanging out. The best way for her to get over a breakup is to spend her time with friends and to keep her mind off of him. It's hard, but after some time...about a month, she'll get over him. Just make sure she doesn't talk to him AT ALL!
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