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*olidus
writes:Awwwwww, I totally missed out today! At my job this insanely hot girl who kept smiling at me came into the store and I didn't ask for her number, but another guy who also works there asked and she gave it to him! Now I'm here wallowing in regret! After he got her number suddenly I knew all the right words I should have said but didn't have the nerve to! He's supposed to call her sometime today, then I'm going to call him later and see how everything went. This ate at me so much that I even searched for her on myspace and facebook but to no avail. I didn't find her. Man, I'm just so disappointed in myself! If she comes in again should I try my luck or did I lose out for all time on the prettiest girl I've ever seen in my life?
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reader, Solidus +, writes (10 August 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question haha, yeah...I totally feel what you're saying. And I wasn't going say you're gorgeous exactly. I just meant that just for instance...lol Lemme try and paraphrase a general outline of what I'm thinking of saying IF she does respond and that really WAS her who I saw.
"yeah, I thought that might have been you I saw but I wasn't completely sure. I know this might seem strange, and please let me know if I'm out of order for stepping to you this way. I've just seen you come in a few times and always thought you had a really pretty smile. admittedly, I was too shy to introduce myself properly and my associate approached you first. Nevertheless, I felt compelled to look you up.
Not trying to pressure you or anything, I just wanted to say say hello and maybe learn a little more about you."
so...........
Yay or Nay? Feel free to throw in some suggestions and tell me some stuff I should or shouldn't say. I mean, this is all hypothetical of course and hinges on whether or not she was the girl and writes back at all...but like a wise man said, Victory is in the preparation. And alls fair in love and war.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 I don't think it's a great idea that you tell her straight up that you think she's gorgeous.
It's ifs and buts but what happens if she doesn't feel the same? It will make thinks awkward for her and she probably won't go near you when she is next in.
To be honest, I don't really know what you can say if she does reply back....but giving her a massive emotional meal like "I think you're gorgeous" will probably make her uncomfortable; she could think of it as sweet of you to go to that trouble to find her...or she could think you're a creep and trying to stalk her....with women it is usually the latter....even though you are doing it for the first reason.
Don't act as if she's your destination...if she thinks she is your only focus she will likely run away from you.
Say something to keep her guessing...a mild compliment maybe. Something like "i was just curious who's nice smile it was" something like that...give her crumbs; not a banquet.
Good luck Raiden ;)
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reader, Solidus +, writes (10 August 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHah! I just liked Solidus better. Just thought it had a certain Panache!
And as for me and my friend, we aren't super close. We just work together and talk at work. He called me round 1am and told me he plans on making her his g/f and that I'm not allowed to talk to her. He's trying to take her out before he goes of to college in a week.
Early this morning I actually do think I found her on facebook and just asked if that was her who I saw in the store. If she writes back and that was her...I'm just going to tell her that I think she's really gorgeous and that I was super shy when I first saw her. And that since I can't go back in time sending her a friendly message is the best I can do.
After reading what pinktopaz said now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't have sent her a message! Anywayz, its too late now so I'll let the cards fall where they may. Personally, I would think it was kind of flattering if a shy girl went through all the trouble of finding me just to say "I think you're cool"
But then again I'm totally biased! LOL What do you guys think?
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reader, saltwater +, writes (10 August 2008):
Firsty...Solidus? Why not Solid Snake..? :PSecondly, just go for it if she comes around again. I know how you feel...I missed out on a girl I really liked at work who moved away. It then later transpired that she fancied me as well...I was so annoyed!So don't miss out next time!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (10 August 2008):
If you find out that things don't work out between your friend and that girl, you definitely should give it a try. Maybe it's a good thing that you didn't find her on myspace because she might be freaked out if you contacted her. Just wait and see how things went and hopefully you'll run into her again. Also remember that there's plenty of fish in the sea. There will be lots of pretty girls. And who knows? Maybe she has an awful personality and your friend spared you from a psycho! Just try to look on the bright side ;)
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reader, Solidus +, writes (10 August 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've only seen her once before in the store a few months ago she was with her family and buying underwear so I didn't talk to her because that would have been kind of awkward. Although she did smile at me a lot. Then a few days ago I saw her mother and grandmother in the store without her. Then today she came in with them!
If she comes in again I totally have to step my game up and go for it. I called my friend and he didn't answer, so who knows if he's called her or not. Man, I bet I'm going to have to wait another month before she comes on my shift...or just my luck she'll come in when I'm not working...oh well, this was definitely a learning experience I won't soon forget.
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